embarrasing moments

Justine - posted on 04/05/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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So I am very happy that I chose to breast feed however I feel it might be time to stop. My daughter is 14 months old and unfortuneatly her father and I used the word boobie when feeding and now she grabs my shirt and says boobie all the time in the most public places. She doesn;t even really want to eat she just wants to see it and sip. What do i do?

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Stasia - posted on 04/08/2009

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aw, Justine that is so cute (though embarassing I am sure) I am not sure whether she can understand if you explain it to her that boobie might not be the right word to use anymore and maybe she can use milk? Maybe if she says boobie don't give her the breast and say milk. Eventually she will only get the breast when she says milk? Sorry Im not much help Im not in that situation yet but I appreciate your story as my daughter is ten months and I will stop calling it boobie now!!!! thanks!

Allison - posted on 04/05/2009

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Quoting Kylie:


 



We were at a coffee shop one day and my girl was about 15 months and she started to cry loudly so I popped her on the boob but she had got into the habit of grabbing my other boob and playing with it while she fed. I was happily chatting away, I didn’t even really notice what she was doing and a few older women got up and gave me a disgusted look and walked out leaving their coffees behind. I decided that day to make boobie time for home or friends and families homes only.





That reminds me of  a positive comment I got at a coffee shop. I had sat there to feed my son (he was about 5 months or so) and I wasn't drinking anything (I hate coffee). A woman came by and said "Oh look, he's having his Leche too!" in a very happy, positive voice :-) It was cute. Then she apologized for the comment, but I thought it was cute.



I've not limited my younger child (he's 2 now) from nursing in public like I did with my older child. I'm more comfortable with  nursing in public and I don't care if someone else gets offended - I try my best to keep myself covered (I don't want people seeing my bare breasts) but I don't think they should be trying to look, either. I don't think my son has nursed in public much in the past 6 months or so. Sometimes at our playgroup he has, but mostly he's just too busy when we're out to stop and nurse. 

Kylie - posted on 04/05/2009

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My eldest child’s first word was boobie and even before she could talk she would cluck the sounds boo bee while on the breast. I thought it was the most beautiful thing ever and I figured she was extremely clever considering the word has two different sounds unlike mama or dada. She used to pat my breasts in public and say boobie and I would get a few strange looks from other shoppers. I learned just to focus her attention on something else if she started thinking about wanting a comfort feed when we were out and keeping some snacks or a comfort toy while shopping always helped. Also explaining to her "yes bubba, when we get home you can have a drink" she learned pretty fast at that age.

We were at a coffee shop one day and my girl was about 15 months and she started to cry loudly so I popped her on the boob but she had got into the habit of grabbing my other boob and playing with it while she fed. I was happily chatting away, I didn’t even really notice what she was doing and a few older women got up and gave me a disgusted look and walked out leaving their coffees behind. I decided that day to make boobie time for home or friends and families homes only.



I fed my daughter until she way 2 and by that time it was started to hurt as she had all her teeth so I told her it hurts mummy now.. owch!  she understood so weaning was easy



 

Allison - posted on 04/05/2009

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Yeah...it's always important to think about what you're going to call nursing so you don't get that loud, "boobie" call in public ;-) But, honestly, it's really not that bad - who cares what other people think about your nursing your toddler?

Of course, it's not appropriate for a child to pull up your shirt in public or at home, or demand to nurse when you aren't ready or able. It's important to set up some boundaries - tell her how she is to ask to nurse (in our house we've always done the sign for milk or called it "milk") and tell her she cannot lift up your shirt. If she does, just be firm and say that she may not lift up your shirt - you will get everything ready and then nurse her. She's very young, so it may take some time to do this and get her to understand....but she will get it. Try to be matter of fact "We don't do that" and not angry or upset or anything.

She's probably also getting to the age where you can tell her she can't nurse right now. At about that time I started only nursing my toddler in the house or car...so I'd ask her to wait until we got back to the car. When I knew she was able to wait a fair bit, I started telling her we only nurse at home.

I highly recommend the book Mothering Your Nursing Toddler by Norma Jane Bumgarner. It talks about this and other issues that are specific to nursing a toddler which is *so* different than nursing an infant :-)

Good luck!

Alison - posted on 04/05/2009

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omg...im right there with you. I went on holiday to Crete with my daughter when she was 14 months......the beach was a disaster as she just thought it was fast food if i was in a bikini!!!!!! To make it worse we were visiting my Dad who lives there. Poor Dad didnt know were to put himself and i was of course mortified. Sorry not much help, but i thought it might give you a laugh and know your not alone!! We didnt go to the beach much that holiday. ;-)

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