demand feeding vs. scheduled

Wendy - posted on 01/17/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




Hi all!

My son has reflux and because of this he often wants to comfort feed-this means though, that he's likely to over eat-the doctor suggested eating less more often (the baby, not me, lol)-so far, I've been demand feeding, but this last week I've been trying to get him into a routine/schedule-any tips on how to successfully transition to scheduled feedings? I'm having trouble.


Terra - posted on 01/19/2009




Wendy, What I found with the transition is to be consistant! and keep them pre ocupied during the times he wants to feed -my Jayden would love to take a stroll and that way he was far enough away from me he couldn't smell my milk, he did fuss but he was fine- and then make 15 min transitions and he will eventualy get there. but as for the reflux I would say ask the doctor how often he should eat, I have never delt with that matter. Oh the great thing about a baby on a schedule is they (and you) know what is comming. I also recomend scheduling in EVERYTHING; wake time, eating, naps, bath time, play time, and bed time. If your baby knows what is next he feels secure. And when you know that he is fed, dry, and has had enough sleep it is easier to pen point any issues that arise. I read in a book once to use Eat Activity Sleep You time - it really is EASY!!!! and don't feel bad to use your You time on YOU -no cleaning ext-, he will soon be old enough to let you go, right now you need to fill your cup so you can be full of love to give to him !!!!!!


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Michelle - posted on 10/31/2010




If you have trouble with the acifier try put some gluclose (or if u can get it vegemite) my daughter loved it

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2010




get a dummy (pacifier) thats how i did it, my daughter was a week when i started schedule feeding and it helped soo much especially with nights

Terri - posted on 10/27/2010




Have you tried taking him to a chiropractor it helped my little one. got rid of reflux ,happier baby i had.

Wendy - posted on 01/20/2009




Terra-are there any books, or other tips that you would recommend? It seems that my line of thinking on this matter is a lot like yours-Hope you can give me some tips! Any recommendations would be really appreciated as far as books are concerned-that goes to everyone but particularly Terra, if there is one that helped you get your guy on a schedule. Thanks again all!

Christine - posted on 01/19/2009




Here is a great website you should check out:

La Leche Leage:

Congrats on the new baby!  You shouldn't worry about him wanting to comfort feed at all, even with reflux.  Within the first couple of months my son was always at the breast.  When breastfeeding I feel it is important to follow your babes cues, especially when they are very young.  The need for suckling is an instinct.  The most natural and beautiful way to comfort your baby and fulfill that need is by letting them suckle at your breast.  I hope you can find a good lactation consultant to help you out.

Tara Lee - posted on 01/19/2009




Quoting Lorilynne:

  You may want to find a la leche league near you and attend a meeting or two.  Doctors are great but they aren't always reliable on the breastfeeding info.

I have to agree with Lorilynne. Find a la leche leaguenear you, or try your local health unit to see if they have a breastfeeding clinic(mine does).  We thought P. had reflux, but what was really happening was that I was producing too much milk and she was drinking too fast, causing her to bring up most of her feedings. The bfing nurse advised me on how to reduce my milk and now P. very rarely brings up her feeding and is actually put herself on a schedual(sleeping through the night with 1 wake up feeding only). Good Luck !!

Kerry - posted on 01/19/2009




My first boy had reflux really bad, 7-8 changes of clothes a day, you could only hold him one way etc and he was on zantac for 1 year. Being first time parents we really struggled and stressed out about how much he was keeping down and how much weight he was gaining and it was sooooo frustrating eveytime he threw up all i can say to you is accept the gorgeous little boy you have and his leaky tummy. people will tell you it will stop at 3, 6, 9 or 12 months but don't hold out too much just see what happens, there is nothing you can do but enjoy your little man

Wendy - posted on 01/18/2009




Liam is only 6 weeks-he too would only sleep on me-literally-he's now in his car seat most times-but we like the heart to heart time each day too. He is gaining weight really well actually. I'm not so worried about that...and yes, it's possible for a baby to over eat-he has done it. I appreciate all of the advice so very much all! So far it's been very informative and helpful. Scheduling has been good so far-I use that loosely-it's not STRICTLY every 2 hours-anyway-does anyone else have books they found helpful? I feel absolutely lost as a parent so far!

Sharon - posted on 01/17/2009




I am a mother that believes 100% in scheduling. I believe babies crave that, they like it, structure is very important. However, I don't think you can schedule breast fed babies that are on the breast (bottle fed breast milk babies, I believe you can because I did that with my first born) BUT when they are on the breast, I don't see how that is possible. You can help get a routine down for naps and bedtime, baths, etc. Good luck!

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babies should never be put on a schedule. they should be allowed to eat when hungry. by messing with your babies hunger cues you are putting him at risk for eating disorders and possibly obesity. put the baby to the breast whenever he needs comforting, but try block feeding to ensure he gets enough hind milk and doesn't overfill on foremilk.

Beth - posted on 01/17/2009




My daughter had reflux too. How old is your son? I started my daughter on rice cereal at 5 1/2 months and that helped her keep things down. I think she just outgrew it shortly there after.

I read the book Babywise and that helped me learn more about having a routine. I know one thing that really stuck out to me from the book is that having a schedule isn't necessarily being a slave to the clock. They recommended making sure your baby gets a full feeding and not snacks. I know from my experience with my 2 girls that eventually a schedule worked itself out naturally as long as I made sure they nursed long enough to get full each time.

Lorilynne - posted on 01/17/2009




Going longer between feedings during the day doesn't necessarily mean that you have to go to scheduled feedings.  Whenever I feel like my son is using me more for comfort (he tends to want to nurse to help himself fall asleep)  I just keep try to distract him from the breast by playing with him or giving him kisses or singing to him.  Anything to keep him calm basically.    Also, according to everything I've read or heard about breastfeeding, its not really possible for babies to over feed when they are breastfed.  If they are nursing too frequently, it just means that they aren't getting enough of the hind milk and so they won't stay full as long.  I would start with trying to stretch out the feedings first and then start getting him on sleep schedule.  Once he's on a sleep schedule, he'll more than likely start eating at the same times every day.  Try to go at least three hours between feedings and you should see a difference.  My is on a pretty consistent sleep schedule now and I just did it by paying attention to his tired cues and then putting him down for sleep before he got fussy.  I've found that he's starting to eat about the same times every day but I'm still demand feeding.  You may want to find a la leche league near you and attend a meeting or two.  Doctors are great but they aren't always reliable on the breastfeeding info.

Lindsay - posted on 01/17/2009




My son also had reflux for 4 months, we fed every 3 hours during the day and every 2 at night, he didnt gain any weight for the first 10 weeks due to his reflux. He was not able to keep anything down. He went on Prevacid and that helped ALOT he started being able to eat and keep it down and gainned weight, we were then able to feed him every 3 hours all day and night. How old is your baby? My ped recommended demand feeding due to the lack of weight gain. Will he sleep? my son would not unless being held. You could try a sling in between feeds ?

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