breastfeeding discreetly in public

Jillian - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

211

17

25

I don't really go out to much and my husband doesn't like me to just pull out a breast around our male friends or strangers. My only problem is that I don't usually have a bottle on hand, I don't usually like to bottle feed anyway, and I am completely inept at trying to cover us up with a blanket because i am larger than average and need two hands to nurse without trying to cover, not to mention that my daughter absolutely hates to have her head covered and not be able to see me. I am just about ready to just say deal with it to anyone who has an issue, but we are taking a vacation to see my family in a week and I plan on seeing my grandparents and I am sure that is one thing that would thoroughly offend my grandfather. Anyway I am looking for tips on how to breastfeed discretely any advice would help!!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Debbie - posted on 07/12/2009

249

20

24

as for the large breast issue and having to hold up your breast to nurse, try rolling up a receiving blanket into a tube and sticking it under your breast. It will hold the breast up for the baby to nurse. From one large breasted woman to another.

Minnie - posted on 07/12/2009

7,076

9

788

What I do is wear a stretchy tank under my outer shirt. When baby begins to make signs that she wants to nurse (I never wait until she's worked up and crying- that's asking for a scene), you simply pull up and out the top shirt to make a little overhang, pull down tank and bra, and bring baby up under the top shirt. No one will see anything, and you can rest your top shirt over your breast just at baby's top lip.

Also try nursing in a sling, or a mei tai.

http://www.thethinkingmother.com/breastf...

19 Comments

View replies by

Candice - posted on 11/14/2013

18

9

0

Aglaia Engelbrecht - posted on 07/15/2009

1210
I just got a "Hooter Hider" and absolutely love it!! I have tried a few other brands at walmart and other stores and didn't have very much success, I thought I might as well be using a blanket. I thought the Hooter Hider was a little pricey but sometimes you have to pay the price to get something that actually works! I just went camping with my parents and found it very handy.....I definitely recommend it. You can also pick from a great variety of cool, snazzy fabrics.


Thats all well and good - if bub likes being covered, mine did NOT they loathed it, muslim wrap, hooter hider, blanket, shirt, hat - nu huh was not happening.

Candice - posted on 04/11/2013

18

9

0

Tell em 'don't like? don't look!' as hubby HE should be supporting YOU not his friends and other males. SHAME on him.

Jillian - posted on 07/25/2009

211

17

25

thanks everyone funny thing is as it turns out i didn't even need to cover around grandpa, when it came time to feed her he actually used tact that suprized even his wife when he got up and said oh, i think i need to do something in the den, he seems to always respect me more than any other woman in our family though because i told him off when i was twelve and i believe that lesson stuck with him ever since, it was a pleasant suprize and so far in my trip i have only gotten one funny look when nursing in public and that was on the airplane from a guy on the other side of the plane, who looked pretty ashamed when he finally looked up from my breast to my face to see my "if looks could kill" stare! i had to really try hard not to laugh! anyway, thanks everyone for your helpful comments now i feel a little more empowered that i dont need to be discreet, by law it is my right to breast feed in public without it being considered indecent exposure and my husband who is a soldier in the u.s. army should understand that as he fights for my rights as an american citizen, so in short he will just have to deal as will everyone else who feels the need to stare at my breasts while my daughter is trying to have a meal, maybe they should take a lesson from my grandfather(who has never showed an ounce of tact in his life) and just turn away or leave if they have a problem with it!

Nicole - posted on 07/15/2009

187

8

3

Tell them to use the swivel feature of their necks and look away. There is no reason to hide when NIP. Your breasts are for feeding your baby not your husband's property. I am grateful that my boyfriend and his family are total supporters of breastfeeding- they would have been offended if I got out a bottle. You should tell them to shut their pie holes. For me, nursing discreetly means not yelling "hey! look folks my boobs are out!".

Aglaia - posted on 07/15/2009

1

21

0

I just got a "Hooter Hider" and absolutely love it!! I have tried a few other brands at walmart and other stores and didn't have very much success, I thought I might as well be using a blanket. I thought the Hooter Hider was a little pricey but sometimes you have to pay the price to get something that actually works! I just went camping with my parents and found it very handy.....I definitely recommend it. You can also pick from a great variety of cool, snazzy fabrics.

Amy - posted on 07/14/2009

58

20

4

I'm a large woman also and just ordered a cover from Uddercovers.com, if you use promo code "cute" you get it for FREE and pay just shipping. $9. I was worried about a cover being able to fit over me, and it's definitely going to work!

Kristin - posted on 07/14/2009

19

18

0

I use what I call a Hooter Hider. It's just like an apron that you put over your neck (this keeps the cover from falling). There's a big enough gap between the strap and the fabric to see my baby girl when she is breast feeding. It's been a God send!

[deleted account]

Maybe nursing tops. Motherwear.com has plus sizes. Check them out. Or maybe wear a scarf, a long one, around your neck so you have that hanging down in the middle and your little one off to the side you are nursing on.

I just tend to wear tops that do allow me to bring one breast out, I bring my son or my daughters hand up onto my breast to help cover up what may be showing and I feed my kids as needed. I just nursed my 2.5 yr old son at a restaurant this weekend even, and my 14w old daughter.

When I am at someone else's home though, I do ask them what they prefer I do when it's time to nurse and do as they want as it is their home. So if they want me to nurse in another room, that's what I do even if that means I am in that room with my kids by ourselves more than I am seeing them. I have to take care of my kids and feed them and if I can't do that in front of everyone, well they don't get to see us as much. But, if I am in my own home or in public where it is my legal right (at least in my state) to breastfeed, I do so whenever, wherever needed. I do not cover up as it is too hard, I feel draws more attention and my kids hate it. I just use clothing conducive to BFing and do what I need to do.

Best wishes!

Rebekah - posted on 07/13/2009

1,508

5

198

Check out the other thread "nursing covers." I really recommend the Bebe au Lait Hooter Hider too. I love mine and it sounds like it would solve your problem. Here's the website, http://www.bebeaulait.com/index.php, but they are also available (as someone else said) on ebay.

[deleted account]

I just wanted to add that with my first I hid her under a cover, but then my 2nd hated it so I had to figure out what to do quick and I would start out with the blanket up while I got him situated and then I would pull it down enough that it made like a wall around him nursing, but he could still see me and I him. Now I just whip it out when and where ever lol but I do understand not wanting to offend your family, I am much more careful if I feel I need to be. :)

Minnie - posted on 07/13/2009

7,076

9

788

Quoting Debbie:

as for the large breast issue and having to hold up your breast to nurse, try rolling up a receiving blanket into a tube and sticking it under your breast. It will hold the breast up for the baby to nurse. From one large breasted woman to another.



When I nurse my daughter in the mei tai or ring sling that's what I do- I take a washcloth or a flat diaper and roll it up to prop my breast up to her mouth level- so if she ends up falling asleep while nursing she won't end up unlatching.

Jessica - posted on 07/13/2009

103

7

7

I either use a nursing cover or a blanket...for me it has nothing to do with anything except I don't want my 40DD's out in public for the world to see. Debbie, i will have to try that thanks for the tip!!

Tamara - posted on 07/13/2009

1,192

11

104

I'd just tell them to get over it. Remind that that Jesus was breastfed and that Mary never covered.

Tricia - posted on 07/12/2009

357

14

45

To be honest, I used a blanket for a while, contemplated a hooter hider while objecting to the extra cost, and then got over it. My husband grumped and complained the first few times he saw me nursing in public w/o a cover, and then he got over it too. Now I just don't bother worrying. In 3 months of just nursing the baby wearing whatever and not stressing about it, I've gotten 1 strange look and 2 compliments from strangers, and aside from that have been totally ignored by a lot of people. Everyone gets used to it after a while. But if you really want to avoid offending Grandpa, you could always use nursing as an excuse to take a nap. :-)

Jillian - posted on 07/12/2009

211

17

25

Thank you guys I didn't know the hooter hider had a rigid neckline which would make things alot easier. Hopefully she would be able to get over having her head covered, and the tank top under the shirt is definately doable and a great idea! Thanks guys!!

Mandi - posted on 07/12/2009

51

33

3

I have one of these covers too and they are awesome. I actually bought one from an etsy shop online, they can custom make them to your size and colors

User - posted on 07/12/2009

54

11

8

Have you looked into ordering a Hooter Hider? My sister has one and loves it! It hangs around your neck and the neckline is what the describe as rigid so you there is ventilation as well as the ability for you and your baby to see each other. Also it completely covers you so no worries about anyone seeing something. I am 4 weeks away from giving birth with my second and I got one from Target that is similar, but the neckline is not as rigid though you can still see what you are doing and look at the baby. I did not have anything like this when I was nursing my son and wish I had. I was never able to coordinate a blanket very well while trying to get him to latch. I am so relieved to know I will have this now.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms