Help! He's getting grabby!

Andrea - posted on 03/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi everyone. I actually just joined this site so I could connect with other breastfeeding moms. I have a question regarding a recent behavior my almost 8 month old has. He is EBF and eats on a pretty regular schedule although I do feed on demand if he wants it. Lately, he has been grabbing at my breast and trying to take down my bra so he can feed and at first I thought it was because he might be hungry I am discovering it's not. He will latch on, drink a little, stop, play with something else or look around and then come back again. I am not even sure if he is actually drinking. He has been doing this for three days and today I decided to stop it. When I realized he wasn't drinking I closed the milk shop and he LOST IT. He almost turned blue in the face. So now I am scared that he is actually hungry and that I am denying him........anyone else have this experience and if so, what did you do?


Lori - posted on 03/30/2013




Welcome Andrea!

The grabbing seems like pretty typical behavior. Though I forget what age mine started that, and what age I finally got them to understand "nursing manners". But - whenever your LO is doing something that you don't like, or really don't want to see continue, it's a good time to start teaching them.

I don't know that I would close shop because of latching and being distracted and going back.... but I might close shop because of grabbing.

I do remember that 8 - 9 months starts a VERY distractible period. It can be very difficult to continue to breastfeed because of how easily baby is distracted from nursing. They are just SOOOOOO interested in EVERYTHING going on around them. The best thing I did was start feeding in a semi dark room and feeding in the same place every time (if I could). For me, if I was at home, that was in the rocking chair in the babies room with the lights turned off. My older one (3 yrs old at the time) was instructed to play on her own and not to disturb us while I nursed the baby. Generally the baby didn't nurse long enough for the older one to need anything or to get into trouble, but removing ourselves from play time got the baby to settle in and nurse. ALSO - keep in mind that an 8 month old is a much more effective nurser than a newborn. Most 8 month olds can drain a breast in a matter of just a few minutes. They don't need to nurse for 20 minutes or more like they did when younger.

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