Are we weaning?

Dawna - posted on 05/15/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




My LO is 14mo She still initiates sometimes but for the most part I have always been feeding her around nap times and meal times. Lately she has been basically refusing or will only nurse a couple minutes (going back and forth between the two breasts.) I am not sure if she is really wanting to wean or if my supply is too low or she just wants to play... She seems to especially enjoy her morning and night time feeding. Should I continue with the other feeding throughout the day or cut back to the two feeding she seems to respond to?


Emily - posted on 05/16/2011




I can guarantee you she's not wanting to wean. What you're describing is really normal for the age. I've now breastfed 2 kids past age one and can tell you that after the first birthday, what you're describing is pretty typical. They're active toddlers, not infants anymore, so their breastfeeding needs just aren't the same. They aren't going to sit there for long nursing sessions. Sometimes they just need a quick "check-in" nursing that may last 30 seconds. Just because it's short doesn't mean it's not important. It's a way for them to connect with you through the day. This is sort-of what I would describe the second phase of full-term breastfeeding. For example, my first child from about 18 months to 3 years nursed only 1-2 times a day. Reduced nursing doesn't necessarily mean they're ready to wean ;)

Becky - posted on 05/15/2011




Your little one might be ready to decrease how often she is BF. I wouldn't try to force her to BF, if she seems to fight it, or just want to play I would let her stop those in between feeds. Around that age I was BF my son in the morning, at nap time and then at night. The nap time one was the next to be dropped, then the bed time one and last the morning one at 19 months (and only that early because my milk totally dried up from me getting pregnant.) There is no right answer to weaning questions, just the experiences of people. Good luck.


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Dawna - posted on 05/30/2011




Well, it isn't so much a problem now... my LO was in the hospital for the last week and started nursing like a newborn... I am grateful that she found nursing comforting while suffering in the hospital.

Jade - posted on 05/23/2011




My little one started doing the same thing around 12 months so I cut her down to three feeds a day with no problems, she didn't even demand her feed. Around 14 months we missed the lunch feed because we were at hte doctors, the next day she decided she didn't need that feed anymore. Now at 16 months we are cutting out the morning feed. If she really wants it she will let you know. Do what baby wants and what you want to do. You know whats right for you and your bub. I

Kris - posted on 05/22/2011




I say do whatever doesn't make you hurt. My daughter no longer nurses during the day, she does however take her sweet time in the morning and at night nursing. I almost have to pry her off at those times.
PS I still pump twice a day as well.

Betty H - posted on 05/22/2011




There is a term called baby lead weaning and your baby seems to be doing this. You have done a great job breastfeeding your baby thus far, I would let her continue to let you know when she wants to be fed. For more information on weaning you can visit me at Have a blessed day. Betty H. Greenman BS,CLC,IBCLC

Cara - posted on 05/21/2011




I'd also guess that she's not really wanting to wean as much as just change up the pace. Keep up with the nursing sessions that she chooses and don't worry about the rest. Her body knows what it needs, and you may find that she'll pick back up again as her needs change (growth spurts, teething, etc.)

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