HELP i was asked "How did baby come out of your stomach" ???

Casey - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )




Oh help me.... My 4.5 yr old girl asked how did her sister come out of my stomach, her words exactly.. luckily we were driving, baby was crying and i was about to jump out the car to grab meat for dinner why daddy waited with the girls in the car... i was rattled !!!! WHAT was i going to say, shes 4, oh dear please forget what you asked me i prayed !! she did ... FOR NOW !! If anyones been in my situation with a girl of the same age, please...... what did you say. What am i going to say? I wasnt expecting this at all... OMG lol


Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2010




if she's asking, she's probably ready for the answer. my oldest of 3 is now 6. I've learned to use her questions (and life's circumstances) as a guide for when to provide info.

My 6yo knows all about PG & birth (we had home births for her siblings and there was the possibility of her being present for the birth, so I prepared her by talking a lot and watching homebirth videos.), conception, periods and breast development.

Tonights Q was mommy, why do you have curly hair there? DH was in the room and neither of us could stop giggling. but she was stone serious. I fankly explained how the hair helps protect against infection and irritation.

short honest answers. little bits at a time, as their Qs dictate.

When she repeats this Q (and she will) you will find the right answer for your DD. you don't have to explain all the details yet. she simply wants to know how the baby comes out. you might simply tell her that just like her, her sister came out of your vagina (or describe a c/s if that is your case but be sure to explain than most babies are born vaginally, so she understands what is normal).

Better to start the dialogue now, before someone else does in a few years. She's curious and receptive to the info. use that as your in. she may not be so open to discussing it when she's 11. teach her that its ok to ask you Qs like this. I certainly perfer to teach my daughters and son (age 4 who knows almost as much as my 6 year old) my values first, before anyone else has a chance to influence them.

Eman - posted on 05/04/2010




Im all for being honest however, i dont think its a good idea to tell your 4 year old that babies come out of a vagina. It will just confuse them and and make them ask more like how? its so small? ect... last thing you need is your little one going around telling everyone that a baby came out of mummys vagina.. I agree with telling your little one that a baby is taken out of your tummy by the doctor. Its straight forward and shouldnt pose anymore questions. Your not lieing as your explaining a ceserian birth and she will find out about natural birth later on when she is older.. either by yourself or at school :)

Kristin - posted on 05/04/2010




I told my daughters when they were 5 and 4 that there is a special place just for the babies to come out. It was all they needed to hear at that time. Remember to relax and give straight forword answers, they will ask for more when they are ready. When the time came to answer where that place was I explained that too. Simple answers and don't freak out it only gets harder...We have puberty classes coming!!! LOL

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This question was brought up on The Doctors. They said that telling them a doctor cut the baby out of your belly is way scarier than telling the truth. Kids are going to ask questions. Answer them honestly. Do you want to be the one to tell her these things or do you want her to find the answers elsewhere (like friends, or TV)? If you did have a c-section you can still explain it like Jennifer suggested. My mom was always open with me and I always felt comfortable asking her things. I prefer to have that kind of relationship with my daughter (and future children). I don't want to hide things from them.


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Jcjx - posted on 06/25/2014




Tell here that the doctors cut your belly then they put it back. When I was small I asked my mom and she said that. I believed and I was 5

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2010




just be honest but age appropriate, using language you are comfortable with. you could tell her some babies are taken out of their mommies stomach, but most are born through a special place women have called a vagina. yes, it may lead to more questions, but remember, she has the same anatomy, don't be uncomfortable.

Nicole - posted on 05/07/2010




I told mine the doctor takes the baby out. They did not ask anymore questions until they were older. My girlfriend always said give alittle info and if they do not ask more then they have gotten all they need and can handle but they will ask more eventually! Good Luck

Lindsey - posted on 05/07/2010




I was honest with my 4 1/2 year old. He'll tell you babies come from bellies and they come out of woo-hoos and if they can't come out the woo-hoo the dr will take them out of your belly. lol

Nicola - posted on 05/07/2010




Tell the truth. It doesn't have to be graphic or explicit but if you lie to her she'll know it's not right. Kids aren't daft and they have a feeling for the truth so don't bother saying anything about the stork. Tell her calmly what happens and in basic terms so she can easily understand. My little girl asked me the same thing about a year ago and she's the same age as your daughter. She knows where babies come from and how they get out. I've been through this four times so far. As mother to 5 kiddies as the next one comes along the youngest asks the question.

Brean - posted on 05/06/2010




i was a little older than this, but when i was almost 6, my mom got pregnant with my little brother, Albert, and she was straightforward and honest with me and my 8 year old sister, she told us that our brother would come out of her vagina, unless the dr said it was dangerous, than he would be cut out of her tummy. i accepted the answer and that was it.

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The truth. It's really not as hard as many people make it out to be. My twins knew from the time they were 3 how they were born (c-section) and when they were 5 they found out how their cousin was going to be born (vaginally).

Good luck! Those twins are 8 now and I'm working myself up to the 'sex talk'. We've had many 'prep' talks, but no details of the actual act. THAT one is making me a tad uncomfortable, but it's more an issue of knowing how much info is appropriate at what age.....

Lisa-Marie - posted on 05/06/2010




I told my 4 year old that Mummy goes to the hospital and that the doctors help mummy get the baby out. He was really happy with that answer and hasn't asked for anymore details.

Kristin - posted on 05/05/2010




Just tell her the truth in a totally anatomical sense and leave it at that. Answer only what she asks, don't elaborate. The female body is designed to have the baby come out through the vagina. 'nough said. This is only complicated if you let it be.

Minnie - posted on 05/04/2010



788 just about four year old knows exactly what happens. I pushed her out through my vagina. She's watched many a birth video on you tube.

I tend to answer her questions honestly, and to the point, just as my mother did for me.

April - posted on 05/04/2010




my mom was honest with me...she told me that babies come out of vaginas!! i think i was just about 5 years old when she told me that!! for a long time i kept looking in the toliet to see if i would pee out a baby! lol!

Michelle - posted on 05/04/2010




I was straight forward and honest, but to the point with my 5 year old when she asked . You don't need to go all in detail . Kids generally accept honest and short answers .

Ashley - posted on 05/04/2010




My best friend has a little girl of the same age and me being prego and having a baby raised questions. My friend was honest and said babys come out of your vagina. She didnt see the point in lying to her. She'll find out someday and on that day she may remember what you told her and think you lied to her. She may be puzzeled and confused about it but she knows theres a hole there and that is where they come out of. Or if you had a c section you could tell her some babys get cut out of your tummy. Just relax and remember the sipplest answer may satisfy her. Good luck and try not to stress about it.

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