MY SON ONE HE HIT ME AND BITES ME AND YELL AT ME

Erin - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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HOW TO STOP A ONE YEAR OLD TO STOP HITEING AND BITEING ME

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Susanna - posted on 01/27/2010

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Oh that is terrible!!! How old is your son? If he is around 2 years old this is typical but unacceptable behaviour. When he hits you or bits you, Take him gentally by the hand and get down to his eye level and tell him "mummy doesnt like it when you hit her and bite her, It hurts mummy, and if you hit or bite mummy again I will have to put you on a norty chair for time out." (usually 2 minutes for a 2 year old, time =age) It is going to be very hard and he will fight you on it. You must be consistant and follow through, each time he gets up put him back onto the chair to complete the time out. Once the time out is complete have a chat with him about punishment and that when we do the wrong thing we have to be diciplined. Let him contribute to the conversation and own his actions. Good Luck

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Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2011

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hes 1 so its hard having a convo with a 1 year old is usually not very 2 sided i would def let him know tho that noone wants to hold you or play with you while doing that it sounds like he may be low sensory sounds backward i know but low sensory kids tend to be high impact children you know the one that runs into the back of your knees over and over again..sometimes pressure can make them feel better like putting two pillows one on each side of them and giving them big bear hugs...the central nervous system resets itself when you do that (thats why most of us love cuddles) but some whos sensory input is low need more reset times...just a thought..:)

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

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The simple answer is that a one year old child will lash out when they are frustrated. Try & figure out what and or who is frustrating them. Other than that I would say simply follow the advice of Susanna.


When it comes to older children that act out hitting and biting I would say its because they have learned somewhere that the behavior is acceptable. If the child is hitting and biting you I would say that somewhere along the way the child learned it was ok to disrespect and hurt/ harm you. This would be the first issue that would need to be addressed. As in who has the child seen or heard hurt you/mommy. Second I would address the obvious concern that goes along with learned behavior. Even if you remove the abusive person from yourself & the child the behavior has already been learned. The child would then need to work through their own anger and frustration towards mom not being strong enough to protect themselves. Thereby the child feeling to some extent a loss of protection. The behavior could be stopped through visual aids and consistency. The child and mom should be around people that are vocal about their concern and love towards mom. For example "Don't hit your mommy she is my sister/friend & I love her to". Then by calmly following up the issue by removing yourself from the child. This will teach the child that if you hit someone or bit them they will leave thus teaching boundaries and acceptable behavior. When the situation has calmed down you can always go back and say you are being put on this time out for your unacceptable behavior. In the direct tantrum the child will not be able to comprehend that. Only that their power is being taken away like they saw your power taken away this exacerbating the tantrum. It is best to put them on a time out when they are calm enough to comprehend.

Stacey - posted on 04/05/2010

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mabe it me but i think it normal for kids to go through this mabe he teethin still mite be getin his bac teeth my daughter is two but she did the same thing wen she was 1 this sounds really mean but i bite her bac not hard but she didnt lik it n evently stopped dont wory hun they all go through fazes

Sherri - posted on 03/06/2010

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There also may be something that you're doing or not doing, or he may be seeing this from other people. Children, especialy at one years old, doesnt know what hitting or biting is. They need to see it or have it done to them in turn. A child isnt going to say the word "Shit" unless it was heard and he/she repeats is. Check your surroundings and the people who watch him or are around him and make sure that they're not doing it to him. Cause people may be being gentle to him/her about it, but a 1 year old doesnt know how to be "gentle" or "mean" about it either. My question though is, is he doing it out of anger, or is he trying to play but just doesnt know when "too far" is too far. If it's out of anger, then it's because someone is doing it to him.

Casey - posted on 02/13/2010

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Set him in time out. Seriously. Make a "no fun" spot in each room and when he does these things set him down, say "no, that hurts" and turn your back and walk a few steps (not too far, just far enough he's not getting direct attention). Pretend to be interested or working on something else. After about a minute go back to him, if he's old enough ask him to say sorry, and give him a big hug.

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