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Why is the stay-at-home vs. working moms debate so passionate?

Traci Whitney

It's all about mommy guilt, it's a never ending circle of questioning our decisions - is it better to stay at home with the kids and nurture them, or am I being a better role model by being a working mom? Am I neglecting my kids by being at work, or am I smothering them by being at home? It's horrible, what we do to ourselves. I'm lucky enough that I can work at home, and most people would think I have the best of both worlds, but there are different kinds of pressure that go along with this as well. I made the decision to work, but not until my kids were about 18 months old, and still it was at home, but they did go to daycare part time. Without my work I would have felt lost, and that was just a personal decision. Each time it's a personal decision, and each time it's right for that person. I was always envious of my cousin who stayed at home with her kids, I never could have been that good at it, and she was envious of women in her life that went to work. We all do what we have to do, and I wish that we didn't necessarily see the grass being greener on the other side, but that's human nature, and also the pressure that society has put on us in this in-between sort of state of having grown up with a lot of stay at home moms, but being expected to earn an income as well.
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