Breastfeeding in the bathroom

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I know most moms have been told to breastfeed in the bathroom at one time or another by someone, and many moms feel like that would be the worst thing for babys health.

Here's my question, if breastfeeding in the bathroom is so wrong, have you never brought your baby into the stall with you while you use the toilet?

I don't regularly use strollers, I use slings so for me it's obvious that my son has to be in the stall with me if I need to go. So I hold him on my lap and don't let him touch anything.

Yes sometimes when he was littler I would breastfeed him in the stall but I saw it as just another public place to sit, germs yes but it's not that much worse then a park bench or bus seat right?

So out of principle I do not do this anymore as I feel the public needs to see as much breastfeeding as possible!

But is it really as bad as some of you make it out to be?

And if so, do you leave your baby in a storoller or cart outside of the stall? I would worry more with them not in my sight....

So idk, if you are an avid no bathroom breastfeeding mom, how do you use the bathroom in public?

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Melissa - posted on 10/29/2010

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There's a difference between being in the bathroom, and then eating in one, kwim? NTM, the flushing, the smells... blech! When dd was small she'd be in a carrier, or when she'd cooperate, the stroller, and couldn't touch anything. It's bad enough to have poop/pee flying through the air in there, without spending up to an hour in there breathing it in. **I** don't want to spend a bunch of time in public RRs, and I certainly don't breath through my nose much while I'm in there (if at all). I'm definitely not going to try and force any child of mine to do so.
Now, if that's the only way a woman feels she can do it.. well, it's what she has to do! That's why I learned to harness my inner mama bear and NIP so other moms could see and hopefully feel more comfortable doing so after seeing a mom do it (without a cover no less!) and not having difficulties.

Noreen - posted on 10/30/2010

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Taking your kid into the stall with you for literally a few seconds while you pee vs sitting in a stall for 15+ minutes to feed a baby is completely different IMO. To me, nursing a baby in a stall is like getting a cheese burger from the food court and then taking it into the bathroom to eat it. That is why I feel so strongly against breastfeedig in a bathroom. Public or not!

Kayla - posted on 10/29/2010

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I wouldnt feed in a public stall, ever. BUT, I dont see any problem. I think its different then US eating because we open and close our mouths eating, but a baby on the other hand isnt opening his mouth at all. his mouth is suctioned on your nipple and i doubt any germs are getting in his mouth. But, thats just my opinion. I'm not really a health freak or anything at home anyway. lol

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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I know, I'm not saying we should breastfeed in the bathrooms, I'm just saying, it seems like sometimes we make it seem so much worse then it is, like a baby is going to be exposed to those bathroom germs when we use it ourselves so why is it suddenly such a horrible thing if we feed them as opposed to holding them on our lap as we use the toilet.
Again I'd never suggest anyone breastfeed in a bathroom. Just saying it's not That different health wise then using the bathroom with the baby on your lap.
Does that make sence? Maybe it's just me but the disgust towards a mom who has done this seems extreme and maybe unhelpful because in actuality it's really not like the baby is touching the toilet or anything.
Idk it's hard to explain I guess, I just didn't feel like breast-feeding in the bathroom was such a health issue as it is a principal issue.

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Minnie - posted on 10/30/2010

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If I have to go to the bathroom, I'm in and out as quickly as possible. I don't want to spend all that time just standing there in a stall, nursing- gross! And my baby is in a carrier.

It's the principle of it. I won't go anywhere else to hide to breastfeed, bathrooms included.

But I nurse my babies frequently. Sheesh, if I went and hid everytime one wanted to nurse (you know us- a few times an hour) I wouldn't get anything done.

No, we nurse on the fly, as I'm walking, just like mommas and babies do all over the world.

Adriane - posted on 10/30/2010

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i know when i am in public and my lil one wants to eat and i personally dont like doing it out if front of everyone but completely refuse to do it in the bathroom i will do it in my car or the dressing rooms if available. if i have to feed him where the car or dressing room is out of the question i look for locations that are not right in the sight of everyone and be as discreet as possible. personally i dont like being in any bathroom any longer than what i have to be. let alone eat in one!

Dawn - posted on 10/30/2010

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I've never b/f my daughter in the toilets - its such an awful thought to me feeling that I'd have to hide myself away. I've always found a bench and done it decreatly. I must be one of the lucky ones as no one has ever said anything to me and I've even fed on the tram afew times. I've been ready to 'have-a-go' if anyone would dare say anything negative but it never happened. If you feel confident to feed in public then thats fantastic, if not then baby needs to be fed so do it where ever you feel you can.
As for leaving baby when you use the toilet - I've never had to leave her outside. Some baby change rooms have toilets and I've found most are disabled/baby changing so its not a problem. When in a stroller the main contact with germs is from stuff spitting out the toilet when its flushed so make sure the lid is down!

Merry - posted on 10/30/2010

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Yes I have eaten in a public bathroom at my high school on a regular basis the one year I attended.
My son was a 5 minute eater in the days where I used the bathroom to feed him so it wasn't more time then it took to use the toilet. But I guess I'm not as worried of germs as some, but definately more germ conscious then my friend, oddly enough.
I recently watched the documentary called babies and vowed to relax more about my germ watching!
Again, I do not feed in the stalls, I will not again, out of principle.
But I don't tell moms who have that it's something detrimental to their babies health. No one needs that guilt put on them.

Kylie - posted on 10/30/2010

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I have never had to worry about that..in australia the parents rooms in the local shopping centre is great, if you need to go to the toilet take the baby in and keep them in the pram, there is plenty of space and then outside of the toilet area there is baby change and breast feeding facilities and the breast feeding area has a cubicle with a nice big chair and a curtain for privacy.

Aicha - posted on 10/29/2010

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I have never feed any of my babies in the bathroom when I have to use a public bathroom I use the handicap stall so I can take the baby and stroller in with me

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2010

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For me, it's not a matter of health concern, but more a matter of principle. I feel that women should be encouraged to breastfeed wherever and whenever they want/need. There is NO shame in breastfeeding and I feel that when women hide in a bathroom stall, they are perpetuating the belief that breastfeeding should be hidden or shameful. If you are breastfeeding, you are doing the best thing for your baby and you should never be ashamed of that.

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But both of you are still breathing in everything that's floating in the air while you're stuck in there nursing.

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I agree with the other moms. If you have to take your baby into the restroom with you (to use the restroom) you're in and out. If you're nursing in there you're stuck in there for 20+ minutes. I've never changed my daughter in a public bathroom. I always took her out to our truck and changed her on a mat in there. So, if I won't change her diaper in a public restroom I sure as heck won't nurse her in there.

Heather - posted on 10/29/2010

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I figure, if I don't want to eat in the bathroom, my daughter shouldn't have to either. Plus, most public toilets don't even have lids!
BTW in response to the fecal matter on the toothbrush - I saw on a news program that therre was a ton of fecal matter on people's toothbrushes, but it was significantly less when they closed the lid of the toilet before flushing! (And once a week or so i throw the toothbrushes into some alcohol and water for a few min, then just rinse them well.)

Melissa - posted on 10/29/2010

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Laura, since it's not a huge deal to you would you eat in a public RR with all the pee and poop floating in the air?

Jodi - posted on 10/29/2010

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I am an avid no breastfeeding in the bathroom mom...but not on the principle of germs alone...on the principle of 'How in the hell DARE you ask me to sit for 20 minutes in a nasty stall just because YOU'RE not used to seeing a woman feed her child naturally?" My child comes in the stall with me, always has and always will (as long as is appropriate anyways!), but I have never, and will never feed in a bathroom stall unless it is MY choosing...no one will EVER force me, shame me or embarass me into hiding out in the girls bathroom to feed my child...that is ludicrous!

Vicki - posted on 10/29/2010

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Frankly I'm not a fan of public toilets, so I like to spend as little time as possible there. Just enough time to have a wee and leave! I wouldn't feed in one, just as I wouldn't sit down and read my boy a story book while sitting on a public loo.

I have been to the toilet many times with him in the sling though! Makes it a very quick trip. Our local shopping centre has a parents' toilet, a large stall with a harness seat on the wall. Fantastic for when I do want to take him out of the sling but not have him running around the floor.

Donna - posted on 10/29/2010

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Ive fed my daughter in a public staul. i'm a firm believer in what doesnt kill u only makes u stronger.

Celeste - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think it is a health issue because of the fact that it's eating. Putting a baby in the stroller in the stall with you so you can go to the bathroom is, IMO, different than baby nursing.

It probably isn't a huge health issue but it kinda grosses me out LOL

But, I do agree that I think it is more of a principal issue. We surely don't tell people to go eat their meal in the restroom so we shouldn't expect babies to eat in the bathroom either.

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Thanks Celeste - I was trying to eat some pizza here... From a health and safety standpoint I didn't really have an opinion on the subject, until I read that lovely article. Most important question: So where are you supposed to put your toothbrush?! All I can think of now is the fact that there is probably fecal matter on it. Man, that is seriously disgusting!

Celeste - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think sitting and feeding on the toilet isn't the same as sitting on a park bench. People poop and pee, flush the toilet and then that sprays everywhere. I would hope that people don't use the bathroom on a park bench LOL



Here's an article that discusses this:

http://codenamemama.com/2010/05/24/breas...



ETA: The article is pretty blunt about bathroom sprayage so you might want to read it if you're not eating something!

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I'm with Melissa. Society needs to understand the fact that sitting on a toilet and allowing my child to eat in that evirment is just as duscusting as it would be for you to eat while sitting on a public toilet. Try it some time, take a to go box and eat on a public toilet, see how discusted you feel. Think of all the air born bacteria that must be going in your mouth with every bite. Now think of that same bacteria being injested by an infant that doesn't have as good of an immune system as your self. Would you want your baby to be exposed to that for 30 minutes? I will stick to avoiding public restrooms as much as possible, especially with a baby.

Merry - posted on 10/29/2010

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Ya I guess if you had a baby that ate for a long time it would be different, Eric was quite quick back in the day, actually still is :) guess I feel like if it's clean enough for me to bring him into it, it clean enough to have my boob out too! But yes, I wouldn't do it anymore because we need more public breastfeeding!

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