age difference between babies question

Ania - posted on 07/12/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is 17 months old now and I would like to get pregnant soon with the second baby. I'm just worried that 26-27 month difference might be too little. I know people have babies 2 years apart, but I don't have any support system. Neither my parents or my husbands parents live close. We see them once or twice a year. I don't know if I can manage raising two little kids all by myself. Can't afford a babysitter or a daycare (we live in manhattan, daycares are 2500 a month) because I don't work. We have only one income. Any advice on how to take care of two kids that are two years apart?

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I had to cut back a little. It got super painful for me between 7-21 weeks (a long time, I know). Then we had 2 weeks of pure bliss, everything was back to normal. Then I went back to being sore, but not nearly as bad. I really had to encourage a good latch everytime. She had a bit of a lazy toddler latch that I didn't really notice when my nipples weren't sensitive. I also distract myself by playing on my cell phone or reading a book. The book, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower has lots of great info on nursing through pregnancy and tandem nursing. I also joined La Leche League and it has been a great support system to meet other moms who've already nursed through pregnancy. Good luck!!

Lori - posted on 07/14/2011

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My daughter was 2 1/2 when her sister arrived. All of our family is out of state, like you we see them once or twice a year. I was concerned about how I would handle it too, but it just seems to work out. I use my Maya Wrap and Ergo Carrier constantly. Sounds like you're already prepared with those. They really really really help alot. Lets you be hands free with the baby and still chase after the toddler. So far the hardest part for me is now that my younger one is almost 8 months old she gets distracted while nursing. It's hard to get a 3 year old to sit quietly in the same room while I nurse the baby, and while the TV will get the 3 year old quiet, it is too distracting for the baby. So usually I turn on a DVD for my 3 year old and take the baby to another room to nurse. I can still hear what's going on, but the baby isn't distracted. The best advice I can give you is if you know the baby is going to need something soon (feeding, nap, etc.) make sure the older one has what they need. Get them a snack and a drink before you sit down to feed the baby, or set them up with an activity (toy, or crayons etc) as you get the baby to nap.

Also, try to involve your older one with the baby care as much as possible. Have him/her bring you a diaper, get the wipes, bring a blanket whatever, and tell him what a good helper he is. My daughter is always tell me "we take good care of our baby don't we momma?" I love it!

Ania - posted on 07/14/2011

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Thank you all for help. Sara I'm breastffeding too and I'm wondering how difficult BF will be during pregnancy. Any tips on that? especially first 12 weeks...I'm ready with moby and ergo too. I;m planning on keeping a little one close to me almost at all times, :) can't wait to hear how is everything going when you pop :) Good luck!

Olivia - posted on 07/12/2011

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Well my daughter is 18 months and I am due any day now. We have only one income and it isn't much of an income, my mom is in France living again and my dad in a nursing home. His dad well was never there and his mom well I am not going to go there. But I feel good about this, as long as your SO is supportive and the both of you are happy everything should be fine.

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Well, I'm due anytime now and my daughter is 26 months. I will let you know how it goes lol. I don't have any family close either. My husband's mom and my parents are actually neighbors, but my husband and I moved across the country for his job. I've got to admit, I'm a little nervous because my daughter is quite the handful sometimes, but I know it will be ok. She's still breastfeeding so I'm hoping it will promote bonding. We've done a lot of talking and preparing for the baby with her. We're trying to keep her involved as much as we can. I also have a Moby wrap and an Ergo carrier. i plan to wear this baby as much as possible while chasing my toddler around. My sister and I are 22 months apart and we've always been really close. My brother and I are almost 4 years apart and we fought a lot growing up. You just never know.

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