Every Bitter Thing is Sweet


A dream that we had to adopt, birthed when we were young and had eyes full of great expectations for our life, happened in a way we didn’t quite anticipate.

But like any move of God, it was better than expected.

Sara is a winner of Top 25 Adoption Blogs by Parents

Why did you decide to adopt?

Early in our marriage we lived on the farm of some friends while our house was being built. Living there, we first witnessed the beauty of a blended family -- which allured us into the notion of adoption.

They adopted a child from Bulgaria when she was 18 months, and another daughter from Russia when she was eight. And God used our window into the lives of this family-of-seven (now eight) to give us a vision for adoption. Their children who had been adopted molded into their fold, no different than their biological children. Love was messy, but it was clearly fun.

We said "one day, Lord" like so many who assumed they would conceive the day after they decided to start "trying."

Years later, we realized His first-best plan for us was adoption, and once the possibility that it might be *now* crossed our minds, we didn't look back.

And after adopting our first two from Ethiopia, we were sold on the notion that giving fatherless children a family might just be our life-calling.

What was the biggest challenge or hurdle you faced in the adoption process?

My own fears.

With now two adoptions, two countries and four children under our belt, I can say with history that every single one of our hurdles or setbacks -- both tangibly and mentally -- all had varying levels of impact on my heart, related to my own fear.

You see, I think many, like me, start the adoption process believing they are going to save a broken-heart, and then we miss God's agenda to mend our own broken hearts through the process.

Every single setback, every one of our hurdles, was all for the glory of God in our lives. There was beauty which came forth from each impasse. That said, the pain I felt in relation to those hurdles and setbacks was directly linked to the fears in my own heart from which God wanted me to be free.

Adoption is multi-layered. God works every angle -- in their hearts and ours. This is part of why I love it so much.

When and how did you (or will you) tell your child they were adopted?

Unfortunately -- or fortunately -- we aren't exactly inconspicuous, internally or to the outsider! Adoption is in our DNA and, for better or for worse, we've talked about it with our children and referenced it just as much as you would with a child who wants to hear about the day they were born -- again and again.

God's re-writing on their lives is the testimony we all breathe. Daily. So we have fun with it. My children's pretend-play is often centered around adopting babies from orphanages, in the same way a child who is raised in their biological family might pretend that they are the mommy who is pregnant again.

We tell His story in many ways. On many different levels. Because it is so good.