Sunny Patch Cottage

Life with the Abellas, living with children who have various special needs, and having a budget friendly handmade life.

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Why is the stay-at-home vs. working moms debate so passionate?

Angie Abella

Honestly, it seems like those who are out in the workforce see those of us who aren't, as lazy women who do nothing but eat bon bons and watch tv. Many see us as those who just do nothing all day. In my home, I am a stay at home mom. I also sew and earn extra money to help our family's needs. I cook from scratch (much cheaper than buying box meals and processed foods and eating out). I make my soaps for laundry and house cleaning (takes all of about 10 minutes, saves a ton of money). I sew our clothing for myself and stepdaughter as well as for sale. I use a washboard and handwash our clothing (saves $ for no washer/dryer and the cost of electricity to run them by using a line during nice days and racks on cold/wet days). Some years I do farmer's market, baking breads, pies, rolls, etc for sale to earn as much in one day as I would using my CNA in a week. Basically, at the end of the day of housework, tending 3 special needs children (they are in school, but there's daily phone calls and homework and meals and the daily things kids need), cooking, sewing, mending, yard work, tending a garden (that I started myself), doing the yard work, I am as tired as someone who's been working a 9-5, if not more. I work 12 to 17 hours a day. I don't usually get a paycheck (only for sewing and baking)...but what I do helps us save money and make our income stretch farther than if I worked outside the house. At times I think it's a jealousy issue on either side. Seriously. Some homemakers want to go to the outside work world, some from the outside work world want to come home. I used to work outside, as a single mom, in order to provide all the income for my son and I. That was the most miserable time of my life, and I missed out on so much of his developmental years.
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