HELP!! Baby is all for the boob, she won't take a bottle

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




I guess I waited too long to start her on a bottle. she is 11 weeks now but I've been trying to get her to take a bottle for about a month now. It's my milk, I make sure it's warm, and I've tried different bottles. She just fights it and screams until I feel so bad because she is hungry so I give up and nurse her. I've thrown out so much milk and I'll never get back to work if she needs me to eat. How can I can I get her to take a bottle??


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Rebekah - posted on 04/16/2012




If you really want her to take a bottle, the keys will be consistency and perseverance. I tried basically every trick with my daughter and eventually I just gave up (when she was about 3 months old). It turned out to be the longest year of my life. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and not having a break from her was very hard on me, emotionally. Then when my supply started to diminish at 9 months, I had no way to supplement. She lost 2lbs by the time she was a year old, and was "failing to thrive."

With my son (3rd child), I started offering a bottle between 6-8 weeks and discovered the same resistance. This time around I picked ONE type of bottle, ONE method, and stuck with it. I didn't try it 100 different ways, with 100 different people, or at 100 different temperatures. He gagged a lot at first, he'd spit it out, he'd cry, but I never gave up. So I think, in some ways, the secret (at any age) is to just pick your method and then consistently follow it. I would also recommend giving her a bottle at least once a week (after she gets the hang of it) so she won't unlearn how to take it.

Ellen - posted on 04/15/2012




I'm sure baby would appreciate being breastfed as opposed to having nice clothes and toys. Relax, breastfeed, and use cloth diapers. You aren't as important anymore.

Megan - posted on 04/12/2012




i had to hold the bottle next to my boob like i was nursing it worked for me

Angie - posted on 04/11/2012




My little one took a bottle for the first 6 weeks. I had mastitis soon after she was born so had to combine formula and bf. At 6 weeks she just refused the bottle. She has never taken a pacifier either. She is 7 months now, still bf, and I am not able to leave her for more than a few hours. She's eating three small meals a day which helps a lot. She's drinking herbal tea from a sippy cup though, still refuses the formula. I tried different bottles, formulas and numerous pacifiers, no go. Not even expressed breast milk worked. Work is out of the question and thank goodness it was an option. I dont know how I would have managed. Im now a SAHM and finding it pretty difficult to be so isolated. I knew having a baby would change things, but Ive had to really re-engineer my whole life. The best thing I guess is to give in to it and go with the flow. Its just a few more months and weaning takes time. Every baby is different too. Good luck and hang in there!

Jennifer - posted on 04/11/2012




Well I'm lucky enough to work at a daycare where they told me to take as much time as I need. I have to date I have to be back by but no hours means no pay so the sooner the better. I enjoy nursing her and she loves the cuddle time but it just worries me that if for some reason something happens to where I'm gone for more than a couple hours she will be miserable. I have gotten her to take an ounce or two after I had her milk drunk and switch her over. It's kinda like having to prime a lawn mower lol.

Amy - posted on 04/10/2012




I agree with Lori have someone else try the bottle, and for your own piece of mind it would probably be best if you weren't there. She's going to be frustrated but will more likely accept it if you aren't around. One of the things we did with my daughter was my husband would give her a bottle in the middle of the night while she was half asleep. Maybe try to start of by breasfeeding her and then switch onto the bottle but make sure it's done as discreetly as possible she may accept if if she's in a mama's milk coma.

Lori - posted on 04/10/2012




Try having someone else give the bottle when you are not in the same room. You may even need to leave the house. Many babies won't take a bottle from mom when they know there's a much better way of getting fed. It may take a few tries, but she'll eventually figure it out. Also, try having that someone else offer a bottle every day. Let her play with it if she wants to just to get used to it. Make sure you're using a slow flow nipple on the bottle too.

Also the first few weeks your gone she may drink much less from the bottle than she would if she was nursing directly, but then will want to make up the difference when she does see you. This is called reverse cycling and is fairly common.

When do you go back to work?

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