Venting my frustration...

Heather - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I don't really have much of a question, I just wanted somewhere to vent...I am a mother of 7 month old twin girls and during the week I am usually by myself during the daytime taking care of them. My mother-in-law is available to help, but I have to call her if I need help. The way I look at it...I'm one person taking care of two babies...any and every day I could use/need the help. As well, today has been a rough day as one twin was up at 3 in the morning and the other woke up at 5 in the morning...and this is unusual for both, so I haven't had much sleep. I think one of my twins is starting to teeth and that is just so frustrating because you don't know if she is or isn't. I feel sometimes that I get to the point where I understand how some of these moms get so frustrated with their child that something bad happens. I don't believe I will ever do that, but it is scary that these thoughts enter my mind.


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Leah - posted on 07/22/2009




I understand you are frustrated, but it is part of being a mom. If need be you may have to hire someone to come in and help, no offense but you can t expect everyone to stop what they are doing. You may also be suffering from the baby-blues or even post partum depression ( a more serious form of baby-blues). I know it can be hard but take a deep breath and just handle things day by day, and it is ok to ask for help, but dont expect everyone to come running everytime you call. If you really need more help you may just have to hire someone to come and help. Sorry if I offend you, didnt mean to, just telling u my advise.

Melisa - posted on 07/15/2009




Girlfriend your stronger than you think you made it to 7 months, wow, you're doing fine. I have just 1 child a 9month baby girl and I get real frustrated when she's always pulling things of the book shelf or putting every thing in her mouth but I've made it this far. One thing I've started doing was reading more often when ever she would take a nap, it has kept me sane and given me something else to think about and it is very relaxing. Have a nice day sweetie:)

Heather - posted on 07/14/2009




Oh my gosh...all these replies are first I contemplated whether to type this post out or not, but I'm glad that I did, cause it really makes me feel good that there are people out there that are complete strangers but are willing to help out and support me in my bad day. I want to thank everyone so much for the support and I will definitely be checking out the Circle of Moms more often (whether I need to vent or just to read about other mom's situations)...maybe we need a community on here called "Venting moms...or moms that need to vent" I'm sure it's a community where a lot of moms would join. Again, thank you so much for the responses and I will try my best to hold my head high and keep trudging along day after day...and I'll try to reach out for help more often too.

Melissa - posted on 07/14/2009




Hang in there! Don't be afraid to ask for help. I have nine month old twins, and I watch the clock for when my husband comes home. It helps to get out of the house, go see friends, or invite someone over. There are rough days, but then there are smiles and hugs that make it a great day. It is overwhelming, but so worth it!

Candice - posted on 07/14/2009




sleep deprivation is a horrible thing. i remember one night when my daughter hadn't slept AT ALL i was online looking how to give her up for adoption. sad, since her father and i were together at the time...i was just sure that HE wasn't going to take care of her, since he wasn't helping ME do it. you feel alone, and scared, and tired, and overwhelmed.

when you have those thoughts, it's time to call in reinforcements...just in case. better safe than sorry i say. so as not to end up "in the news". asking for help is HARD, but necessary. i had to call in everyone i knew in the first 6 months, just to survive. i can't IMAGINE having had twins to deal with. i would have lost my mind. i feel for you :)

Etta - posted on 07/14/2009




If we admit it or not, we all get frustrated and feel this way (especially when we're tired). Definitely ask those around you for help. Maybe set up a schedule where someone comes over for an hour or two so that you can get a little break or just have some company. As a stay at home mom of a toddler and a baby, I know it gets stressful and lonely. Visiting a moms group in your area can also help.

Kelly - posted on 07/14/2009




It's completely normal to feel that way, I think any sane person does at some point when you are so angry and feel so helpless you just want to explode and you have twice as much to deal with at once. Don't beat yourself up about it. I hope things get easier for you.

Veronica - posted on 07/14/2009




While I dont have twins I feel your pain. My youngest is teething, we just moved, my hubbys in the military with a heart conditon, and my middle one is going through the terrible 2s. Vent vent vent it will help I know because I do it all the time.

Maria - posted on 07/14/2009




If I lived close by I would like to help you. I have a 8 month old son, he has beed teething since he was 3 months old. I can't imagine taking care of twins. I had post partum depression, I was given medication from my dr. it really helped.

Its normal to feel that way, the fact that you can acknowledge these thoughts and share them means you wouldn't act on them. Get all the help you can get.

Deborah - posted on 07/14/2009




I know you're frustrated and thats nothing to feel guilty about. We have these communties on FB to do just this..VENT!! IF you need help dont be ashamed to ask for it. You know you need the help and most people know you need the help, as would anyone with twins..But maybe they dont want to intrude unless they are invited. So go ahead and call someone to come over and maybe you go outside on a walk for 30 minutes or so and just get out of the house. The scariest part of people having bad thoughts is that most of them never tell anyone! You are doing the right thing by venting and that doesnt make you a bad mom..just a frustrated one trying to deal..I hope you have better days in the near future and I will keep you and the girls in my prayers

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