Changing crech

Bianza - posted on 03/07/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 2 1/2 year old is at her crech since she was 8 months old - and loves her teaches a lot. She has been moved from baby class to toddler class , but what worries me is the toddler class are not up to standard. Three teachers left in less than 3 months already for this year and I am not sure if I should be patient with the crech and wait or take her out and place her in another crech, which are more expensive. Iam worried that she will have seperation anxiety and that she will not keep up with change.

Please advise- My daugther only prefers people she know around her. New faces is like putting her with the lions. Bianza


Allison - posted on 03/12/2010




Your daughter is very normal for her age - many children are more comfortable with people they know. You are talking about people that are caring for her all day and she needs to feel comfortable with them. It's hard with places who have a high turn-over rate and there's no guarantee that the more expensive places will have a lower turn-over rate either.

And, no, I do not believe you should "teach your daughter to face her fears" or that "you're feeding into the problem" like the previous poster said. There's lots of evidence to suggest that meeting your child's needs, respecting their feelings, and supporting them during difficult/clingy times will actually lead to the child being more outgoing, confident, and independent than forcing them to "get use to it" or "just deal with it".

I think if you have concerns over her current place, you should start looking to see what else is out there for her. You might decide not to move her at all once you've taken a look at the other places and talked with the staff. Maybe the current crech is just having a run of bad luck? Maybe they could do a better job with transition when someone leave or they hire someone new? Talk with the director and see if she/he has some ideas for helping your little one.

Good luck!


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April - posted on 03/11/2010




you should try to teach your daughter to face her fears. if you avoid putting her with new people, how will she ever learn to be comfortable with everyone? by avoiding the're feeding into the problem.

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