Modern Single Mum

Have you ever woken up with food in your bed or witnessed a toddler swear? I'm a single mum who juggles parenthood, my career and dating. Every day is a giggle!

Naomi is a winner of Top 25 Single Moms - 2013

What's the biggest misconception people have about single parenting?

The biggest misconception is that as a single mum you couldn't possibly work a full time job! You also must have no time or other interests outside of parenting. Although my son is the centre of my universe I am in no way defined solely as a mum. I work, I exercise, I am a member of a choir, I write a blog, I'm writing a book, I socialise when I can and I've just completed a 6k run for charity raising over £800 as part of a team. It's important to make time for your own interests and your own 'me' time so that you can project positive energy towards your children. The majority of your time outside of work is focussed on them. It's important to project yourself as a role model with a positive attitude because children will do what they do best: imitate.

What's the most rewarding thing about being a single parent?

The most rewarding element for me is that I don't have to share reading the bedtime story every night! Which means I can perfect the silly voices I use for each character. Why would I want to share that delight? My favourite part of the day is when I'm back at home with my boy after a trying day at work. I'm exhausted and demotivated but he injects a bolt of enthusiasm and encouragement, which is a welcome reminder of why I continue to work hard and value the time I do spend with him.

What's the most important thing being a single parent has taught you?

It's taught me about budgeting and saving for the future. I have learnt how to ask the question "Do I need this?" when purchasing things. The financial strain is one of the hardest areas to manage as a single parent but it can be done if you are strict.
I was always involved in a lot of extracurricular activities as a child and I expect to encourage my son to do the same. These hobbies don't necessarily come cheap. I think it’s important to give him access to a wide range of skills and disciplines in order to help catapult him into adulthood with some basic grounding. He can then make an informed decision about what areas he wishes to expand in and what he enjoys. Therefore, saving for ballet shoes or rugby shorts has to be done whilst ensuring all the monthly bills are covered too.