Family and Breastfeeding?

Tori - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a 13 month old son who is the ligth of my life. His father really isnt in the picture except when the dead beet wants for some stupid thing only to show him off about every 3 months. My biggest problem right now is the fact his mom and i talk and get along she had a problem with me nursing him still. i get the "still:" and i get the well he needs to take a bottle so his dad can take him. his dad dont take him or spend time with him why should i have to push a bottle on my son faster than what i want to. we just started weaning about 2 weeks ago and he is just now taking and finishing a bottle half milk half formula is the only way he will take a bottle. and not to mention the only formula he can take is 20 bucks a can why should i send my hard earned dollars to his fathers house when he dont pay support or take care of him. why should i take the time to pump when his father dont take the time to get to know his son? i have just been kind of ignoring her and blowing off taking him over to see his grandma cause of this what should i do?


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Kristin - posted on 05/05/2010




Stop blowing your money on the formula, he doesn't need it at his age. Finish what you've got and then move on. Definitely skip the bottle, just use the sippy cups.

Okay, here's my 2 cents. Breastfeed for as long as you both want. Give your son some milk in his sippy at meal times. If he drinks it great. If he doesn't, eh, it will come with time. He can always have water too.

Now for G'ma, I'm sure she means well and really wants her son to have a relationship with his child. But, her son needs to be talking to you about this and you should tell her. Her subtly making demands for you to change how you are parenting is silly when he isn't indicating any desire to have a relationship with his son. You can always tell her you will consider this when baby's dad asks for time with his child.

Take your child to visit his G'ma. And when you go take some info on how good for this precious baby/toddler continued breastfeeding is. This is a good time to talk to her about how you would be happy to consider her son's needs when her son comes to you to talk about them. Tell her that you love that your son has her in his life, but the continued pressure is uncomfortable and you won't visit as much if it continues. Be kind when you talk to her about this, you both want what's best for your babies.

Andrea - posted on 05/05/2010




Also, formula is only needed (if you must use it) before 1 year, after that cows milk is fine. There is no reason for you to spend any money on formula. Also, there is no need at that age for a bottle - just one more thing to wean from - go straight to a sippy cup - and try milk or milk/breastmilk. But only if you want to wean now - otherwise, forget it! Keep nursing.

Jeramie - posted on 05/05/2010




There is no reason you should change your routine to accommodate someone who isn't in his life. It might be good that you still have a relationship with your child's grandmother, but she is not the parent. you are.You know that breastfeeding is best for your son, and shouldn't let yourself be pressured into stopping for someone else's benefit. Maybe the grandmother is worried that her own relationship with your son will be hurt because her son isn't in the picture. That is probably true, so she should be pressuring her son to be in his son's life, not pressuring you to give up some of your motherly duties.

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