Two men that are worthless

Ashlee - posted on 01/09/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Im doing a paternity test to see whos the father of my child, and both men are worthless. The only reason im doing this is for child support and to see if the guy really cares about me son. Josh is always lieing to me and saying he loves me and clayton is always in trouble with the law. right now hes doing time until 2013, what is the best way to handle all the stress? My number one priority is my son, whos two months old.

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Amanda - posted on 09/24/2010

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Find a man who treats you and your son right. Obviously neither of them were ready to be Dads and shouldn't be given the opportunity.

Danielle - posted on 08/15/2010

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get the test but if there both not good for u kid then do whats right for the baby n make them straighten out first

Melaura - posted on 08/14/2010

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Forget about the guys until your child asks where his father is. Don't ever lie to your son but youu don't need drama in his life.

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as a person who has growen up never knowing who my father is has always buged me and if i can say anything it would be to find out who is the father for your son sake and move on my daughters father never gave me a cent of child support. I worked my ass off and gave my daughter the best life i could which at times didnt feel like much but let me tell you now that she is 18 she loves me so much and understand all i have did for her and it was all worth it just to here her say i was the best mom and dad she could of ever had.So keep that in mind they do grow up someday and will no who is there parent best of luck

Christine - posted on 02/22/2010

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id get it done so ur son at least has a name when he is older, he has the right to know and noone has the right to hold that away from him...its hard to do but id get it done ad leave things like that at i totally agree with the above ladys ur not gonna get a penny and the stress and annoyance just aint worth it believe me!! the good thing is that your son is so young that you have every opportunity to mould ur son into a good man without these dead beats so move on with ur life its only better from here on in...best off luck x

Erin - posted on 01/17/2010

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They both sound worthless as tits on a boar. You will bypass a ton of drama by not even sweating the paternity and telling your son that his daddy is gone when he gets older. You can do the paternity and chase they boys around until your son is 18, but where will it get you? Probably the same place you are now.....stressed to the gills. Drop em both and call it a night. Concentrate on the baby and give him everything you can and raise him to the best of your ability to be a good man and to be responsible.

Kim - posted on 01/17/2010

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You know if both men are worthless You will prob never see the child support in the first place. Think of what's best for your baby boy not the money you "might" receive from one of these losers!

Glory - posted on 01/17/2010

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If they are both worthless...why bother...if one is going to jail...you are not going to get a penny, only a headache....why introduce your son to any of these guys

Lori - posted on 01/14/2010

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Take care of your son. I've been married and divorced twice from dead beats. I raised all 5 children on my own. Support was ordered but never enforced you'll waste too much time chasing them for money when you can utilize that time to make a living for you and your son.

Krystle - posted on 01/12/2010

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hon, you need to goahead with the paternity test but not for child support reasons or husband reasons. they both suck and would more than likely never pay it. keep the test results so ur child will know where they biologically come from, its always a big issue with them when they grow up. they NEED to know. move on, if u dont have a job get one, if u do have one, find out about free programs like WIC, im on that. free deals, become a sales shopper, buy things in bulk, put away whatever you can save for your child, its about him and no one else now. i work full time, have a 2.5 month old and a hubby who does nothing, i make less than 30,000 a year before taxes. i have my baby a savings account, dminttedly i only put 10 bucks a month in it, but it adds up eventually. i have no luxieries i dont absoutely need, i make them a treat every now and then, i appreciate those things more now. its about my girl now as it should be for u. so forget them both, rethink ur piorities in men, and fine a truely good one, no criminal backgrond, no lazy asses. men dont change for anyone, they say they will, but its never enough to make it work it.

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