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Pauline is a winner of Top 25 Moms with Blended Families - 2012

What aspect of being in a blended family has surprised you?

The amount of laundry that I now do, and how quickly it accumulates!

What's a good tip for preventing sibling rivalry?

Well, one of my children is in boarding school, which has eliminated most of the sibling rivalry! Outside of that, separate favorite items -- DS's, scooters -- prevent squabbles. We are blessed that the two kids still at home are easy-going by nature. But as a stepparent, you need to be mindful of treating your stepkid the same as your bio kid.

What's one piece of advice you'd give to moms who are about to become part of a blended family?

Do not critique your new spouse's parenting or interactions with his ex! Your job is to support your spouse in his parenting and co-parenting -- espcially when the ex is difficult.