Breastfeeding your second baby

Rachel - posted on 01/23/2011 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Did you find it the same as breastfeeding your first? what was different, what was the same??
Did you breasts get engorged as often and were they the same size etc??
Im about to have my second child and i was very successful with breastfeednig my first born right up until she could drink cows milk. Any advice or warnings??

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Samantha - posted on 01/30/2011

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Yes, afterpains. I had almost forgotten them. My midwife told me that the best way to help you get through those, is to make sure you take paracetomol long enough prior to feeding that it will have already taken effect, make sure you empty your bladder right before a feed, as a full bladder can make the pains worse with the uterus having to work harder than it should, and keep a heat pack handy to lay on your belly while feeding (just be careful to put something between the heat pack and the baby so they don't over heat).

Nadia - posted on 01/29/2011

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they were both soooo different! with my first i had no cle what to do, and it didn' help that the nurses at thehospital gaave her a bottle a few times because "she needed to eat". and she was also lactose intolerant (which we didn't find out until she was a couple monts old). but it was awful and i ended up putting her on formula after only a couple weeks because she lost too much weight and the nurses said i needed to suppement her. i cried for days every time i gave her a bottle because i had wanted so badly to bf her... but in retrospect, i should of faught for it more, but i didn't really know what to do and i didn't get the spport i needed. but now with baby # 2 i knew i wated to bf and i was determined.even when she ddn't gain weight as fast as the doctors wanted i refused to supplement. and she is now 5 months old and doing great!!! she was so much easier, but i think thats because i didn't give up as easily and i also knew more what to expect. so my seond is way easier than my first. that being said, every baby is different. just don't give up, i'm sure you'll do great... they do say the secondone is easier than the first in most cases :)

Sarh - posted on 01/24/2011

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I was only 16 when I had my 1st. I had to stop breastfeeding because I was having health issues and needed scans done that required iodine to be given intravenously, so I would have had to of pumped and dumped for like 2weeks! I got discouraged and quit. Now with my second we are still breast feeding and he is 7.5ms old!! :) I feel bad that I couldn't nurse my daughter longer, we stopped when she was 3ms old and she had reoccurring ear infections! :(
My breasts are larger, I don't remember engorgement with my daughter, but I do remember feeding her cereal early because she was almost 10lbs at birth and my milk alone was not enough. But, with my son now even with him being 7.5m old he mainly nurses and just gets like little snacks through out the day of finger foods, he doesn't eat much food (not enough at meal time for it to be a meal).
Second time around my nipples were still sore when I first started. I had HORRIBLE pain with my first, but with my second it was still really bad, but I don't think as bad.... my daughter will be 5yrs old on Wednesday though so a tad hard to remember exactly.
Advice... NEVER give up!!! My son and I have worked through his lactose intolerance (very hard for me being born and raised and still living in Milwaukee, WI!) and he also has reflux. He is a HUGE momma's boy... not such a good thing, but becareful what you wish for!! When I was pregnant I wished for a momma's boy... now, I'm wanting to be able to at least get dishes done or to be able to walk out of sight with out him screaming his head off. haha.
If you did it the first time around for a yr then you should be good this second time! You'll be a pro! :)

Celeste - posted on 01/24/2011

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It wasn't the same at all for a few reasons.
-I had twins, so that was different right off the bat. We had a lot of issues,-nipple confusion, prematurity, issues that I didn't have with my daughter
-I was much more informed and educated on how things worked. I was successful with my daughter as well, but I learned a ton more.

The things that were the same were definitely the engorgement and the size, both times, I got pretty engorged and pretty big.

Even though it was different, having the prior experience did help.

Amy - posted on 01/24/2011

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Congrats! My two were not very similar. My son had a great latch, but when I introduced bottles he refused so I pumped exclusively starting at 4 weeks. My girl had latching issues from the start, my nipples were bleeding and I had to start pumping the day we got home from the hospital. After that I haven't gotten her to latch again.

My supply is better the second time around, but in general once I got to the pumping it was basically the same. My boobs never got engorged either time, so that was nice (Even with a slight over supply issue!).

My son ate a lot, and my girl hardly drinks, my son was SO skinny, yet my girl (who over all drinks less) is slightly more chubby.

My advice is to make sure you still get a LC in the room as soon as you can, every baby will be different and you'll most likely find some things that worked for your first will not work this time.

In terms of cup size, if I weighed the same I think that I would have been the same size. I've lost weight so my cup size is actually lower and i was not able to use any of the nursing braw's I bought the first time. Since I pump I just skip the nursing ones anyway.

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Jacky - posted on 02/06/2011

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For me it was a little different. My first daughter had problems with latching, sucking, and other health problems.... It took about 6 months before we had the whole thing down. With my current nummie lover very different. She latched on right away and had no latch problems. My breasts are about the same size as they were with my first and I have about the same amount of milk.

Try not to compare your new baby to our other child, when it comes to bfing. They will prob be different in many ways. But good luck and congrats!!!!!!!!

Mummies Nummies
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Christy - posted on 02/05/2011

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I found my second time was more difficult. Part of it was a bad nurse who kept telling me my daughter was losing weight and not nursing properly so i needed to supplement. That same nurse attempted to keep me in the hospital longer than I wanted. I did have an epidheral (sp) both times so I think they were both a little drowsy. I can't say I ever felt the bonding that everyone talks about but I was definitely dedicated to breastfeeding. I breastfeed both my children for around 15 months and we definitley had our difficulties. All in all it depends on the child. I don't think it matters if it is the first, second or third child etc. However, my confidence did allow me to ignore the nurse for my second child. They main thing to remember is each child is different so each breastfeeding experience is different. My engorgement was the same for each but confidence was definitely a plus for the second since I had a stubborn nurse telling me to give up. Each one of my kids was breestfeed for 15 months and both are extemely healty. Be confident going in and you will be fantastic and if anyone tells you different, just remember to fight for the one that can't speak!!!

Rachel - posted on 02/01/2011

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Thanks everyone for your posts! I have 8 weeks left until my second arrives but Im more confidet now that I can do it agian :) Ill post how it is going when he arrives and if he latches at first etc. My daughter latched 2nd try and the first try was only 5 minutes before :P I had to put her in a more comfortable osition and it wasnt hard with her at all! Im really hoping its the same this time around!!! My breasts went back to their original size after i Stopped breastfeeding and are back to the same when i was pregnant last time so so far- all the same :) not sure whats going to happen closer to the day though, just starting leaking now a bit, hoping he comes soon!!

Rebekah - posted on 01/31/2011

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I had a much easier time with my second. I only nursed my son for about 4 months before introducing formula, and I nursed my daughter over a year (never had to give formula). I had a pump with my 2nd and that helped with some of the engorgement.

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2011

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I found it easier the second time around because I knew what to expect. Breasts still got engorged at the beginning when my milk came in. The only issue that I really had was a bit of jealousy with my daughter at first. She was interested in having milkies again. She also resented the time I had to spend with my new baby girl. This was just at first. Now at 7 months everything is much better. Good luck!

Leslie - posted on 01/30/2011

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This did happen to me last year. My nurses said the same thing. I could barely tell with the first one, but whew! What a difference another baby made! Tylenol really helped me there.

Nadia - posted on 01/29/2011

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oh something else you should know that i totally was't prepared for... the pains you get as your uterus shrinks back to size for the first few days. i hardly remember them at all with my first, but with my second it was agony! every time i went to bf her it was like being in labour all over again... except the pain didn't subside until she was finished her feeding. i was actually in tears every time she nursed and it took all my power to just sit there calmly so m beautiful little girl could eat. i don't know if anyone else has felt this, but i was tod by the nurses that it tends to get worse with each baby you have. i'm sorry if this scared you, but i really wish someone had warned me.

Samantha - posted on 01/29/2011

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I found I was more confident with my 2nd and 3rd, but still had a bit of soreness and trouble occasionally. the thing that made it better, was that i knew what to expect, and while I had to teach my baby to feed, I already pretty much knew what i was doing, and I also knew where to go and what to do for help, so it was much easier to get if i needed it, and i knew the right questions to ask. I still went to our local health nurse to check my 2nd was latching on properly, at one stage I went at about 3 months because something just wasn't right, she was getting milk every where. The nurse helped me correct her attachment and we were fine after that. I only breastfed my 3rd until 6 months as my body had had enough after 3 children in 2 yrs and 7 months. I had a blocked duct that just kept getting blocked, I think it was called mammary duct ectasia. It didn't go until I stopped feeding my son. My size stayed the same, and was engorged a bit the first few days that the milk came in, but I even found that easier to cope with, knowing what to expect, and I think it settled down quicker cos I knew what to do about it.

Cori - posted on 01/29/2011

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love this thread.. so much great advice from all you mommies out there! i am expecting number 2 in a month and a half and honestly i am sooo excited about breastfeeding! its kind of weird, but i am looking forward to that bonding that i felt with my first (we BF for 15 months) and i had so many problems my first time around, but i am more confident this time around and i think that will help me and my baby feel more comfortable, even when confronted with problems!

Leslie - posted on 01/29/2011

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I did read a little to remind myself how to bf a newborn. You have to get back to basics until they learn. Things are mostly the same except that I find it more rewarding than before. I'm not worrying so much. I had to quit bf my first earlier than i wanted for medical reasons, so I'm cherishing this time more with my second. Engorgement and size were the same. Soreness too.

Sally - posted on 01/29/2011

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Also, loosing the baby weight took a lot longer with number 2. If I hadn't had to change my diet to accomodate her allergies, I'd probably still have it and she's 15 months. :)

Sally - posted on 01/29/2011

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Nursing my second child was completely different from the start. With baby 2 we were at a much better hospital, had a midwife instead of a doctor, and had a much shorter labor. Neither of us being drugged up helped her latch much more quickly and easily. Me having some idea how it worked this time may have helped too, but she really needed no where near the help her sister did the first couple weeks. My girls have completely different personalities which makes them nurse differently so I don't know how much is me and how much is them. With baby 2; I didn't get engorged nearly as often, I hardly leak, and my boobs are much saggier and smaller. I did get my first (luckily mild) mastitis with baby 2 though.
Good luck

Kathy - posted on 01/29/2011

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Congratulations and good luck!!

I successfully nursed my oldest son until he weaned himself at 17 months so I felt like a nursing pro. He always had a good latch and ate lots on both sides.

My youngest son came along and I had to remember what nursing a newborn was like. It's different, takes longer and the baby still has to learn to latch properly. My little guy only eats on one side at a time or he spits up most of it. We just had to learn what worked for him and let my body adjust to nursing on one side at a time.

I'm larger this time, but I didn't lose all of my baby weight the first time. I definitely get engorged just as much if not more this time.

Sarah - posted on 01/29/2011

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I struggled a lot with bf my first one... I was only able to for 3 months before switching. But with my second born I have been able to bf exclusively and it is going amazingly!! I found I was much more confident and things are going smoothly. I think you will do great becuz it did go so well the first time around! Just be careful of your first borns interest! hehe... mine tries to get in there sometimes. :)

Lauren - posted on 01/29/2011

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I found nursing the second to be so easy, especially at the beginning. Just having done it before made me more confident and able to troubleshoot with little stress. I was still nursing my toddler at the time, so I didn't experience much engorgement, which was really nice! Overall, nursing the second has been easier and just as joyous as nursing my oldest.

Samantha - posted on 01/24/2011

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Congrats on the new addition to your family! I was only able to breastfeed my oldest for 8 months. We had LOTS of latching and supply issues, but I was also working full time and went back to work after 6 weeks. My second is now 3 weeks old and we have had some difficulties, but we are getting through them. I have found breastfeeding #2 just as rewarding as #1. It gives me an opportunity where it is just the 2 of us, no interruptions (for the most part!) Yes, my breasts did engorge just as much and with the first. I have actually found it has happened a little more, but #2 has a much bigger appetite. And yes, same size, so all my nursing bras still fit. The only recommendation I can make is be sure your oldest doesn't feel left out. My 16 month old likes to cuddle up to me while we nurse. Often we read books, sing songs, or watch movies. Congratulations again, and good luck!

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