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The Pepperific Life

a blog about the highs and lows of being a single mom. offers bits and pieces of advice on raising a kid alone.

Pepper is a winner of Top 25 Single Moms - 2013

What's the biggest misconception people have about single parenting?

I don't know exactly. Maybe it's that we single moms got knocked up pretty bad, that's why we have kids out of wedlock. But we each have our own story. We are where we're at right now because of varying circumstances. It's unfair to judge us.

What's the most rewarding thing about being a single parent?

Seeing my daughter thrive physically, emotionally and mentally makes all the hardships of being a single parent well worth it. When she's happy, I'm happy.

What's the most important thing being a single parent has taught you?

I learned that I can't do it all by myself. It's alright for us single parents to ask for help when needed.

What special skills do single moms have that new moms would benefit from knowing?

Pepper Tan

Most single moms seem to have perfected the art of hiding their emotions from their kids. We are only human. Our hearts break...we cry buckets- oftentimes in the bathroom, without our children knowing. We have to be the bastion of emotional strength for our kids, as they have nobody to look up to but us. When we're having a bad day, we can't just sulk and lock ourselves up in the bedroom. We have chores to do and our kids' needs- emotional and physical- to attend to. There's nobody else we can tag to be our substitute even for a few hours.
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