breastfeeding problems

Daniela - posted on 07/29/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my daughter nursed in the hospital sucessfully but as soon as we got home she wouldnt do it. she went way too long without eating and i panicked and pumped and gave her a bottle and she really hasnt breastfed since. the lactation consultant gave me a nipple shield but shes not getting enough through it and would want to eat for 4-5 hours. now sometimes if i pre-feed her shell do it but the last couple of times she wont open her mouth, she just licks me. when i do get it in her mouth she screams bloody murder. ive tried to squeeze milk into her mouth to get her going but it doesnt help.i don't know what else to do. should i just accept the fact she gets whatever milk i pump + formula or keep trying to breastfeed?? its been breaking my heart for a month now and i'm not sure how much longer i can keep trying....

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Holly Janelle - posted on 08/01/2011

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The lactation consultants that I saw were at my hospital. I have tried talking to lactation consultants at my daughters doctors office and it seemed like they have no idea what they are talking about. Check out the hospital you delivered at the should have a great group of consultation consultants. Your doing awesome mommy!!! I promise it will eventually click for y'all she'll get it. Once y'all get through this your going to feel so accomplished and so proud of yourself its such a great feeling. You can do it!!! Xx

Here is the number to the lactation consultants that helped me. They are in Dallas but they will help you in any way that they can! They may even be able to give you a name of great lactation consultants where you are. (972) 566-4811 it's 9:30pm here right now but call them tomorrow!! Gosh I hope this helps you. My heart is aching for you I have so been there.

Daniela - posted on 08/01/2011

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thank you for that positive comment. i really do want to make this happen but she wont even open her mouth. ive seen the lactation consultant at her doctors like 10 times in the last month and i think im gonna make an appointment with a different one so i can get a fresh outlook on this. i think the worst part is all the articles or things ive read about breastfeeding just name the problem but with no solution. its rediculous. ive heard from a lot of moms that at 6 weeks something just clicks in the babys head and they do it, so im really hoping thats gonna happen.... :-/

Holly Janelle - posted on 08/01/2011

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Don't panic your a great mommy trying your best! I would talk to your lactation consultant and schedule an appointment with them for them to physically be there and help you. I went through a really rough phase with my daughter up until about she was oh about to months. She is four months old and 12 days and we've got it down! I know that you two can do it! She is going to get frustrated your going to get frustrated but try and stay calm the best that you can because she feeds off your energy. Have faith in yourself this is not impossible. You are in a rut but don't give up. Do you have inverted nipples is that why she gave you a nipple shield or are you trying to make her think it's a bottle since she has been eating out of one. I would stop with the bottle feeding and formula feeding(because it's going to lower your supply no matter if your pumping) sit down with her in a calm area in your home that your extra comfortable in turn on some soft soothing music and work with her on getting her to latched. It doesn't necessarily have to be when it's time for her to eat because when she is hungry she may more difficult to work with. I wouldn't give her anymore formula it's not good for her immature digestive system and hurts the natural flora in their tummy. From the time you gave her formula last it takes 2 weeks sometimes a little longer to get their tummy back to normal. Keep working with her don't give up you two have great potential and you obviously want to make this work and are doing what you know is best for your daughter and you! You don't have to wait until you have another child to make this work your not beyond help I promise!!! I felt like my little team was at one point but I worked with her and we got through it. O and one thing babies will eat constantly for a couple of days to get your supply up and where they need it so don't get upset if it feels like she and you are constantly nursing it's completely normal!! Just relax use this time to read a good book, watch a series of your favorite show whatever. I know you can do it don't give up and get the help you need call your lactation consultants as much as you need set up appointments for them to help you that's what they are paid for my lactation consultants at my hospital knew who I was just by my voice!!! I didn't even need to say my name. I couldn't have done it without them. Feel free to message me if you want more help or have any questions :) x

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It sounds like you have an uphill battle with breastfeeding. She has identified the bottle as her food source, she's not going to work with you very easily. You can continue to work with a lactation consultant if you want to keep trying to bf. If you only pump, eventually your milk will slowly dry up, pumping doesn't encourage the body to keep producing milk. Do what you have to do and know that things could go better next time, if you ever have another baby one day.

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