Help I'm trying to wean my 19mth old son!

Amanda - posted on 01/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )




I need help. I'm trying to wean my 19mth old son. During the day, I can manage to keep him off. At night is very different, he goes to sleep on the breast, and wakes up during the night wanting the breast. He is finishing his teething at this time as well. I done what I had been doing, giving him something to drink or eat to get his mind off the ninnie as I call it. I brought him back home today from baby sitters, he threw the biggest tantrum he has ever thrown ever! I know his teeth is hurting. So I couldn't handel the screaming anymore and gave in. He is fine now. Playing with his older brothers, and watching Thomas. I don't know how to get this child off the breast. He is demanding when he comes to the breast. I am a strong woman, but my goodness I never knew it would be so hard to get them off the breast. Plus I can't conceive another child til I stop breastfeeding. Me and my husband want to try one more time for a lil girl. Which if it's not thats fine. Point being I need some expert advice on how to get my son off the breast for good. Please anyone. Thanks


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Amy - posted on 01/10/2013




I have 3 kids. My youngest is 18 months and still breastfeeding. What worked for me with my other 2 was having my husband sleep with them in another room/vise-versa with a cuppie of milk. For the weekend. If you can get help with that and won't come to the rescue when the baby is crying, you'll have your problem solved lol. Also whoever said you can't conceive while nursing I got pregnant with my second when I was still nursing. All my children have only had the breast also, never had a bottle. I stopped breastfeeding my 1st when he was 19months, I was pregnant for 3 of those :) good luck!

Alexandria - posted on 01/10/2013




I tried and tried for months to wean my daughter. She would throw major tantrums at night, wear me down, make me wonder if her crying was keeping the neighbors in the connecting townhouse awake, so I'd give in. Within like 5-15 mins of letting her nurse she'd fall asleep nursing; some nights she'd almost instantly fall asleep once I gave in, which made it hard for me to push her or myself to follow through with weaning. But it was stressing me out... She was 2.5, my first child, and I was wondering if she'd be in elementary school and not yet fully weaned.

Finally, the thing that worked was for my husband to let me go visit family for a weekend and leave our daughter with him. Since I wasn't there, there was no way for her to nurse so she just had to accept it. My husband spent the weekend doing active things with her so that she'd be good and tired by bedtime and he let her watch her favorite show to fall asleep to. When I got back at the end of the weekend, I told my daughter that I had taken my milk back to the cows and that we'd have to get our milk from the cows from now on (even though I was giving her mostly organic soy milk at that point, the cow business made sense to her). I had already started the dialogue about how we'd soon have to just drink cows milk, so she knew it was coming. After that, she still wanted me to cuddle her to sleep most nights and have that closeness but was fine with not being able to nurse after seeing first hand that it was possible for her to fall asleep without it. For a long time after that weekend, she'd ask me if my 'nurs' were broken and I'd confirm that yes, they were broken. lol So cute! If not for my husband's willingness to really step up and allow my daughter and I some time apart that weekend, I don't know how I would have been able to follow through. I was at my wits end and I think he knew he'd better do something to help keep me sane. Gold star for Daddy! And, of course, Daddy got what he wanted out of it... baby #2 is on the way now. I'm betting that Daddy will have to take a weekend with the new baby when it's time to wean him. But maybe this baby will be different, who knows.

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