A very bad day

Tess - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




I recently posted about my hubby's backbiting family...right now I just feel stupid for getting upset by it. I am so incredibly blessed - I have a wonderful husband and a beautiful son and a great family. Today is a very difficult day. My son was born on March 4th of last year. Eleven days after he was born, my brother was killed in a car accident. He was full-time military and he was riding to work with his commanding officer in Colorado Springs. Their vehicle slid on black ice and caused them to end up in the opposite lane of traffic in the path of a semi. They were both killed. His commanding officer left a wife and three boys - he was a little league coach and a good man. My brother was amazing. He and his wife had been married for 13 years before they had their first child - a son. Their son was just a few days shy of 5 months old when he was killed. My brother was a wonderful husband and father and he was so happy and proud. They had been here - in Arkansas - at Christmas and he walked the floor with Grayer when he cried and changed diapers and did anything and everything for his wife and baby.

We were very close. When I decided to get married, I didn't care anything about planning the wedding, but one thing I wanted was for my brother to get ordained on the internet and perform our wedding ceremony. He did and it was beautiful. He actually came down the week before the wedding and stayed with my (now) hubby and I and counseled us and got to know him to make sure he was "good enough for his sister". His wife couldn't come to the wedding because she was too close to delivery, but she was glad it was over because he kept joking that he "was coming to Arkansas to marry his sister". LOL.

I had a hard time when my son was born. My c-section scar broke open and I had to get re-stapled. I was due to get the new staples taken out the day I found out he was gone. My entire family is still grieving and we will never be the same. Trey's (my brother) sweet wife sent out a huge email to all friends and family and asked that we all perform an act of kindness today in Trey's honor. My brother was one of those people that was always helping others. He carried food and water in his vehicle and gave it out to people who needed it. He helped elderly people with their groceries and always opened the door for everyone. He worked with soldiers who returned from Iraq and Afghanistan and stayed with them when there was a suicide watch and counseled them and tried to make it easier for them. He was a good man. He was 32 when he died.

I know you don't know me and you didn't know him, but I ask you all to perform an act of kindness in Trey's memory. My current profile picture is him. If you pray - please pray for my family - especially his sweet wife and his son who will never get to know him. I guess I just needed to talk about him. Thank you for listening. Don't forget to say I love you - because you just never know.


Amy - posted on 03/15/2011




I'm so sorry for your loss, I will definitely do something in memory of your brother. If he were here today I would thank him for his service, you should be very proud of him!

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