Sleeping during the day and up during the night

User - posted on 02/18/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




my baby is 3 months.And he still has his days and nights mixed up.How do i fix that?


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Trish - posted on 02/18/2010




A midwife once told me to wake the baby after a few minutes sleep and try to keep the baby awake when it gets close to bed time. Feed the baby up as much as possible and keep stimulation to a minimum.. no noise, no bright lights and no play. Soft gentle cuddles and loving. Another tip that helped me was to help attatchment. THis is where you introduce an item like a blanket or toy that is for sleep time only. My daughter has a ducky and my son a blankie, and these are strictly for bedtime only. They stay on the bed/cot when the kids arent there and they 'wait' for bedtime cuddles. It worked great once the kids worked it out. Just so you know, both my kids do still wake during the night a few times, but mostly just to know Im still there and to have me locate thier sleep aid. I dont mind too much because I am very concerned with SIDS and I like to know theyre still alive :) I hope this helps you and I hope things get better for you :)

Marissa - posted on 02/18/2010




Heather, my son is 7 months old and is still up 2-4 times at night to feed. Any suggestions? I've tried the soother and just patting him and saying shh to get him to go back to sleep but he just cries and cries until I feed him then he goes right back to sleep. We have a pretty good routine during the day : up by 9, breastfeed in bed, play for a bit, have breakfast (cereal, fruit, whatever) then nap by 11 for 1-2 hours, play for a bit, nurse, lunch, sometimes another nap, sometimes a walk, play, nurse, dinner, play, every other day a bath, story, jammies, nurse to sleep by 10 at the latest. I know he's getting enough food during the day but he will not sleep through the night and I don't want to let him "cry it out". Just wondering if you had any suggestions because you seem sure that if they weigh 11lbs and get enough during the day they should be sleeping through the night. Thanks!

Heather - posted on 02/18/2010




I agree with Amanda, pick a time to start your day ours is 7am and then do a 3 hour schedule all day I change, feed and then play and then to bed awake. and then same at 10,1,4,6:45 and then straight to bed and then I do a dreamfeed at 10 and they sleep until I wake them at 7. If your baby isn't sleeping through the night wake them for every feeding during the day and then let them go as long as they can during the night. At first you might have to help them go a little longer in the night with a soother or what ever works for you. If you get on a good routine and your baby is eating enough calories during the day and weighs at least 11lbs you should have him sleeping through the night in the next couple weeks! Good luck.

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2010




Do you have your baby on a schedule yet? It really makes all the difference in the world. When your baby wakes feed first, then play for a bit then lay him or her down for a nap. Usually this routine at 3 months should be no longer than 3 hours...meaning your baby should eat every 3 hours. The playtime and naptimes can vary slightly as long as the feedings are consistent. 2-3 naps a day is what you're aiming for with plenty of feedings and playtimes in between. Wake your baby up from naps in order to keep the schedule! At night make sure your baby goes to bed with a full belly. A good bath, low lights, and relaxing music help sooth and prepare your little one for the long night and help him or her to understand the difference between naps and bedtime. When your baby wakes at night just do a quick diaper change, feed him or her and then right back to bed. No playtime at night, of course! This has worked well for both my kids so I hope it helps you out!

Emma - posted on 02/18/2010




A babies interenal clock doesn't click in until they are around 6 months. But I agree with Jasmine, keep it dark at night, bright and loud during the day. From the day I brought my son home, for surgery recovery reasons I was downstairs, but we kept it bright and loud during the day and at about 10 pm the lights went off and everything else got turned down. If your place is a little dark turn on the lights during the day, turn up the tv/stereo and pick a time to turn it all down. Eventually baby will get used to the schedule you are keeping.

Jasmine - posted on 02/18/2010




I was told to at night, keep it quite and dark, so if baby has to eat during the night maybe have a night light so you can see and then feed you baby, during the days keep it bright and loud! hope this helps

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