Advice on nursing baby to sleep

Marie - posted on 03/21/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )




Hello all! I have a 6 month old son who is bf and just started solids. And I am just wondering all the moms out there if you nurse to sleep? I have a love dislike relationship with nursing to sleep as my son knows only this to fall asleep besides a car ride lol. As he is getting older I am wondering if I should just let this continue? He does sleep with us. Another thing I'm working on.... I've tried rocking him and letting him relax in his crib and tried this at 4 months with no luck. Ok moms how long did you allow your child nurse to sleep? How did you wean your child to sleep with out bf or comfort nursing??? Thank you so very much!!


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Dru - posted on 04/05/2011




I went through the same thing. My daughter didn't sleep with us though. I laid her down in her crib once she was asleep. If its working for you do it! There is no right or wrong thing to do in this situation as long as you are comfortable with it. My daughter stopped doing this around 11 1/2 months old. I knew when she wouldn't lay down with me and was staying up to 11-12 at night. After 3 nights of this, I just took her and laid her down. She whined a little but didn't really cry, then went right to sleep. We have been doing this ever since. Because of this she is now on an awesome schedule and I couldn't be happier. I would reccomend doing what ever you are comfortable with and be consistent when you do. Good luck!

Donna - posted on 04/04/2011




My daughter is 16 months old & I still nurse her to sleep at night & at naptime.

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i nurse my 16 month old to sleep...its my favorite time...we cuddle up and she falls asleep in my arms with her little mouth half open and milk dribbles down her little sweet

Marie - posted on 04/04/2011




@shauna- thanks for your story and advice it is encouraging to know I can put my son to bed with out nursing!! I will try a burp rag and see if he will take to that. I have pacis in his crib but he just won't take them! Now I need to work on the co sleeping thing too lol. But thank you!!!

@ Lisa- I think I was just looking to see what other mothers done or have done in this situation. I started out nursing and placing him in his bassinet and all that but he never slept good in there so I allowed him to sleep with me and DH. We all slept better and nursing him was so much easier then! But now he is 6 months and will not go to bed nap or night time sleep unless he nurses. Now I don't mind it sometimes but I began to feel concerned after going to a friends house for a get together and my son wouldn't nap at all. Another baby passed right out in his mommas arms (although he was formula fed, maybe that's why.) but I had decided to leave early than planned and my son cried all the way home! He had breast milk in a bottle and was good and fed but wanted to comfort nurse and he was just too stressed! (I'm going on I'm sorry!) but I started to seek advice on trying to put him to sleep w/o nursing and try to get him in his own bed for the whole night.... I do really have a love and dislike relationship with breastfeeding and nursing to sleep. But all in all I'm glad I've done it and kept it going and it's the best thing for my son and will be for my future children!!

Minnie - posted on 04/04/2011




I still nurse my 2 1/2 year old to sleep at bedtime. Are you concerned about nursing your son to sleep because you don't think that you should be doing it anymore? For us, it's a very quick, easy and enjoyable way to get her off to sleep, so we continue. I know that as she grows older she'll phase it out. I won't have to nurse her to sleep as a teenager :).

Shauna - posted on 04/04/2011




I do not nurse to put him to sleep. I think if you like it, go for it, but realize it will likely get more difficult to get him to sleep without nursing the longer you wait. It's not wrong to put him to sleep that way, it just may be more of a pain later on. I know for the first few months, I couldn't keep him from falling asleep if I tried!

My boy's 6 months and has been going to sleep on his own for naps and bedtimes for about a month I think. (Time is hard to keep track of now, huh?) Anyway, we went with a sort of No-Cry method. We waited until we knew he was tired and gave him a pacifier in his mouth and a spit rag (cloth diaper) to hold (he rubs it against his face). I just went in again if he started complaining and rubbed his cheek and spoke calmly, kissed his forehead--but didn't pick him up (unless totally necessary, like oops he has a poopy diaper now). Sometimes I'd have to stay in there just so he'd be calm because he'd cry when I left, so I'd just read a book in there and not look at him, so I didn't distract him.

I think around 5 or 6 mo. (I don't know, this is my first) they are much more capable of nursing without conking out, so if he still is, you can leave the light on in the room and see if that helps. That's what I did for a bit, then I'd put him to bed and turn off the light, signaling bedtime.

Marie - posted on 04/04/2011




Yes he passes out while nursing :-( I have a music light thing... Well two of them and he just started to like the mobile projector one but he still won't just lay in his crib after being relaxed. He takes a paci but just bites on the wron end lol and will toss it to the side in minutes. I have recently got him to bed without needing to pacify on my by singing his fav songs over an over and rubbing his belly! Sometimes it works and others it's a no go. I'm tryin to stay patient an just know it won't last forever. :-) thank you for your advice!!!! (sorry I haven't responded sooner!)

Ginny - posted on 03/21/2011




Does your son actually fall asleep while nursing or does he just get relaxed? Our bedtime routine has always ended with me nursing her in her dark room(she is now 13 months and only nurses in the morning). She would never end up actually fully falling asleep(well she did when she was a newborn) but just get really relaxed. I always tried to make sure she wouldn't fall asleep and lay her in her crib awake. She ended up doing really well putting herself to sleep. I also use one of those light up music box things(can't think of the correct name for them right now lol). Then she got to a point where she would pull away herself and sit up, then I'd put her down.

You could try that, or switch your routine and nurse him before a book or something like that. It may take time for him to fall asleep on his own, but putting them down mostly awake I think and have heard is best. Does he use a pacifier? Not sure if any of this helps..good luck with everything :-)

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