The Alienated Step-Mom

A blog supporting blended families dealing with Parental Alienation Syndrome and the effects of Hostile Agressive Parenting.

What aspect of being in a blended family has surprised you?

I think the issue that has surprised me how the mother of my step-daughter has been able to control our family and try to hold us in "bondage" with her alienation of my step-daughter.

What's a good tip for preventing sibling rivalry?

Treat them all fair.

What's one piece of advice you'd give to moms who are about to become part of a blended family?

Be completely honest BEFORE becoming one family. Live with the understanding that ALL the children have been through hell and that there is not one who should be treated with "kid gloves" or with special treatment. When there are children from two different families they all need to have the assurance and recognition that they matter. Conduct Family Meetings on a regular basis. Be a united front with your partner and do NOT allow the ex-partner to dictate what is going to happen in your home. They can have rules in their own home, but the guidelines you have for your own family need to be yours and yours alone. Double standards will not create harmony and peace.

What is the best place to raise children: city, suburbs, or a rural town?

Brooke Secretan

I have lived in several places with my family, however; I really think that a place that allows your children to have the freedom to be outside, play with their friends, and access a life that creates memories is the best place. I guess I would think that the suburbs and rural towns facilitate that best.
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