Help with daycare adjusting for my dd

Ashley - posted on 07/08/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 11 months old and ebf. She started a new daycare 1 week ago and is still having a hard time adjusting. The caregivers say she cries all day and won't take her bottles of bm. She cries when I drop her off and doesn't want me to leave. I'm not sure what to do and I hate hearing and seeing that she has a bad day at daycare because she is such a fun and loving baby at home. Two days last week I had to go pick her up bc the teacher called and said she had been crying all day and it was nap time and she was waking the other babies. I'm not sure ifs he's getting the attention she needs or is still trying to adjust. Help!

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Lori - posted on 07/08/2013

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My first question is: Is there anyway you can delay going back to work for a little longer? If you can manage it financially - it may be worth it to know you are taking care of your daughter.

If not.... I'm wondering if maybe a different day care would work better for her. I mean, I'm glad to hear they're telling you she is crying all day, and that they call you to pick her up.... but really... they're not calling you for her... they're calling you so she doesn't disturb the other babies. hmmmm........ I just don't know. How often does she get held there? How much attention is she getting from her new caregiver? Is she with the same caregiver each day? Being with different caregivers each day can make it even harder. If she's being looked after by one caregiver then assuming they pay adequate attention to her, it may just take some time for her to warm up and get attached to the new person.

Start asking some questions at the day care if you haven't already. How many babies per caregiver? Can you spend one day (or even an hour or so) there at the day care with your baby? Help her get used to the new place.

And another question for you! How does your daughter do taking a bottle of EBM from you? Or from Dad or Grandma or whoever? Many many breastfed babies resist drinking from a bottle. If she's not used to taking a bottle at home this will make the transition much harder of course. If she doesn't like a bottle, have you tried a sippy cup... or even a regular open cup. She's 11 months old - a bottle isn't necessary.

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Ashley - posted on 07/09/2013

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So today I stayed in the corner of the room while she went about her daily activities with caretakers. I noticed they really didn't pick up or comfort the babies when they cried, which I comfort and hold my daughter daily. Also she's with the same two caregivers each day with around 5 to 6 babies. It seemed like she was getting a good amount of attention mostly bc she was demanding it. I think this daycare is more with the CIO method and my daughter is definitely not used to that. I don't want to continue to change her daycare and in a few weeks she will be moving up to the one year old room, and I'm scared that once she starts to get used to this room she will have to soon get used to the one year old room. Ill continue to spend a few hours with her there until she warns up to the new place

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