Stevie - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 156 moms have responded )
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That was a comment made by another mom in another forum, I'm assuming she was young and ignorant but still! How does an idiotic statement like that make you feel? I wanted to shake her! At least try it is my motto, I don't think you should feel you have to BF until your child is 4 or even 2 or 1 but at least TRY before you dismiss it completely, and to call it gross!? What is wrong with women?
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Francesca - posted on 03/02/2010
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I am very pro-breastfeed. My daughter will be approaching 1 year and we are still going strong. However I don't think its supportive or appropriate to judge any women for their reasons why they didn't breastfeed. Its not what this forum is for.
Why do we insist on judging eachother. It is a disgusting example for our children. What is more important, a well rounded child or what food they ate as infants? Seriously people...
You state that they shouldn't knock it before they try it, but you judge and bash them without talking to them. Very hypocritical.
You noted that you want an honest debate. Clearly not. You posted this in a breastfeeding forum where they can't even defend themselves.
Is this what COM has come too?
Why do we feel the need to bash. Is it not enough that we made the choice to do the best for our own children? Do we need to bulley those that don't agree with us?
We have all been on the receiving end of judgemental women who will never think anything you do is good enough. God forbid we breastfeed in public. Lets not be those women. Let this Breastfeeding Group be to build eachother up and be supportive. Not to bash the opposition.
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what is wrong with you..... people are allowed to have their own damn opinion... its called a free world..... not everyone likes breastfeeding... i didnt like doing it but i pumped... i felt weird and to me boobs are sexual but thats MY opinion and that girl is damn well allowed to have her own... get a life...
Katie - posted on 02/28/2010
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That's more sad to me, than something that makes me angry. I'm sad that someone would/could dismiss something as natural and benefitial as breastfeeding without ever doing it. HONESTLY, when I first started breastfeeding my son, I thought that it was definately wierd, and a little "gross", because he was drinking a liquid that came from my body. (Before I breastfed, there weren't any liquids coming from my body that I'd really want anyone drinking! lol!) But I didn't stop just because I was uncomfortable with it...breastfeeding is about doing what's best for your baby, not what is neccessarily best for you. We only get a short time to get that good stuff into those babies, so we need to get over our opinions of it being "gross", and get on with it. After about a month of breastfeeding him, I was over it! He's now almost 21 months old, and still being breastfed before naps and bedtime, and when he's not feeling well he gets it more during the day...I leave it up to him to decide when he should get it.
Breastmilk is made by our bodies for THAT specific baby, and there is nothing better for them.
And the World Health Organization reccommends breastfeeding for a minimum of 2 years to give babies the best start in life. Some people want to go farther with it, whether it's until the child decides to wean themselves (I read that that's usually about 4 years old), or until they are 6 and are old enough that they have developed adult immunities. And that's not for me, but you know, whatever floats their boat, I say. Breastfeeding my son is the best thing I could have ever done for him, and if more people were open and honest about their breastfeeing, (instead of hiding in the bathroom when they're out in public, or going to another room when they are in the house with other people), maybe people wouldn't have that opinion of it. It's too common now that a mother chooses to formula feed. (I'm not counting the women who could not breastfeed their infant for some reason or another.) It's not ADVERTISING, like some want to believe...I for one don't chew a certain brand of gum because I see it advertised a million times a day on tv. I think it's just attitudes of people. I think if instead of hiding in the bathroom to breastfeed, if we show the people around us that we aren't embarassed by it, so they shouldn't be either (normalize it!), maybe more people would atleast TRY it.
As I was told by a woman from Le Leche League, any amount of breastmilk that a baby is given will benefit that baby. The more they get, the more they benefit. Whether they get breastmilk for 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years, it is all benefitial, and well worth the work involved. :)
Breastfeeding isn't always easy, and it isn't always fun, but it IS always best. I can't stress enough how much we need to normalize breastfeeding. The more those young girls see it, the more likely they are to see it as normal, and then breastfeed themselves. Boobs aren't just for our husbands, they're for our children, and it's possible for something that once was sexual to NOT BE sexual, and become a tool. A tool to feed our children. I can only hope that the girl you're talking about will educate herself on the benefits of breastfeeding and atleast TRY it, if she ever has another child.
Bellamie - posted on 02/28/2010
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It saddens me that our culture has sexualized women to the point where they believe that even breastfeeding their infants is gross or sexual or dirty. We are cheating our children out of something that every baby deserves if the reason they are not breastfed is because we as mothers balked at the idea. Women need to take pride in themselves and in their own bodies. Yes sex is a part of who we are but we can also be creative or spiritual or almost anything else and we can definitely be mothers who do as nature intended and breastfeed our children and still be one whole person.
Taralee - posted on 03/02/2010
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To the women who are getting angry about women posting their support and considering her uneducated about the subject, it is b/c we can not imagine why a mom would not want to....yes it is her choice, and she is allowed her opinion, but this is a debate, so "backing off" is not part of debating....no one is attacking her, and we assume she is young because I don't know any women, other than very young women who would say "...it is GROSS and I am not going to do it!" We who support it know that it is not GROSS, some women find it painful, or stressful, or don't have let down, or produce enough milk, they have good reason not to ....but GROSS is not a good reason to me, it is a beautiful thing. Breasts have been made sexual ....they are on all mammals, and they serve a purpose, to feed your young.