Co-sleeping concerns

Meghan - posted on 07/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son turns 7 months old tomorrow. He is exclusively breastfed and eating full meals 3 times a day. He has never slept through the night. He wakes up anywhere between 2 to 4 hours every night to nurse. Now, I realize after being on solid food for an entire month he should at least be sleeping longer. Am I wrong? We also co-sleep and I am wondering if this is causing him to wake up.

Do I just have a baby who thinks he's too cool to sleep? I bought him a crib last weekend and the 2nd night he was in it, he slept 5 hours straight, which seemed like some progress! I just don't know what to do anymore. He does horribly in the crib and sleeps very little in it now, despite my putting him down in it for naps during the day, and when we co-sleep, he doesn't sleep any better. I dont know if its teething..he has 2 teeth already, which he cut at 5 months. It's just been going on for so long, (since he was born, pretty much), I don't remember what its like to sleep anymore. Maybe I need to be more patient?

I guess I'm just looking for encouragement and to know I am not the only mama who aint getting any sleep lol. Thanks for reading my rant. :)


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Minnie - posted on 07/26/2009




I think that you need to rethink where you're coming from. Solids will not make an infant sleep 'better' at night, nor will sleeping alone in a crib. Infants sleep 'through the night' without bothering you to put themselves back to sleep when they're developmentally ready to.

It is true, co-sleeping infants wake more often, but you must realize that cosleeping is actually the biological norm for sleeping arrangements for infants. They're made to need to sleep with their mothers. So if you look at it from that point of view, your son is being perfectly normal, and it is good for him to wake frequently to nurse. Long deep stretches of sleep actually increase the risk of SIDS.

What I do to get sleep is latch my daughter on when she wakes, prop a pillow behind my back and under my knees, and go back to sleep.

Just for reference, she's nine months old. And wakes 3-4 times a night to nurse and go back to sleep. My three year old wakes during the night and needs me too. Children don't begin to consistently and willingly (and gently, I might add) put themselves back to sleep without parental help until they are about three.

I'm sure that you understand that when your son wakes, he can't go get an easy-reading magazine and a cup of herbal tea to help him get drowsy again. So have a bit of empathy for him.

Tara - posted on 07/26/2009




When my son was younger it was the same...don't worry it will pass. He napped in his crib and would start in his crib at night. His first wake up he came to bed with us and nursed on and off though the night. These night time feeds are very beneficial to boosting milk production as well as comforting the teething discomfort away. The number of wake ups will vary but my son continued the pattern until we weaned him at 2 years old.

Dana - posted on 07/26/2009




my daughter sleeps in bed with us. she is 13 months old today and STILL nurses every 1-3 hrs at night. she does eat solids during the day, but still loves her milk a few times a day, and several times at night. you are not alone, this is normal breastfed baby behavior. breastmilk is supposed to be where baby gets 100% of his nutrition from for the first year, so it makes sense that he is nursing that often. take advantage of the cuddle and snuggle time now, because before you know it you will have to beg for that time!

Heather - posted on 07/26/2009




Meghan, I am not sure we are in the same exact situation but I can say, you are not alone. We cosleep with our 11 week year old daughter out of survival b/c she would wake up within minutes if I put her down in bassinett. I am terrified to try the crib b/c if it doesn't work, we don't want to bring her back to the bed and give instead, we just haven't tried. I get very little sleep b/c of the cosleeping. I am always concerned about my daughter. The good news is that she does seem to sleep well next to us.

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