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Co-bedding? Anyone?

Heather - posted on 12/02/2011 ( 35 moms have responded )

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My daughter and I shared a bed until she was old enough to roll over onto her stomach because she was insanely colicky and also because I breastfed her. Now, I am co-bedding with my son also.

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Anne Marie - posted on 01/13/2012

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my 8 months old sleeps with us same bed...besides im breastfeeding her...also i just love to have her warm little body next to me...lol

Cynthia - posted on 12/14/2011

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Dont know why people find co sleeping a problem...my son slept in our bed til he was 10...my daughter till she was 6 which sleeps in her bed but in our room and I have my 2 yr old whos still sleeping with us.........no big deal...I love having my babies close to me plus im still BF my 2 yr old......my son is now 17 and hes very independent.....straight A's and captain of basketball team....my 8 yr old.....too independent....

Jodi - posted on 12/12/2011

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I co-sleep with one of my 10 month old twin girls, the other one sleeps in the same room, but actually sleeps much better on her own near our bed in her crib. I co-slept my oldest (now 2 1/2) until about 18 months, when she started sleeping in her own bed...but still in our bedroom...then at 2 we put her in her own room since the babies kept her up. But she comes and crawls into bed with us just about every morning around 4 a.m. Snuggling with my kids in the morning in bed is the best part of my day!!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/11/2011

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when my son was born i breastfed and slept with him every night for three months. he's two years old now and usually sleeps in his own bed but sometimes he gets scared or misses us and sleeps between us. i dont see anything wrong with it as long as you are not drunk or taking sleeping pills-dont want to forget they're there and smother them!

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Manuella Penate - posted on 12/14/2011

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I have a daughter who slept with us from birth to about 2 years I also breastfed her as soon as I weaned her off breastfeeding I got a toddler bed set up in my room for her had another baby who I got used to just sleeping in her crib slowly transition my 2 yr old to the same room and worked out great :) hope I was a little help the older they get the more easy it is for them to understand

Lise - posted on 12/13/2011

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FYI... We started moving dd to her own room and it is going SOOOO smoothly! We are moving slowly (as I have no desire to have her out, but she's getting big and we all aren't fitting as well), and she is doing great. :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011

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I co sleep with my 9 month old and I don't mind it too much. She sleeps in her crib for an hour or two or all night first. She doesn't move much in her sleep.

Krystal - posted on 12/12/2011

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my miss 2yrs 7 months mostly sleeps with us but occasionally will sleep in her own bed and miss 7months has been in our bed from about 3 weeks due to colick we put her in her own bed at night and she just wakes up within 2 hours looking for me....its great i love it keeps me company and someone to snuggle cause dad works night shift :)

Amanda - posted on 12/11/2011

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@misti I bought my bed rails alot cheaper on ebay. My DS is 20 months old and has co slept since the day he was born. He will periodically sleep all night in his bed but most of the time he sleeps with me.

Anna Marie - posted on 12/11/2011

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I am very happy to be cosleeping with my two boys - ages 5 (almost) and 2. 2-year old still nurses at night, and this helps us all sleep better. Both our boys are heat-seeking missiles and will sleep with us until the littlest one decides he wants out...who knows when that will be. I love the extra snuggle time I get with them through cosleeping.
As others have said, do what works for you and your family, regardless of what you may see or hear from others.

Marsha - posted on 12/11/2011

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This is always such a controversal topic. I say, go with what YOUR family needs. I used to be so anti-co-sleeping. When I had my first baby, she was in her crib and I hardly co-slept with her. But with my second baby, it is totally different!!! Kinda funny. She will not sleep in her own bed through the night, no matter how much we have tried to get her to do it.
With dad taking care of it, to me sitting there while she falls back asleep in her bed - me in the meantime getting NO sleep...
So right now, I sleep with her. I know people will not agree. But I need to sleep. I am back at work, full time, and I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old.
Of course there will be at time where we will put a stop to it... but in all honesty I am not worried too much, because she will get to an age where she will no longer want to sleep with me. If I am unable to stop it, she eventually will.

Merry - posted on 12/08/2011

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My DS is 2.5 and he sleeps in an attached crib with a side off so it's an extension of our bed. And my DD who is 7 months sleeps in bed with me and DH. When I get pregnant again I'm not sure what we will do but it's all good! I'm sleeping better then I have since before having kids! Bed sharing is simply amazing IMO.

Selia - posted on 12/07/2011

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Still going at 2 years with #1, plan on doing it with number 2 end of March. I'd like to get the toddler in her own bed before then, but only if we can do it peacefully. If it is stressful for her we will just have her in the middle and new baby on the other side of me. Our king mattress is on the floor, and we'll be moving it against the wall on my side for the new baby (which is how it was till our toddler got big enough that I wasn't worried about a 6" drop to the carpet! I exclusively breastfed DD till till she started solids on her own (took forever before she ate much) and during that time I got the best sleep in my life! interrupted often to nurse, but I slept so well in between those times. Tried the cosleeper but was constantly waking to check her. Wouldn't have gotten any decent sleep if we didn't bedshare! Plus I enjoy the cuddles. :)

Karina - posted on 12/07/2011

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PS I continued to nurse my son until he was 21 1/2 months old, but after he was 7 months old, he began sleeping through the night, so I only had to nurse him before bed, and in the morning after he woke up, but nothing in between, so that helped make the transition between sleeping with us and sleeping in his own crib much easier.

Karina - posted on 12/07/2011

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My son was a c-section birth, and we stayed at my parents' house for the first couple weeks after leaving the hospital, so I had my mom to help me get him in and out of the crib, but once we came home, I found it so difficult and painful to bend down into the crib to retrieve him several times a night, so that's when I began bringing him into bed with me to nurse, and I would fall asleep during nursing, then later I would wake up and realize he had stopped nursing and fallen asleep. At first, when I tried to return him to his own crib in his room, he would wake up and began crying and refuse to stop until I brought him back into bed with me. After a few nights of that, and still being in pain from the surgery, I just gave up and kept him in bed with me. It made night time nursing so much easier. He continued to sleep with us until he was about 7 months old - at that point, we moved to a new house and he was waking more often during the night whenever hubby or I changed position in bed. It took a while to transit him to his own crib, but now he LOVES his crib and gets excited when we put him to bed in it. Occasionally, if he wakes up really early and refuses to go back to sleep in the crib, hubby will bring him into bed with us and he will usually fall asleep for a couple more hours with us. He is now 23 months old.

Natalie - posted on 12/07/2011

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We are bedsharing. I started with the co-sleeper bassinet, but just found I would 'forget' to put him back in bed after a feeding, so I bought a side rail for the bed and we've been going strong over a month like that..

Kristal - posted on 12/06/2011

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I have had both of my children sleep in bed with me since birth. With my first, she slept in bed with me because of a very painful delivery (3rd degree tears) and wasn't able to get up and grab her very easily so it was more convenient for her to sleep beside me. She slept in my bed till she was about 9months only because her Father and I got back together and he moved back in. With my second, he has been sleeping with me since about 3months (he is now 8months) He slept in a bassinet next to my bed until I thought I was ready to transition him to a crib, but I didn't like it so much, so he has been sleeping with me since. His sister, who is now 3, comes into bed with us when she wakes up in the middle of the night. I wouldn't do it any other way, makes me less paranoid that something is going to happen to them when I am not there.

Sally - posted on 12/05/2011

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My seven year old slept with us from 6 months (I bought the "safe sleep" hype when she was new, but going back to work made getting out of bed to nurse her exhausting.) to three years. She had her own bed in our room until she was six. (She was asking for her own room at five, but we'd been using the second bedroom as storage for so long, it took a year to clean it out.) My two year old has slept with me from birth (The hospital was really pissed about it.) and will sleep with us as long as she wants to or until her eczema gets under control. (If she wakes up with an itch attack, she will literally scratch holes in herself if I don't stop her. Sleeping alone would not be safe for her yet.)
While the modern western bed can be a smothering or falling hazard, those are easy to fix. Co-sleeping helps breastfeeding and lowers the risk of SIDS by a lot. (There is a reason it was originally called "crib death".) A family bed can also be a risk because a small child will not notice if it rolls on its small sibling. That's easy to fix by keeping a parent between them.
Enjoy snuggling your little ones while they are still little enough to enjoy it too. :)

Anna - posted on 12/05/2011

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My son is 19 months and we're still co-sleeping. He sleeps in the middle of the bed. Getting a king size bed was a lifesaver.

Janice - posted on 12/04/2011

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I began co-sleeping with my first only because she had colic and we would just finally doze off together after hours of crying. Breastfeeding and bed sharing go so nicely together. My daughter slept with my hubby and I until she was a bit over 9 months. When she was tiny she slept on her back next to me on the outside and I always had a hand on her. As she got older she slept in the middle and the outside. We stopped when she began crawling and wasn't sleeping well in our bed -she just wanted to play. I also night weaned at that time.
My son was just born 12/1 and he is in our bed right from the start. I love that even though he is waking every 1-3 hours I can still get some good sleep!

Misty - posted on 12/03/2011

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@Liz Hutton. Where did you get that pillow? I have a queen size bed and have been trying to find some kind of rail but have had no luck since I have one of the tall matresses. My son fell off the bed (not while we were sleeping he just sort e lunged forward and I wasn't quick enough to stop him) and I haven't allowed him in the bed since but I'd like to let him and his sister sleep with me if they have a nightmare or when they're sick but I won't until I can find some sort of safety rail cuz my bed is high off the ground and I won't risk another fall.

Holly Janelle - posted on 12/03/2011

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My daughter is 8 months and we are co-sleeping with my fiancé and I and we are about to transition her to her crib next to our bed... We'll see how that goes I may wait until she is 12 months when she isn't so reliant on me for nutrition and on a regular solids diet.

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I have bed-shared with my almost 15mo son since birth. I have a product called a Snug Tuck Pillow (soft foam pillow rail) on his side of the bed.

Susan - posted on 12/03/2011

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our son slept with us for the first 3 years, we loved it. He now falls asleep with us and then we move him to his little bed. It's been great for us, no problems

Lise - posted on 12/02/2011

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My dd still sleeps in our bed. She starts the night in her bed and then joins us when she wakes. I love it. :)

Dlindas22@hotmail.com - posted on 12/02/2011

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I'm doing it too with my 11 week old baby. My daughter has also been real colicky due to reflux and sleeping with her has helped her sleep much better!! I dont see anything wrong with it! I was a single parent for a long time with my first and she slept with me till she was 12 years old!! lol

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My son was in my bed from birth-6 months (actually upright ON me for the first 5), his crib from 6-14ish months, and back in my bed full time til 2ish. For the past year and a half (he's 3 years 8 months) his crib has had one side removed and been right up next to my bed. I try to keep him in his bed since we both sleep better that way, but most of the night he's in my bed.

Christina - posted on 12/02/2011

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My son is 13mths and still sleeps in our bed. I put a bad rail on my side of the bed so that he can't roll out of bed (he never has yet!) I also taught him as early as I could how to get out of the bed safely. He hasn't been sleeping well for the last couple months, he wakes up sometimes every 45 mins all night. But I just roll over, nurse him and we both fall back asleep while nursing, it is very nice :)

Olivia - posted on 12/02/2011

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So are you asking everyone else if they co-sleep and what they did I am guessing...



Me and my fiancee share a cali king with our 23 month old DD (we are about to set up a mattress by our bed to transition her how she feels comfortable) and our 4 month old son as well sleeps with us. This is what works for us and despite having a newborn and my daughter going through her language explosion milestone where she would wake herself up frequently talking (that's just about over with)--I get fairly decent sleep, maybe a straight 4-5 hours sometimes :D lol

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