what is ur opinion on dummies for settling?i have a 3 wk old and breastfeeding, my baby has colic!

Amie - posted on 05/03/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my 3 week old daughter has colic and gag reflux (where they gag but no vomit). she cries out alot and often has a belly ache and it can be quite difficult to settle her. I hold her close most of the day to comfort her which helps but she is often crying and mouthing or sucking anything near her mouth and winging until i put her to the breast which settles her immediately. I didnt want to introduce a dummy as i have ehard that the size difference of the dummy teat and shape compared to a nipple can confuse the baby and can interfere with successful breastfeeding but at the same time if it will comfort her and help her feel more secure more often (and allow me to actually get things done- not that i mind having the cuddles all day) I googled about infants and dummies and the information leads more to dummies having more of a disadvantage for younge infants but of course there is also the article they say babies can indeed bebefit from a dummy at any age. What advice can u give me please about this?

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Deirdre - posted on 05/05/2010

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hello i would use a dummy just to settle her - my daughter didn't have a dummy when she was born but my boy did only for settling - there is nothing with a dummy at all that is my opinion !

Heather - posted on 05/03/2010

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Also - I have heard that babies who fall asleep with a pacifier can have a reduced risk of SIDs, something about their tongue being more forward and opening up their airway, so that is one benefit :)

Heather - posted on 05/03/2010

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My little one is almost 6 weeks. We had no intention of giving her a pacifier, as we didn't want to cause nipple confusion. Well, let me tell you that lasted two days! :) She just wants to be sucking on something and if she doesn't have a pacifier she uses me - constantly! As it turns out, my fears of nipple confusion were totally unfounded, because her latch never suffered. A friend of mine had to give her little one bottles within the first few weeks and he did OK too. If she isn't having any problems with breastfeeding and her latch, I say try it out and keep a close eye on her latch - if it starts to suffer take her back off the pacifier. Also, I haven't tried the weirdly shaped ones made by Nuk, my daughter's pacifiers are made by the first years, and have a shape that is closer to an actual nipple, just longer. That may have something to do with it, so try using those. Good Luck!

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Olivia - posted on 05/06/2010

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I wouldn't risk breastfeeding for a dummy. After six weeks introduce it. Three more weeks is a very small span. If your daughter gets nipple confusion there could be even more crying. At this age, your body is still getting use to providing enough milk. Giving a baby a dummy at such a small age can reduce your milk supply. It is so easy to give a baby a dummy when they really need to nurse.

Melissa - posted on 05/05/2010

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I think there is a difference that a baby knows between a pacifier (dummy) and the breast. The breast gives food, a pacifier doesn't. Babies have a desire to suck, a pacifier soothes that desire and will calm a baby. We used one, but at 7 months started to wean my son off of it and by 8 months he no longer used it anymore. It was my choice to wean him, not his. I think, when used correctly, they are great!

Chelsea Cleo - posted on 05/05/2010

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I gave my daughter a dummy and it worked wonders. She also had a bit of colic and it seemed to soothe her very well.
Some people can get a bit funny about dummys but whatever works for you!
Id dip them in gold :D

Tarra - posted on 05/04/2010

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both my children have had dummys, my daughter was fully breast fed & didnt have a problem with nipple confusion, she was a major comfort sucker so we didnt really have a choice. my son has been bottle fed since around 2-3 months & he only takes the dummy while sleeping, and most of the time its only when hes really unsettled

Amie - posted on 05/03/2010

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wow thankyou everyone for your support you all have been very helpful and encouraging. I will give the dummy a go but as most of you have mentioned, i will only use it for sleeping and HOPEFULLY fingers crossed we both can get a couple more hours of sleep at night instead of an hour here half an hour there lol, poor little baby. I get a dummy today and try her out thankyou sooooo much everyone, i really appreciate your support xox

Kathy - posted on 05/03/2010

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Some babies just need to suck alot more than other babies... as long as you do like Marissa said and use the orthodontic ones they should be fine. I can't say about with breast feeding because I had issues latching and when I got her latching I had other issues and had to stop. To me if it helps them its better than the thumb, because in the end you can take it away, the thumb is attached you can't take that away! We mostly use one at nap & bedtime, and if shes upset I'll give her one while she snuggles too. Mines 7 1/2 months and no problems with it so far

Marissa - posted on 05/03/2010

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I think that as long as your breastfeeding is established (latching properly, etc) then it can be very beneficial to them. Babies are born with the instinct to suck and if it soothes her what's the harm? Especially if she has colic. I would be doing anything I could to help her feel settled. I would maybe just make sure you are getting the orthodontic dummies so it doesn't cause issues with her speech/teeth.

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2010

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My daughter had trouble getting her wind up but i started her on infacol when she was a month old worked like a dream. Also used Avent bottles and dummies. The dummy is great, she sleeps in a bassinet next to my bed and even though she cries when she wakes up in the morning if i stick her dummy back in i can sometimes get an extra couple of hours sleep. i cant wait till she is able to stick it back in herself. As a baby i had severe colic i was taken to a natropath i was told she fixed my colic within a couple of days which was lucky for me because my mother was at her wits end. Not sure exactly what she gave me but cammomile drops was one of the things.

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2010

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just as long as there's no funny sound when she sucks up that paci, that's fine.. sound means air passing into her mouth, another is crying means more air introduce in her tummy so as much as possible, try to calm her down.. and to lessen that tummy ache put baby oil on her tummy, baby oil should be warmed by your hands by causing both hands on friction, rubing them together. another is putting a warm small light towel or blanky on her tummy to keep it warm.. not too much or heavy blanky, cause it may cause SIDS.. try burping her as often as you could because burping doesnt only indicate to babies whom just had their milk, but also after a good cry. i hope that helped.! if youre feeding her with bottles, buy ones that are anti colic, i recommend AVENT, i had an experience like yours 3 straight days of sleepless nights and crying, but then, my inlaws bought her those, and it was effective.

Ashley - posted on 05/03/2010

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my youngest started out breastfed but had to go to a bottle .. long story short i had no milk .. but anyways we found that all she ever wanted to do was suck suck suck .. so we gave her a suckie it took her longer to be able to control that then anything but thats all that would calm her when she throw a fit the gerber nuk ones work the best for her but my oldest the advent ones that were rounded worked better for her .. anyways i would give it a try

Nikki - posted on 05/03/2010

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I felt the same way as you do, but I quickly changed my mind, I gave in and gave my daughter a dummy, luckily she didn't have any problems with nipple confusion. I also purchased the nuk brand, I didn't like the look of the cherry shaped ones. I found the dummy to really help, she slept better, it was easier to settle her which was such a relief. You may find if you decide to go for it that it will take a little time to get used to it, they can quite often refuse them for a few days. Like Heather said research suggests that having a dummy can slightly reduce the risk of SIDS which was a big positive for me. My daughter is 6 months old and only has her dummy in bed, because I don't want her to become dependant on it 24/7, children who use dummies all the time until they are toddlers can suffer with language development delays; but if they only have them in bed I don't think that it is much of a problem. Have you tried anything for the colic? I used Infacol which was really good, it really helped bring the wind up, also if you find that afternoon/evenings are worse, try feeding her more during this time and maybe a nice bath and some rocking, this always seem to work for my daughter. After speaking with a few friends who had babies with colic they said their babies like being in a swing, or in the car if they got really desperate, I found I never got to that point because the Infacol worked so well, it won't happen the first time you use it, you need to give it to them each feed (up to 8 times a day I think, check the bottle) and it will take a couple of days to kick in. You can get it in the chemist here in Australia. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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As long as you get a dummy that she is comfortable with you shouldnt have any problems with the whole confusion thing cause she will still know when she is hungry and that the dummy is not satisfying that need. My daughter was BF until 6 months and she also had a dummy. I just wish my boy had 1 as well cause he had colic but refused a dummy! we used the nuk ones as i found they were a nicer shape and more natural. Not saying that heather is wrong just that it is different for every mother and what they are comfortable with! :)

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