Does anyone have advice on parenting a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

Chana - posted on 10/22/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 10-year-old son was diagnosed several years ago. It is impossible to motivate him. Some days in school he participates and does very well. Other days he just sits there doing nothing. He won't even participate in therapy and his father refuses to enforce anything our son is told to do (except for his religious obligations). I had him in therapy and refused to even go into the office or talk to the therapist. He wanted to take karate lessons. He promised he would attend. I payed for the classes, sacrificing my budget. When the class started, refused to go. His father does nothing, indicating that he doesn't want to "force" our son to do something he doesn't want to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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Michelle - posted on 10/22/2012

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Kids with odd need things to be black and white there is no room for choice as they will always choose what you don't want it is agravating and they miss out because of it. Your childs father needs to go and talk to the counselor as well to learn how to parent a child like your son as they are not like other children and do need to be dealt with in a different manner. Is he on meds my son takes rispiridone for his and does amazingly well I only have issues with him for about an hour in the morning and he is good til bedtime. He is involved in both school and extra curricular activities.

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Michelle - posted on 10/24/2012

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I have a 15 y/o who has been like this since he was about 10. If I say its light outside ,he says no its not its dark. If I tell him no - he freaks out cussing,screaming being totally out of control. Its like I can look into his eyes and he is gone. He struggles in school, he loves to socialize and play sports. But if its something he is not interested in forget it. I have been looking for a group to join, with parents of children with ODD.My son is very argumentive, he could be as wrong as the day is long, and will not admit it. He will argue until sometimes I am questioning myself. His father and I feel very alone. We don't have relatives or friends who can begin to understand, everyone is very good at judging us. Saying things like its our fault, or he is just bad. Please any advice would greatly be appreciated.

Chana - posted on 10/22/2012

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Thank you, that's good advice. We have tried so many meds, from abilify to ritalin. We are trying to find a way to get him back in therapy.

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