Breastfeeding after 1 year

Olivia - posted on 07/13/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




I am 20 years old and my little man will be 1 on the 20th. I am still breastfeeding but so many are trying to get me to stop when he turns 1. Even his father bugs me telling me that he doesn't need to be on the booby that long and its time to give it up. It makes me mad and I feel I should do it as long as he and I want to. I really enjoy our bond and I dont see any reason to have to make him stop when he isn't ready. We co-sleep and he usually cant sleep without nursing. I give him water out of his sippy cup during the day.. he does great with it, but I feel my milk is best other than that I know this is my decision, I would just like to hear some encouragement from others i guess =)


Tiffany - posted on 07/15/2010




i nursed my daughter until she was 15 months...even with some outside pressure. my son ethan just turned 1 and i'm hoping to get to our next milestone of 2 years. best of luck to you and congrats for making the decision to make it your, if that makes sense

Olivia - posted on 07/14/2010




that is just crazy.. i cant believe they say that to her.. I would be really upset.. im very outspoken! That wouldn't go over well if they told my son that. I am glad that you are still nursing even through the pressure. Especially when her 2 year old is still on a formula bottle. Seeing everyone that can do this makes me feel even better about still nursing. I plan to nurse him as long as he will have me =)) I enjoy the bonding and the fact i am able to give him the best milk out there! Our boobs were put on our body for the sole purpose of nursing our children.

Amanda - posted on 07/14/2010




You know the pressure to stop doesnt stop when you are older too. I actually find the pressure to stop is worse now then it was 12 years ago. I had my first child at 21, and breastfeed her until almost 2, never did anyone tell me to stop, nor my second child at 22, but my 3rd child at 31, and everyone has an opinion on when I should stop. Shes 2 now and we are just starting to ween. The best is a family member who actually tells my 2 year old to her face she doesnt need the boobie any more (even though her own 2 year old is still using bottles and formula... ironic I know). I just smile nod, and keep breastfeeding.

Dawn - posted on 07/13/2010




You absolutely don't have to stop. There are many antibodies that moms give off around the 18th month when babies are starting to be more active and have more contact with other babies. It protects them from getting sick. Tell dad to take a hike. He just wants your body back for himself. They don't like to share. I'm very proud of you for being so young and making the commitment. I used to love it when they asked me to nurse. We had our own words for it, but its just the need to be close to you. Don't fight it. They don't want to be close for very long before you have to beg them for a hug. Good Luck


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Charlotte - posted on 12/14/2010




oh gosh, i don't have enough time to read through all the comments other wise i would, i don't like to say exactly the same as everyone else! first off though, well done :-) i LOVE hearing about young mums who breastfeed, i think its just GREAT. i'm 22 and my daughter is nearly one, not as young as u but im still young compared to a lot of other mummys! any, defo do with what you feel is right. for all those telling you you dont need to continue? stuff them! give them info, tell them the WHO reccomends feeding until at least two years, and further still is fab. try talking, telling your partner this is whats best and its what you wanna do. i guarentee though one night of baby crying and him trying to settle him will end up with him realising how breast is just plain easier!
really, well done! it genuinly made me smile to think that a 20 year old is so determined to do whats best for her baby!! :-D and just tell people to mind their own, you can do it in a polite way, just say "this is my choice. please respect it" and if they dont, just phase out when they talk about it! i really hope none of them get into your head because your doing great!

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2010




As the mom of a nursing 21 month old I can safely tell you: they can go suck eggs!!! There's a group on Facebook called "If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over YOUR head!" I totally suggest looking that up :)

I'm so glad to see younger moms like you keep up the breastfeeding; it's so very awesome.

Tara - posted on 07/16/2010




Do what you feel is right. No one should be telling you to stop. Check out the WHO site and find the information on breastfeeding. It states that babies should be nursed up to and beyond the second year of life.
There is nothing wrong with him nursing after age 1. It is still the superior food for him, better than cows milk and formula, he doesn't yet get enough nutrients in his diet at this age to sustain him without something else. That something else should be your milk!!!
I have 6 kids, nursed the first 5 until they were 2.5 years, despite being told by people that I should wean them...
Still nursing Riley at 8 months and will continue until he is at least 2 (unless he chooses otherwise)
Tell them all that it's your choice. It is best for him and you are doing what is in his best interest. If they don't want what is best for your baby than what does their opinion matter anyway?

Jennifer - posted on 07/15/2010




My son is 16 months old and my family, the father, the father's family and the one pediatrician has been telling me to stop around a year. Guess what???? It's not their decision!!! It between me and my son. It's our special bond and we'll continue until WE mutually decide to stop. They can say what they want, but aren't going to convince us otherwise!

Hannah - posted on 07/15/2010




My daughter turned one yesterday, and I'm so glad no one is pressuring me to stop as there is no way I could do it - she is not a big eater and still relies heavily on the milk for her nutriton. And she won't take a bottle and is allergic to cows milk, so it's breastfeeding all the way to self weaning for us!
Breastfeeding is a special relationship between you and your baby and you will know when the time is right, just smile and ignore everyone else if you can!

Olivia - posted on 07/13/2010




Thanks for all the support. My family is very supportive (as far as my mother, nana and sister). Ethans daddy just doesn't understand. But I really dont care what he says or thinks about it. I am going to breastfeed til he is ready to stop.It gets discouraging sometimes when people are like dang he dont need to still be on the boob.. but I just say I think Im his mother not you! It makes me feel so much better hearing from yall out there. I also don't hang out with many friends anymore because not many of them have babies so they really dont understand and still drink and party and whatnot. (Which is not what i want my baby around). I was so thankful that I was able to breastfeed and he took to it and still wants it, so i definitely want to do it for as long as I am able to and he wants it!

Sara - posted on 07/13/2010




Here's all I have to say - your boobs, your baby, your decision! Breastfeeding is important to moms and babies, and he'll tell you when he's ready to stop. Breastmilk is important for babies' immune systems - even if it's just a little as they get older. Maybe you could explain to your husband why you want to continue nursing, and why you might like his support. Get some research up so he can look into it and understand more about it. :)

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2010




You know what is best for your boy, and good for you to make it to a year and want to go past!! That is hard to find at your age, and I know personally its also hard to do at 20 with all the pressures to stop before a year. Keep up the good work momma, and dont listen to any advice you dont like. :0) Your baby your body!

Stina - posted on 07/13/2010




Good for you! The best thing you can do is educate people when they make comments about weaning.

WHO recommends BF for two years.
And even if your doctor hasn't, you can always say "My doctor recommends that we keep BF till.... (whenever you are planning)

My 15 mo still nurses several times a day in addition to table food that I offer her 3x a day. She does well with a sippy too and is beginning to learn how to drink from a regular cup. Her favorite place to get her fluids is definitely from me though :-)

Lisbeth - posted on 07/13/2010




get your husband to read these as well as tell him WHO ( the world Health organization) recommends breast feeding at least to the age of 2 and beyond. The more you breast feed the less chance of your getting breast cancer. And you know what you are the mother you have the breast you choose not any one else. My daughter is 21 months old and I plan and hope she will breast feed well past 4 years. The world average for breast feeding is 4.4 years. So you go girl breast feed as long as you like.

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