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Jenn - posted on 01/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm really looking for an honest debate here or even some really good input on this topic. Here's the story:

BM first started our SS's on games when they were 3 & 4 years old by buying them Gameboy Advances. Then, when they turned 7 & 8, she gets them a DS each. Now, they're 9 & 10 and she's gone and bought them a Wii each. My issue is that she's claiming it's MY fault the kids are addicted to games because I used to play. Hmmm.... judging by the many systems she has purchased over the years, it seems to me that's not the case at all seeing as I only met the kids when they were 4 & 5 (turning 6). BM claims that the boys should be allowed to play whenever they want because it's holidays or they're kids so it's ok but if you knew what they were playing and how they're behaving when they're not allowed to play, it's ridiculous.

Now, the issue at hand is how often our SS's play. At their BM's place, she allows them to play as often and for as long as they want claiming that helping to make dinner once a week is enough help to earn all that time and play. Here, they have to do chores to earn time. Certain chores are worth 15 min, others more or less. This way, we know that they usually only get an hour a day max since they always run out of things to do for time. Plus, when they disobey or are rude/disrespectful, they lose their privileged of playing all together.

Lately, our SS's have been trying to manipulate both households by saying that they're never allowed to play here and that we're being too hard on them but all they ever want to do is play COD Black Ops which is for ages 17 & UP!! Not for 9 & 10 year olds. They play those games because BM's boyfriend plays them 24/7. I'm so tired of having them act like brats since we have rules here and they don't there. I honestly don't know what to do anymore and am thinking this house might become a no game zone for the next little while. Any suggestions??

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Ashley - posted on 01/10/2012

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Im sorry thats tough the only thing i can say is inforce your house your rules and nothing will change that. As for bm she is only allowing them to do what they want because she is the ''good mom'' which we both no the answer to that.

Ashley - posted on 01/10/2012

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I agree with you take out all videio games and replace with board games and send them OUT SIDE, im so tired of kids being locked up, my sugestion go get them some old tools hamers nails saws screw drivers and some wood, tell them to make a fort, that was my funnest memory building stuff with my brothers there old enough im not sure where you live and what your winters are like but if its snowy give them some sleds or trash bags lol, build a snow fort, when i was that age i was sent out side in the morning and dident come back till dinner and we loved it. thats what being a kid is suppost to be like. As for the dramma there going to lay on you forget it at least your giving them a chance to have some childhood memerys because when they look back and all they did was play vidio games its not going to be good. I hope things work out for you best of luck

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Jenn - posted on 01/11/2012

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Oh I know all about that. I'm always the one who has to be "Mean Mom" since BM has to be the one they love. I really don't care if they like me or what I do since this is my house and if they want to be able to come and spend time with this side of the family, then they need to abide by the rules and be respectful. If they chose not to, then they can stay at BM's house. I'm just so tired of them looking like zombies when they arrive here. It's ridiculous.

Jenn - posted on 01/10/2012

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See, this past weekend was the perfect example of how little BM cares what her kids. Our oldest SS's was allowed (by BM) to stay at his friends house for 3 days straight and do nothing but play video games. According to the friends Gramma, they barely slept and always had a screen in their faces. So, when he finally came over to our place, he was miserable and nasty to everyone from lack of sleep and also had a headache from staring at the screens for so long. So, they were told that there wouldn't be games for a while since BM called them her babysitter for the longest time. So, in hearing this comment (about babysitter) our SS's tell their Mom we said that and now I have her breathing down my neck about talking behing people's backs when in reality it was her comment to begin with. Oh trust me, I send them outside all the time and since the oldes SS was so tired and cranky, he tried everything to not have to go outside, including crying to his BM on the phone that nobody was being nice to him, keep in mind he's 10 and a master manipulator) so she tells him not to worry about it and that he can do whatever he wants when he goes home... I mean, HELLO?? Is there a parent in that house????

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