wot would u say is the best time to start tryin for a 2nd baby??


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Jackie - posted on 08/25/2009




I would say the best time is when you are ready. My children are 6 1/2 years apart and it has its challenges also. The age range between my children wasn't a choice. My youngest is now 5 1/2 and if we were actually looking to have a 3rd child. I wouldn't even begin trying. Each child is different and each experience in the younger years are different. My youngest has been such a handful medically, emotionally, physically... I like to jokingly say "if he was a first born he would be an only born" but in reality its pretty much true! So what i'm saying is if your family is ready to take on a new born again then its time! There is no right or wrong answer to your question.

Isabela - posted on 08/25/2009




I keep getting told 3 is the best age, so when your first hits that age it gives you plenty of time to educate and teach the older child about the new baby and such so that he/she will be prepared for the new bundle of joy, no matter what there's going to be jealousy issues, but If your child is near 4 or so by the time the baby is here, you have preschool time for her/him so you have some day time with the baby, then when he/she is done you can have bonding time with everyone as a whole. My Daughter is 5 years younger than her Aunt and well she doesn't like that her attention went elsewhere however she does like to help bathe and change nappies. Her Brother (my fiance) is 15 years older than her and that was way too much of an age difference. Either way it's up to you, and I wish you the best, when you're ready you should feel it :) Best of luck

Erica - posted on 08/25/2009




I think when your first one is a bit more independant then you don't have so much work on your hands. If you have two young children it can be hard work and stressfull but if your first one is already on his/her way to independence i think that would be the right time to start.

Mel - posted on 08/24/2009




im only pregnant with my first so i don't know, but the way i plan to have a second (if i want one after the first) is to wait until my first baby is walking talking potty trained and eating solids that way the first baby wont miss out on the important stuff.

i think if you dont wait it makes it harder as baby number 1 will get frustrated and jelous about baby number 2 still doing things like wearing a nappy or being picked up all of the time and this will slow the learning curve

Kayleigh - posted on 08/24/2009




hiya elousie is 14mnths now i feel ready for another but just worried that maybe i will ahve to much on my plate.. thanx u michelle

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2009




i had my 2nd baby when my oldest was 3 & 1/2 it was awesome! she was on a developmental level that she was on her way of independence yet still needed me, but not too needy. she's a grear big-sister and LOVES her little brother. Good luck to you!

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