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Co-sleeping and Nursing to Sleep

Stacey - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am a huge proponent of co-sleeping. It definitely feels like the most natural way for our family, especially because I am nursing. My baby is 7 months old and we are hoping to conceive another child in the coming months. I would love to keep Jonah in bed with us as long as he wants to be there but if we have a new baby, he will have to go into the crib. What have been people's experiences with transitioning older babies to the crib after 1 year + of co-sleeping. I have heard that six months is the ideal time to make the shift but I would like to keep him there until a sibling arrives. Any thoughts?

If it is advisable that we begin the transition sooner than later, he other issue for us is that Jonah is always nursed to sleep. If we try to move him into a routine where he sleeps in his crib, how can we break the nurse-to-sleep habit?

Thank in advance for your ideas!


Jessica - posted on 10/03/2010




I nursed to sleep/coslept with my daughter until she was almost a year. I ended up breaking the nurse-to-sleep cycle by nursing her first and then brushing teeth and reading a story. It took us a while to get her to go to sleep on her own, but I was going back to work after a year and I needed the bed back to just the adults! I continued to nurse her in the evening until she was about 15 months but we got into a good bedtime routine and there was less crying and fussing before sleep after we separated the nursing from the immediate sleeping. She's now 2 and goes to sleep in her crib no problem. Our next task will be big girl bed since I am now expecting baby 2! :) I think it's a matter of knowing your baby and enjoying the time you have together. I'm sure whatever you decide you will make it work for you guys! :)

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2009




I nurse my daughter to sleep (she is 10 months) with cosleeping, then once she's removed herself I place her in her crib. Typically it works out well. She spends about 3/4 of the night in her crib, then in the wee hours of the morning when she gets up I'll nurse her again for a little nap (that's when I take my morning shower and get ready for the day).

best of luck!

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Stacey, You can transition almost any time you want. It's usually about 3 years before they willingly transition themselves. Having said that, our 2 1/2 yr old had to be transitioned before I had his brother. We got a late start (a month before I was due) and hubby usually has to lay down with him for a while before he'll go to sleep. He still sleeps with us quite often though, especially if he's sick or not having a good night.
We have a queen sized bed, so not huge, BUT the cot is in a side car arrangement to our bed. That gives us more room and the baby usually sleeps there because it's right next to me. If you don't want to transition him just yet, think about side carring the cot (we just left the side that raises and lowers off and that's the side that's against our bed). In fact, the way we transitioned Seth was from our bed, to side carred cot, then put the side onto the cot and slowly started moving it away from the bed until he was on the other side of the room, then lastly into his room.
Personally, I say co-sleep until you or the kids don't want to anymore. It does build a great bond between you and the kids.

Michelle - posted on 08/06/2009




My 5 month old always seems to fall asleep at her last feeding even though her doctor wants me to put her to bed just drowsy and not asleep. But sometimes she is like just kinda almost in the milk coma and has her eyes slightly open ... I just take her from feeding position try to burp her (which usually doesn't happen since she has fallen asleep) then lay her in her crib. If and when she is slightly awake she does fall asleep in about 10 min... I do not co-sleep though. Our bed is way to small so I never started that! Sorry can't help you with that!

Samantha - posted on 08/06/2009




We transitioned ours at least a couple of months before the baby was due, and our thinking was that if we made the transition before the we brought the baby home then the older one wouldn't feel like they were being "replaced" by the baby.


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Lacey - posted on 08/06/2009




As a child of co-sleeping, my parents didn't have a another child after me until I was almost 4 years old. Even after he was born I continued to sleep with my parents. So let your son sleep with you as long as he needs to in order for him to be comfortable. It has really helped me and my brothers be more independent as teens and adults.

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