Breastfeeding schedule

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )





I am a mother of 3... my LO is 1 month old, my middle is 19 months, and my oldest is 4 1/2 years old. I am currently BF on demand and it is kicking my A$$ my oldest 2 are grumpy and needy... and the baby is demanding lol. I want to continue to BF since I did it for my other 2 but I need help to set up an informal feeding schedule. Or is that even possible. I will never starve bub but I need to be able to give the kids my attention as well. I think part of the problem is that my 19month old still needs me soo much and is going through anxiety about me not being there for him. I hate not giving him the love and attention my oldest got. and even worse when I FINALLY get bub off the breast and my middle guy love my oldest is left out completely. My husband of course helps when he is home to keep kids occupied but that only happens when he is home for 10hrs of the day my kids are alone with neglectful mommy (ok not actually I see to their needs and try my bestest) but I want help keeping bub satisfied and kids as well...

Do any moms have any help?


Sally - posted on 02/01/2012




Do quiet one-handed activities with the bigger kids while the baby eats. Or even better, put the baby in a carrier. With a comfy carrier and a little practice, you can nurse hands free which leaves you much freeer to play with your other children.

Good luck

Stephanie - posted on 02/01/2012




I have 3 under 3 :), so I understand! I honestly use the tv as a babysitter when I need to nurse. Or I read them a book. I am on a ever 3 hour schedule and have been since my youngest was in the nicu. I also pump in the morming after she eats, and after her last feeding before bed. But I will be returning to work soon and wanted to have a stock pile. It works out great bc I can feed my 2.5 & 18 month old a little early if I see it is going to conflict. And I have lots of toys in the living room so that they can play together. They love when I put the baby on the floor mat and hey do silly things to try to get her to smile. It gets better! And don't feel bad if you get overwhelmed, no one thinks your inadequate, crazy maybe but a lt of people have resect for moms of multiples in a short time! Hang in there:)

Celeste - posted on 01/31/2012




Schedules can cause problems with supply now and in the long run. I really wouldn't advise a schedule, especially this early. Do you have a sling? Right now, it's so hard. My daughter was 4 when my twins were born. I felt horrible that I couldn't give her the attention that I wanted to. But, it does get better. It won't always be like this!

Right now, it's just doing what you gotta do. All about survival!

Hang in there, it does get better!


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Ashley - posted on 02/02/2012




Thanks for the ideas ladies. I sat down and talked to my oldest and his exact words were "It's ok mommy, a baby needs you more than a big boy, as long as you still love me too" which I replied that I loved him too much lol. He is my little lifesaver. He is also a helpful little guy with his younger brother. Playing is crazy as we have an open house concept but I asked my oldest just to keep an eye out if his brother gets into trouble. I think it was just an overwhelming day of clusterfeeding that made me really cranky and tired. I appreciate the help!

Liz - posted on 02/01/2012




I have had 4 kids on schedules from the time they were in the hospital and it worked great for me. I started with feeding every 3 hours, and worked up (around 2-3 months old) to feeding every 3.5 hours. I never got them to go longer than that, but that was fine. Never had a problem with them gaining weight or having a low supply. If you are concerned about diminishing your supply, you could always pump. Pumping 1 hour after your first morning feed will produce the most. Good luck!

Ania - posted on 01/31/2012




What about reading books with older ones while you are nursing? or trying to color...or watch cartoons: my favorites are team umizoomi, Dora all nick jr ones. That's what I would do. Schedules...not a good idea for supply and probably baby...

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