Breastfeeding in Public!

Annie - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 166 moms have responded )

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My husband feels really uncomfortable with my breastfeeding in public. He makes me do it in the car, parked in some remote place. I feel like I should feed my baby if she needs it, regardless of where it is. Is it rude to feed in public?

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Sonia - posted on 07/16/2009

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I'm a very firm believer in "anywhere anytime." I have nursed my babies ANYWHERE they've been hungry and in front of ANYONE. The only exception would be in the car, while I'm driving. LOL. In that case, I'd pull over. Anyway, breatfeeding is utteryly natural (or is it udderly? LOL.) It is the PRIMARY function of the female breast. Our weirdo attitudes about breastfeeding in public tend to stem from our weirdo attitudes about the human body and oversexing the breasts. Yes, breasts are sexy, but so are eyes and lips. The more folks are exposed to ordinary breastfeeding in public, the more they realize that it is both natural and healthy and the opposite of obscene.



I feel for your husband up to a point. My own husband was a little nervous about my nursing in public when we had our first child. He never asked me to hide it though. I also took a very firm stand that, when my baby was hungry I was going to feed her whenever and wherever she needed. It takes patience and persistance, but he'll probably come around. I think it's a good idea to be firm though and breastfeed wherever you need.



Maybe meeting w/ some other fathers who have breastfeeding wives can help. I wonder if you can find them through La Leche League?



I have often joked that I'd breastfeed in St Peters in front of the Pope and he'd probably bless me for it. LOL. Of course, though I don't use a cover, I'm pretty skilled at nursing w/o any skin showing (except for the very rare flash when a baby yanks the shirt LOL).



From a Christian standpoint, God made my breasts to feed my babies. The fact that they are also decorative is a bonus. LOL. Breastfeeding is beautiful and profound. It is one of the most basic ways to give generously to our children. It should be honored. Yet it is also simple. I just don't buy the whole "it's so special you have to do it in private." It's not a sexual act and certainly not a waste elimination act. It's providing food, love and comfort to a young one. There's nothing that should be hidden or "private" about that. No more than hugging our children or feeding them bite of food (or a bottle) should be hidden. Of course, there were times when I breastfed at home skin to skin, as in a warm bath or just after.

Lindsey - posted on 05/19/2009

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NO WAY! It is SO NOT rude to feed in public! I did it all the time and would just cover up. It was totally obvious what i was doing. Some people would look at me funny, but I just ignored the glares! I would have told my husband that he had to eat every meal in the car while we were out too!!! HA! Silly! Men. Sometimes they just don't get it do they? If he feels like you're hanging out, there are great cover ups specifically for public nursing! Good luck!

Shanna - posted on 05/19/2009

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I breastfeed in public all the time. My daughter is 10 months old now, but I was really uncomfortable at first...What I usually do is when I go out I wear a tank top under a sweat shirt or whateer I'm wearing then I pull down my tank top and pull up whatever im wearing on top. Tha way, no can see anything. I just pull my top shirt right down to my daughters mouth.



I dont think anyone should feel uncomfortable, your baby needs to eat. You wouldnt go out to your car or in a fitting room or bathroom to eat, would you? I know how you guys feel though because I was extremely uncomfortable too, I did the same thing until my daughter was baout 4-5 months, then I was like "No way! My daughter needs to eat just like anyone else, I shouldnt have to hide"

Itsamystery - posted on 05/23/2009

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Kianna, I would speak to him further about that. If you're using a cover, what's his objection? Not being able to feed in public is very restrictive and an unfair demand to make of you.

Jessica - posted on 05/21/2009

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My brother said the same thing about my sister in law, who plans on breastfeeding. I told him that first, it is her desicion to feed where she feels comfortable feeding. Second, it is not rude and is very natural to feed in public. The first time I did nursed in public it empowered me. To hell what any of those negitive people have to say.

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Jennifer - posted on 03/20/2011

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Is it rude to eat a sandwich in public? It is NOT rude to breastfeed in public. I think it is rude to withhold food from a hungry person.

Annie - posted on 08/15/2009

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One of the many pluses about breast feeding is that it's convenient. I have learned this over the past 4 years with my 3 children. My first child I felt super sensitive about nursing in public. My second I did pretty good about nursing in front of others and my third who is 6 months now I feel really confident and confortable. Now I don't flash myself while nursing I have a nursing cover from Hooter Hiders (great name hu.lol) and I love it. I can see my baby and vis versa and I don't have to worry about it falling because it goes around your neck.

With my first baby I would hide away to nurse but I would miss out on so much. For example many a time I was at a family get together and it would be time to eat and it would also be time to feed the baby so I would excuse myself to feed her. Then when I would come out the food would be gone. There would be hafe a bun and a slice of deli meat left.lol That doesn't happen anymore and I enjoy nursing all the more with each baby I have. My husband feels akward sometimes but also awe with my confidence to nurse our baby in a public setting.;o)

Amanda - posted on 08/15/2009

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I do not think that it is rude for feeding in public, I recently wrote to my local news channel after a woman got kicked out of a Denny's for breastfeeding (even though she was covered and completely discreet). It is difficult though to deal with everyone else opinion. Most people I come across think it's something that should only be done in private, but you wouldn't hide to bottle feed, and since breastfeeding is so natural and healthy for your child, maybe bottle feeders should feel more uncomfortable. Society can be difficult to deal with. I, personally did not care. When my son was only a few months old I would grocery shop with him in one of those holders on my chest. He was so little that I could just take it out and feed him while shopping, and I never felt uncomfortable. It's other people that get uncomfortable, and to me, it's them that are ignorant.

User - posted on 08/15/2009

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I nursed my son for 15 months and I didn't really care where I was or who was watching. I always tried to be discreet about it and make sure I was covered, but anywhere anytime was fine with me. People need to get over themselves...Breastfeeding if the natural and orginal way of feeding a child, I think we should start staring and making weird looks at the people who formula feed- because that is really the least healthy way and not natural at all! :)

Stacey - posted on 07/23/2009

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I dont think it's rudeas long as you are covered up. It's not that I dont think breasting is beautiful because it is...it's more for your safety and the childs safety. There are pervs out there that will stare.



One time I was at a restaraunt and a young girl (probably 18 not that age matters) had a newborn baby. The baby started crying and it very noticably it was hungry. She pulled both her arms out of her shirt (she wasnt wearing a bra) and breastfed pretty much topless with everything hanging out. That is rude and uncalled for. Her lovely black lace thong also stuck up 5 inches from her jeans....another thumb raiser! That is a lil too much.



I would never expect a breastfeeding mother to drop everything and leave the room to breastfeed. That's rude to expect that of the mother. I say as long as it's tastefully done no problem. They domake light covers for summertime that are very breathably and not hot and humid for baby. I'm 6 weeks and planning on buying one.

Dielle - posted on 07/23/2009

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i completely agree. i breastfed my son for his first year, if we were at a restraunt i would grab a chair take it into the ladies room into the handicap stall and do it there.

Nudrat - posted on 07/23/2009

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I have n eight monbth girl, she still has ot taken up formula, I make sure that I always carry a poncho with me, and if she wants to be fed all I need to do is put on the ponch on whatever I am wearing and pull up the tsirt etc and feed her. As I am well covered I feed her rather comfortably...

Samantha - posted on 07/22/2009

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No it is not rude to breastfeed in public! It is one of the most natural and beautiful things to witness... I think you should feed your baby when she's hungry as long as you are comfortable doing so.

Jeannine - posted on 07/22/2009

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I know in New York State BFing public is protected by law, I'm not sure if it is true in all states. I feed my son in public, I don't hide but I also don't just whip out a boob anywhere. I recognize that some people may be uncomfortable with it. I always carry a large receiving blanket with me and if I have to feed my son I cover him up, so all anyone can see is a blanket and maybe some legs sticking out.







I did have one woman tell me I shouldn't have my baby so covered up (at a baseball game) I simply said he was nursing and that was the end of it. I also had a man move his family away from me when I was nursing at a restarea, I choose a table removed from the main area. The way I see it, if they have a problem just knowing I am nursing (because they can never see anything) then they can move.







If your child needs to be fed, feed him. :)

Michelle - posted on 07/22/2009

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Im about to have my second child and bf my 1st for 9 & half months, anywhere and everywhere she needed feeding, We should make a stand.

Jalisa - posted on 07/16/2009

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feed ur baby when ever she or he is hungry i feed my lil girl every where i jus put a blanket over her and my boob if she or he is hungry feed them that just makes me so upset that ur husband suggest u do that!

Heather - posted on 07/16/2009

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It is absolutely not rude to breastfeed in public and it is the law that you are allowed to feed your baby anywhere you want to! Your husband has the issue, not you. I became so adept at breastfeeding my kids that I could do it so discreetly that no one even knew. You don't make your husband go eat alone in the car or the bathroom, do you? So why should your baby have to eat there?

Shannon - posted on 07/16/2009

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In the middle of the circus...had a blanket, she was hungry...we went for it!

Kate - posted on 07/16/2009

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No it is not rude! I fed my DD in public all the time and I still do. She's almost 18 mo. so I make her lay down and I'm careful. I don't use a cover because she'd just knock it off (that worked until maybe 6 months). DS is brand new (born this morning!) but I will feed him in public too. I only exclusively BF'd with DD until around 4 months but am planning to go much longer this time, so he will certainly need to eat while out. I intend to learn to nurse in a wrap and while multi-tasking since now I will also be chasing a busy toddler. I don't see why babies can't eat when they are hungry. I mean...they have NEEDS, they cannot wait. FEED THE BABY! And don't worry about what others think. My DH always wants me to cover up but I ignore him and just be as modest as I can.

Paige - posted on 07/16/2009

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I'm with Sonia. I'll nurse my baby pretty much anywhere. I'm pretty dang good at it if I do say so myself and I seriously doubt most even people know what I'm doing. I can't tell you how many times someone has asked to hold my sleeping baby and I've told them baby is eating. I've even nursed riding down the road in the car (I wasn't driving of course). It's been necessary on long road trips with 2 babies that hate their car seats. I can sit in the middle with the lap belt on and hang over the rear-facing car seat and nurse away! I absolutely agree with your last paragraph, especially!

Erica - posted on 07/16/2009

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Please dont feel that way. It is not rude what so ever. I actually found this breast blanket that you wear when you are in public and it sheilds everything. Half of the time people dont know what I am doing and just assume the baby is sleeping under the blanket. Also they make this thing called a hooter hider..those things work great too.

Arrynne - posted on 07/16/2009

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I dont think it is rude to feed in public at all. My child is hungry, I dont care where I am, I am going to feed her.

Candice - posted on 07/16/2009

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Your husband is wrong,period.Put a blanket over your husband's head if he doesn't like it or better,leave him if my dude said ANYTHING negative about bfing in public it would be stfu or buh-bye.Breasts are meant for babyfeeding so if a little nipp comes out at the mall big deal,and frankly there's more inappropriate things to be seen over at Abercrombie.

Candice - posted on 07/16/2009

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Your husband is wrong,period.Put a blanket over your husband's head if he doesn't like it or better,leave him if my dude said ANYTHING negative about bfing in public it would be stfu or buh-bye.Breasts are meant for babyfeeding so if a little nipp comes out at the mall big deal,and frankly there's more inappropriate things to be seen over at Abercrombie.

Paige - posted on 07/15/2009

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My husband was uncomfortable with my nursing in public at first, but he got used to it after a few months. He realized (and I got better at it) that most of the time you can't see anything and people can't tell what you're doing. Use a cover if it makes you or him more comfortable, but I think they just make it more obvious what you're doing. Confidence is key. Act like you're not doing anything wrong and people won't even notice you. Including your husband.

User - posted on 07/15/2009

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My youngest son is now 3 1/2 weeks old and I have bf them all! It helps that my hubby is totally supportive of my desicion to bf in the first place, but I have always bf in public. I am a christian though and I believe in dressing conservatively, also my hubby is possessive of my boobs. They are for nursing babies and for him and that is all. So when we are out I just always make sure I have a light blanket with me. I have fed while eating my own lunch at McD's on a road trip more times than I care to count. I have found that if I tuck the blanket between my sholder and the seat back it works very well even when my babies are old enough to purposely pull it off! I am thinking about getting one of those covers from wal-mart this time though. Only $10 seems like a very reasonable investment for the ease of it. Try to just talk to your husband about the impracticality of having to wait. If he supports your decision to bf then he ought to at least respect your desire to do it when it needs to be done, as long as you are sensitive to his needs and cover up. It is probably just a misunderstanding on his part. Good luck!

Danni - posted on 07/13/2009

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I had a hard time breastfeeding in public with my first, but with my second it's totally different. I just don't care what anyone thinks about it. I did by one of those "Hooter Hiders". It's much easier than juggling a blanket while trying to get my baby attached.

Nicole - posted on 07/13/2009

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Oh yeah, when Phoebe was a week old we went to church with my father in law. During the service my boyfriend helped hold phoebe's head while she latched on. An usher saw me nursing and brought me a boppy from the nursery. Please note: that God figure person didn't strike me down for feeding my baby in a "house of worship" :) No old people or children were corrupted in the process either ;)

Niki - posted on 07/13/2009

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My daughter is 5 months and I still have a hard time feeding in public, especially restaurants, I use the fitting rooms alot also. You husband should be more supportive of your decision to breastfeed as it is the best thing you can do for your baby. Maybe he should have discussed his feelings about it before you decided to do it. Either way he needs to get over it!!

Jennifer - posted on 07/13/2009

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Quoting Ginger:

I am recently having an issue with feeding in public, however, as my daughter is now 6 months old and is SOOOOO easily distracted.


I sympathize Ginger!  My baby and I went through that around the same age (still do sometimes!).  One thing I learned to do: when she first pulls off just cup your free hand over your nipple to hide it from view, leaving space under your hand so she can turn her face back if she chooses.  Often, a quick look confirms that nothing better than food is happening over there. Also, people may have recommended nursing neckalces to you- if that helps, great!  But any kind of necklace is an invatation to choke the mama for us!  So I give her a small soft toy to hold in her upper arm- she can dance it across my chest or poke me in the nose with it, etc.  It helps her stay focused towards me, instead of behind her.  But honestly, we spent a couple of months ducking into empty rooms or popping out to the car, until she calmed down some.  Good luck with that!

Jennifer - posted on 07/13/2009

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I struggled with this at first, only it was my mother (who breastfed me!) who couldn't believe I would ever feed my child in the sight of non-family members. The first time I leaned my baby to the side and reached for my shirttail in church (on the back row, behind everyone!) she HISSED "you can't do that HERE!!!!!", with evil eyebrows. Utterly cowed (this was very early on and I was lacking confidence in my overall nursing abilities, much less my public ones), I rushed out and spent the rest of the service fending off confused looks from the greeters in the foyer.

Long story aside, practically speaking I just decided that feeding my baby was important to me. So I practiced when she wasn't there, so my confidence was built up enough that I could just nonchalantly go right ahead when she was there.

So, invite a supportive girlfriend and go out for lunch and feed your baby right there at the table. It can be the back table and you can face the wall, but the point is, after you've done it, you'll feel that much better about it. And before long, your husband will look over and realize you're feeding the baby and he didn't even see you start! Of course, husbands can be more personal than mothers, so you might have to have a talk with him about it first, but it's perfectly normal to just feed the baby when she's hungry!

Dawn - posted on 07/13/2009

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no way - you are soooo right to want to feed your baby wherever s/he needs it. since birth i have fed mine out in public when she was hungry - this includes on public transport. i guess i'm lucky that my hubby supports my breastfeeding. attitudes towards breastfeeding need changing

Janet - posted on 07/13/2009

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It's not rude at all!! It's appropriate for you to breastfeed your baby anywhere it's appropriate for you to be with your baby. It's also a federally protected act. This country desperately needs to "normalize" breastfeeding. It's not a big deal in most other countries. Don't be ashamed of it, don't let your husband shame you about it either (been there, mine tried to also).



I've had many more encouraging comments from strangers than bad ones (only one bad one, ever).



www.motherwear.com has a lot of nursing clothes that make it much easier and more discreet to nurse in public.



Best of luck!

Karah - posted on 07/12/2009

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Tell you partner to sit in the car whilst you feed with pride :)

The more mothers who breastfeed with confidence in public the more people will finally think its normal again!

Men do sometimes have problems with their partners feeding in public. I think this is due to the deep rooted sexual link we have with breasts with in our socity and culture. Its a sad thing. Try to talk to you husband about how you feel. :)

Julie - posted on 07/12/2009

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My husband also was a bit uncomfortable with me breast feeding in public at first. He would say "you're going to nurse here"? I would reply "sure am". But what really got him to stop making comments was when I said "I can stop nursing and you are more than welcome to pay the over $100/month formula will cost". Not another comment about it!

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No way! I think you should be able to feed your baby wherever and whenever you need to. For a lot of moms it's their "private time" with the baby, though - my mom said it was like that for her. I'm planning to nurse mostly in private, or with a nursing cover if it must be done in public. It's hard for people NOT to look, I think - babies are attention-getters.

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Quoting Shannon:

i got a question then breastfeeding in public, i use the shield cuz my son who is now 2 months wouldnt take my right breast, and well i got a bad sore on my left so i started using it on my left, how can i not make it obvious nursing when i have to use the shield???


I also use a shield, and in public I keep it in one of the baby washcloths. Then it just looks like I am wiping up dribbles. Still obvious you are nursing though.

Jacquetta - posted on 07/09/2009

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my husband was the same way i had to feed our son in stalls or in other rooms away from people, but now i can feed him anywhere because i increased the size of my blankets and most people in public believe that i am putting him to sleep rather than feeding him! its not rude to feed in public i'd rather have a happy satisfied baby than a screaming one who is hungry and people stare more when you have a baby who is screaming loudly. My hubby was more concerned with me being completely covered....

Katharine - posted on 07/09/2009

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hiya when out and about i normally have a sling on so if she wqants me i pop my boob out and put her on to feed her, i am a very proud breastfeeder and wish everyone could feel as confident as me to do it any time anywhere as it is the most natural thing in the world. i went shopping with my sister and mum one day and while they were paying my baby was screaming for a feed and i didnt have anywhere to go. so i looked around and decided bo***cks to everyone my baby girl is hungry and thats all thats important so got her out and fed her just craddling her in my arms walking around the shop. i got a few looks some amazed some shocked but i was proud i could show the world that i could feed my daughter in a way that no one else could and it is what was best for her. if someone had a problem they there are idiots my girl is the most important not trying not to offend people.be proud, breastfeed in public thats the only way people will get used to it and make it easyier in the future for others to feed, we must work together and make a stand

Lara - posted on 07/09/2009

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Breastfeeding should be on demand by the baby even if one is in the public, so don't let us starve these babies.

Margaret - posted on 07/09/2009

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Do what's comfortable for you. I have nursed in all sorts of places and have occasionally had comments on how lucky my baby is. I am fortunate that I have never had a negative comment. I use nursing shirts or vest under my blouse and feel I expose less breast than many women do in their everyday clothes. I agree that a crying baby causes more upset.

Stina - posted on 07/09/2009

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I think a lot of people forget that brests are not a sex object. They are intended for feeding your child. What is more natural and innocent than that?

Bonnie - posted on 07/06/2009

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It is not rude to feed in public as long as you are being discreet. Even I am uncomfortable when a woman just lets it all hang out!! With a little practice, most people won't even realize you are nursing. I have actually had people come over to see my baby before, not realizing I was nursing. I have become an expert at putting things away discreetly when things like this happen. I have a large family and people pop in without warning and often without knocking, so it was vital for me to learn this skill. Once your husband sees how discreet and unnoticed breastfeeding can be, I'm sure he'll be on board. Oh, don't forget to get a good nursing bra that you can work one-handed.

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Annie, the thread "I was confronted about breastfeeding in public by a stranger..." reminded me... you should find out what the breastfeeding laws are in your state and print them out for your hubby... let him know the law is on your side! Or tell him to eat in the car or bathroom as others said next time. LOL!



I also have nice nursing tops, blouses and shirts, that help so I am not "exposed" much since I don't cover up (kids hate it when I have tried). You might do this too if you're not already.

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It is my legal right protected by CO law. I will do it whenever, wherever I need to! I will not cover up either! I will feed my 2.5yr old son or my 13w old daughter. Again, whenever and wherever. At stores I find chairs if needed. At restaurants I just do it. Again, the law protects my right to do so!!!! Is it rude for anyone else to feed themselves or their babies w/a bottle? Of course not!!! No different with BFing!

Jennifer - posted on 07/06/2009

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I'm still getting used to NIP. Sometimes, I get nervous and flustered. However, the baby needs fed. I have nursed my son successfully in his Baby Bjorn while using a nursing cover. I have a sling and I'm trying to figure it out.

Ginger - posted on 07/05/2009

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FEED THE BABY!!!! Tell your HUSBAND to go to the car. :)



It took my hasband about 1.7 days after the birth of our baby to get used to the New Fact Of Life that my boobs were now Somewhat Public. Oh well. Now he just thinks it is funny that they are "out and about" so much, and he of course supports me (us!) breastfeeding our baby girl 100%.



I'm very comfortable feeding in public, and if someone happens to see a small slice of breast, then Oh Well. HEAVEN FORBID, however, if anyone sees my STOMACH!!! So I also wear a tank top under everything. When I lift my shirt to "whip out my boob" (as I gracefully describe it...), then my back, sides, stomach, and everything else are still very covered.



I am recently having an issue with feeding in public, however, as my daughter is now 6 months old and is SOOOOO easily distracted. I know she is hungry based on (the amount of time since her last feeding and) the fact that she starts whining/crying and clawing at my shirt and trying to latch on right through my clothes! But when I go to feed her, she is so interested in whatever else is going on, that she sucks for a few seconds, and then pulls and turns away, pushes away from my body, and often pushes my shirt up farther (so I can't drape it down by her mouth and stay mostly covered). The result is that I end up with my whole boob, porno style, sticking out in the middle of whatever restaurant, etc., that we are in, while holding a baby who is exhibiting behavior that says, "I'm not hungry why are you trying to make me do this Put Me Down!!", even though I *know* she is hungry. ...So, for my own sanity, I will probably need to start feeding her in the car for a while during days when we are out, until she is old enough to stay focused on the task at hand... But if this isn't your situation, and your Sweetling nurses calmly and well in public and you and Baby are both comfortable, then Nurse On, Girlfriend!!! :)

Annie - posted on 07/05/2009

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Quoting Tamara:



Quoting Kat:

NEVER! but I have to admit, you are gonna get looks regardless. I breastfed my Daughter for 10 mos and plan to breastfeed my son when he's born next month. I don't care what people think cause Im doing whats best for my child. Besides its not like we are being rude about it. We cover up!





Because I didn't cover, I was rude?





I don't think so.  I think whether you do or not, it's not rude to breastfeed in public.

Annie - posted on 07/05/2009

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I have tried everything!!! Talking to him, explaining to him, using a nursing cover, a sling, going to the bathroom, fitting room, upstairs and out of sight at a relative's...NOTHING works with him. I GIVE UP!!!...pleasing him, that is. THANK YOU SO MUCH everyone for your support. I was getting so discouraged, and then I came on here and found out that so many more of you have written. This supports continually encourage me to do the right thing for my baby and stop trying to please my husband after I have done everything I could possibly think of. My husband did sit through a time when I breastfed my daughter in public at a restaurant, but it made him extremely uncomfortable. He didn't let me breastfeed my daughter at a relative's yesterday. I'm done pleasing him, and he has no more say to it. I will breastfeed wherever and whenever I want.

Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2009

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My husband is the same way...I think he gets embarassed when we're at home sometimes! He seems to be a little more used to it now (6 months into it) ....Really, it's what you're comfortable with, not anyone else. I have my reservations about breastfeeding in public, so I tend to try to know when my baby will be hungry...so try to do a feeding in the car...or a dressing room.... and yes the dreaded...siting on a public toilet for a quick feeding. Breastfeeding is hard to juggle into a busy life as it is, and then to deal with a world that doesn't feel comfortable with you breastfeeding becomes an added stress! I say, if it doesn't bother you....GO For it!

Angela - posted on 06/16/2009

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I would polity let your husband know that it is not necessary to hide while feeding your child. In most places it is not only perfectly legal, but there are statutes in place to protect your right to feed your child wherever you are allowed to be. It is up to YOU where you nurse, no one else.



I have been nursing in public for 7 yrs straight. Newborns, infants, toddlers and both an infant and toddler at once. It's completely possible to be very private and polite nursing in public right in the middle of everything. I have never ever shown my breast to anyone but my husband and my nurslings. Yet I have breastfed on airplanes, walking through malls, middle of school IEP meetings, kindergarten graduation, while at the courthouse getting a DBA. Really it's all in how you go about it. If you are confident that your doing nothing wrong, and don't make a big deal of it, most people will pay you no attention at all.



True story:



I did not get to nurse my 1st, he was a preemie and it just never took off. So with my 2nd I was determined to make it happen. He was 6 days old, we went to walmart to get newborn pics (homebirth) so while waiting for our turn we sat in the McDonalds and I needed to nurse him. I could not get the blanket to stay over his head, it was falling off. So I ended up putting the blanket over MY head. DH and MIL almost fell off the bench laughing at me. It was then I realized, discreet nursing was anything but discreet. lol. I never used a blanket again. The child and my shirt cover everything (and I am a DD).



I have noticed in my 7 yrs of nursing, 2 really important things. Woman that cover up while nursing or excuse themselves to nurse in private, are the ones getting the dirty looks/comments. Those that simply nurse wherever they already are and do so with confidence, generally aren't even noticed. Strangers have walked up to me and started conversations and it wasn't until I took the child off the breast to burp/switch sides etc, they they realized I was nursing a second ago. It's just not hard to be discreet if you act like nothing it happening.



GL

Lilibeth - posted on 06/15/2009

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Hi Annie, its normal for your husband to feel that way, my husband feels the same too he feel so uncomfortable to see me breastfeeding in public. So, i bought a nursing cover people wont notice it. When we go to the mall, I breastfeed my baby in the fitting room but definitely not inside the restroom.

Jamiann - posted on 06/15/2009

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When my daughter is hungry I feed her! I have a nursing cover that really helps but I have forgotten it a few times and I still nurse. I try to be modest but I feel it is a natural thing and shouldn’t be frowned at. When she was 3 weeks old she threw a fit in target I ended up sitting on the floor in the baby bottle isle and nursing her for 15 min. a few people saw but no one seemed to mind. You shouldn’t feel like you need to hide try to respect others and yet do what you feel is comfortable.

Donna - posted on 06/15/2009

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If your husband think that it's rude to breastfeed in public and for you its not, why don't you try to use the Nursing Privacy Wrap that you can purchase from Babies R Us , Burlington or online. Some are cheap some are expensive. I recommend the cheap ones because its the same function as that of the expensive ones. Be wise:)

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