Baby refuses to nurse to sleep sometimes and don't know how to get to bed.

Brittany - posted on 06/09/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 5 months old. He has been refusing to nurse to sleep from time to time for about a month now. Your thinking it's probably not that big of a deal (if he's tired enough I can put him awake in his crib and he'll go to sleep) but some nap times he won't fall asleep. I think sometimes he just gets full before he gets sleepy. Any advice I guess on getting an awake baby to still go to sleep.

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Irene - posted on 06/18/2011

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I had the same with my little one he didn't want to be nursed. I put him in the cot and put his mobile witch has a light you can use a t night on, and that seem to make him sleepy due to watching his mobile for a long time.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/13/2011

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The sling is a great idea. My son rarely goes to sleep while feeding. He'll fall asleep on my shoulder or in the sling. Mostly I just lay him in his crib when he's sleepy and he does the rest. I recommend the Moby wrap. It can fit anyone, it's comfortable and very easy to put on. Good luck

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Ruth - posted on 06/13/2011

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try try and try again, we had the same problem i found that if I put bub in her bassinet and put the bassinet out where i was she eventually fell asleep and was comforted because she could still see/hear me

Inga (Uttara) - posted on 06/13/2011

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Sometimes babies refuse to nurse when you eat too much sour or spicy foods.

MOMMBY Mom - posted on 06/12/2011

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For some sleep tips, please refer here: http://www.mommby.com/Sleep/Infants_Todd... I went through several phases with both of my kids. With my baby girl she usually needs me to lay her in her crib to let her know I'm serious about bedtime. Then when she looks at me because she is upset I tell her it is naptime and if she needs to close her eyes (she's only 8 months old) but I like to explain as I believe they understand more than you realize. Then I usually pick her up and walk her (walking works better than rocking when she really can't sleep). My daughter actually usually does very well falling asleep on her own. She may "fuss" a little but if she really can't fall asleep on her own then I do some of the tips listed in the article above. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 06/12/2011

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We bought an musical ocean themed crib attachment by Baby Einstein. It lights up and has an ocean scene that moves. We use it for our 13 month old daughter at nighttime because she doesn't fall asleep to nursing at night (milk supply is lower in the evenings). I am not sure though if this would be too much stimulation for your little one.

Shauna - posted on 06/12/2011

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I just give my boy his pacifier (I'd rather that than him think he needs to nurse to sleep) and his spit rag (he rubs it across his face) and put a blanket over his legs and say,
"Sweet dreams," and leave. If he complains and I know he's tired, I go back in after a minute and repeat, and keep doing this until he's asleep. My boy's 8 months, but I started this at least by 6 months, but maybe before? It all starts to run together, but it really has worked. If he just won't go to sleep and isn't acting tired after I dunno, 15 minutes, then I decide he's really probably not as ready for a nap as I think he is and try again later. The spacing for naps isn't always consistent, because I put him down when he acts sleepy or cranky.

Gabrielle - posted on 06/12/2011

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First, try to keep him on a routine of Eat, Awake, Sleep, all day long. When it is time for him to go to sleep (look for cues like yawning, rubbing eyes, staring off into space), either put him down or rock him and then put him down (awake) in bed. My son uses his paci to fall asleep as well as a lovey. He loves to snuggle up with his horsey lovey and just fall asleep.

Crystal - posted on 06/11/2011

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Maria and Amie,
I agree it doesn't always work but it is always my goal..i love the freedom in them being able to put themselves to sleep. Less interuptions at night.

Amie - posted on 06/11/2011

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I meant encourage baby to fall asleep W/O nursing. Not with! LOL I'm due in a few weeks w/ baby #4 & I did Baby Wise w/ each one. Our routine sleep~ eat~ play~sleep

Maria - posted on 06/11/2011

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Routine,routine, routine.... Pick a routine and do it every time. The best thing you can do for your baby (and yourself) in the sleep realm, is teach your baby to fall asleep on their own. Baby's who know how to fall asleep on there own typically sleep longer stretches at night and will be better sleepers in the long run.

Our routine was nurse, book, lullaby/rocking, put baby down drowsy, but awake. The ability to just fall asleep is a learned behavior. It may not "work" perfectly every time to start with. Part of it will be your timing and part of it willbe your baby learning a new way of doing things. Some of my babies sometimes whimper a little as they go to sleep, remember there is a difference between crying in distress and complaining a little because they would rather be with you. If baby isn't tired yet, he will have difficulty falling asleep and if baby is overtired he will have big time difficulties falling asleep. I think a baby being able to remain awake after nursing at nap time is a sign that they are ready for a older baby routine. Good luck, and a great bookabout healthy sleep habits is "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth.

Amie - posted on 06/11/2011

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You should encourage him to fall asleep w/ nursing him to sleep. It'll be easier to wean later on & you don't want to start bad habits now. He may not be tired yet, try moving nap time.

Sheila - posted on 06/10/2011

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My son cuddles to sleep at night but nurses his way down for naps. My older son loved to fall asleep at night by nursing and roll his way to sleep in a stroller for naps. I have found it easiest to get sleepy babies to fall asleep so I try to play hard and then give them the opportunity to fall asleep - cars, strollers, cuddles in quiet places. My oldest loves to fall asleep to me reading, the baby prefers me quiet. I let them lead the way within reason. I found it was not worth stressing over what I read, but a helpful idea from a friend was alway worth a try.

Valerie - posted on 06/10/2011

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if hes tired lay him down...if he fights it offer to nurse and rock a while...if he's fussy again lay him down...repeat until he takes his nap...it will work itself out and he will learn to sleep...hang in there

Brittany - posted on 06/09/2011

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Thanks Sara! I'm don't really baby wear because my baby doesn't really like it. He doesn't have a bouncer. I like the idea of maybe waiting a little bit before offering the other breast.
Thanks everyone else!

Heather - posted on 06/09/2011

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Nurse him, then put him down in his own bed in a darkened room, and he should go to sleep.

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Maybe he's not sleepy yet? Around that age my son started staying awake longer and transitioned to fewer naps.

There's also a sleep regression around 4 months and their sleep patterns change.

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My daughter went through the same phase. She did it at night time sometimes too. At night I would pass her off to daddy and he would walk around with her and comfort her to sleep. For nap time, do you baby wear? You could try putting him in a sling, carrier or wrap. Walking around and doing the things you need to do around the house may soothe him to sleep. Does he like a bouncy chair? Sometimes my daughter bounced to sleep in that. There were days where I just had to wait a little longer and then offer the breast again and she would go to sleep.

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