HORRIBLE SLEEPER...

Lindsay - posted on 07/07/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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my daughter just turned 11 mos on the 4th. i fulltime breastfeed her. she does eat some baby food and some table food also. she has been sleeping horrible for a few mos. sometimes she will wake up every hour other times its every other hour or so.. she honestly slept better when she was a newborn. she will only take 1-2 naps a day and they arent late naps. depending on the day sometimes its 3 naps. sometimes i can get her back to sleep by rubbing her back and other times i have to lay her in bed w us and nurse her. any ideas or suggestions would be great.. and if ur little one does the same let me know so i dont feel like the only one :)

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Amanda - posted on 07/09/2010

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My baby was a horrible sleeper at 8 months and I was at my wits end. I finally went and got a book, Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child By Dr. Weissbluth. It was my lifesaver. My son is just over 9 months now is taking 2 decent naps during the day and sleeping trough the night most nights. We're still working on the night weaning some. I am a breatfeeding mother and my son sleeps in a crib. Yes his method does involve letting them cry but it does not take long at all and they benefit so much from learning to sleep. My son is a completely different baby now. So happy and able to play and focus so much better. I highly recommend getting his book and putting his advice into practice. You won't regret it!

Hannah - posted on 07/09/2010

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Oh but the one thing I did manage to do which I think helped a lot was to try to stop her falling asleep on the breast - pull baby off when they have had enough milk but are not quite asleep and let them do the last bit of dropping off in the cot.

Then they don't wake up later on in the night and think 'hey where am I what happened? Where did that boob go? Bring it back!' lol!

Hannah - posted on 07/09/2010

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My girl went through a phase like that at sround 9 months, I have to say I tried a few techniques but didn't have the energy to follow them through properly, but the phase passed......... and a few months later she has suddenly begun to sleep 6 - 7 hour stretches, something I never dreamed she would do without seroius intervention! So hang on in there! There are things you could try, but either way, it won't be forever x

Miranda - posted on 07/08/2010

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My son is 16 months old and would wake up 3-5 times a night! I would be the "beck-and-call" mom, and go in to soothe him back to sleep whether it was with breastfeeding him or picking him up and bouncing him back to sleep. I recently have been limiting him to only one nap a day (he was taking at least 2/day previously), and just "running him down". He has been basically sleeping through the night, or just waking up once, and putting himself back to sleep. Mind you I have only been doing this for a week, but it seems to be working. It was very hard for me to tell my son "no" when it came to breastfeeding in the middle of the night, but I had to limit him otherwise he just assumed it was always going to happen and started to depend on it, and I was not getting any sleep and was starting to not be the nicest person....Good luck!

Kara - posted on 07/08/2010

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I feel the same way!! He is 8 months and I B/F him to sleep and about 4hrs later he is up and wanting me to B/F him back to sleep. I try to rub his back or put his nukie in but that only works sometimes. He wakes up 2 more times after that. He sleeps most mornings til 6am which is nice cuz I work @ 8:30 but I'm so tired all the time. I heard he needs to learn how to self-sooth but it's hard?!

Nicole - posted on 07/08/2010

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I feel you pain! I have three children and all were terrible sleepers. I nursed all of them and people swore once they were on solids they would sleep... did not work! It took them until they were about 2 years old to sleep through the night. I would try to nap when she does. Good luck and know that it will get better!

Sylvia - posted on 07/07/2010

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I'm afraid that just sounds like normal 11-month-old-ness to me.

Eventually they do start sleeping longer ... eventually ...

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WElcome to my world. I am so tired, my babe slept better when a newborn, too - I think at 2 mos I got some 6-8 hour stints on a regular basis, now I am lucky to get 4!!. I am tired of nursing him to sleep, it's the only way. Like sick and tired...I feel bad for saying it, but I am! It's very taxing. You're not alone.

Pamela - posted on 07/07/2010

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i am the same b/f for 9.5 mts he cosleeps i started putting him to his cot at 6mts starting at 11pm and working down he goes in at 8.30 after falling asleep with the bottle and wakes an hour later for dodo then sleeps till around 11.30pm wakes for a bottle or a cuddle then comes into bed at 2.30 or so and wakes at 5 and then 8 still a bit unpredictable but i had to stop b/fing as he always fed every 2 hrs even at night and i have 2 older kids i thought 9.5 mts was pretty reasonable anyway but he definately wakes less after getting bottles instead of b/f as he liked the comfort of that ... you could just b/f at bedtime and all day and just give bottles on waking during the night thats what i did i am still wrecked as still no full night sleep but better than every 2 hrs ... i feel your pain
but we love them anyway x

Mary - posted on 07/07/2010

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My daughter (currently 13 months) has always had a rough time with sleeping, but has now been sleeping from 8 to 4 consistently and we are working on getting her to sleep until 6. Part of our problem was she was relying on the breast to get back to sleep and every time she had an awakening (which is normal) she wouldn't realize she could get to sleep without me. We changed her evening routine a bit. I used to nurse her to sleep; then I began taking her off before she closed her eyes and putting her in her crib. Now after her bath I'll nurse her, and then we spend time in quiet activity until she shows she is ready for bed (usually 8 pm). We have a little bit more trouble with teething and we use the hyland's teething tablets with good results. Then I like to cuddle with her in the morning!

Heather - posted on 07/07/2010

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Yup the same thing here!! My daughter was sleeping 6+ hrs at a time at night when she was a couple of weeks old, that stoped suddenly around 5-6 months, (currently she is 13 months) when her first teeth came in! From then on a "Good" night sleep is 4hrs at a time with most of the time anywhere from 2-3.... We Co-sleep wich has helped a bit, but still sometimes it seams daunting!! She does sleep better when she has been outside playing!! But with the weather here latly that is just not possiable everyday! I would love to see what other people have to say!

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My daughter was the same way. It is definitely tiring. She has been sleeping through the night for the last week and a half (woo hoo!). I don't know if I actually did anything to encourage it or if she just started doing it because she was developmentally ready to. I nursed her to sleep and I always nursed her back down when she woke up. She got in the habit of waking right back up when I tried to lay her down. Instead of picking her up and starting all over I just decided to lay down on the floor beside her. She went back to sleep on her own without crying (she was already almost asleep). I did that for a few nights. Then I tried to rub her back or lay beside her instead of nursing. LOL it never worked, but after trying some things I would go ahead and nurse her. I took her off the breast as soon as she fell asleep and we just shortened the amount of time she nursed each night. Then she started sleeping through. She still wakes up, but she'll just turn over or talk to herself for a minute and then go back to sleep. She'll be 14 months on the 9th. She still nurses to sleep she just doesn't wake to nurse anymore.

Karen - posted on 07/07/2010

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It is actually fairly normal if you are talking to breastfeeding/cosleeping moms. My 20 month old still only sleeps 2-3 hour stretches (I remember when she was 1 month old and she only woke up 1-2 times --- oh to return to those lovely days!!). Part of what has made that better for me is realizing that it's not that uncommon. I was stressed out that something was wrong. Once I let go of that worry I decided to just go with her (sometimes totally exhausting) schedule and felt much better. You may find if you started cosleeping full-time that your body would adjust to her rythms and you'd wake up on your own just before she does (this happens with us almost every time). It feels soooo much better to be woken up from a light sleep as opposed to a deep sleep and this is what happens when you cosleep. It does take awhile for your body to adjust, but it will eventually.
The only thing that has kept me sane is to cosleep and nurse in a sidelying position. I can't sleep through the nursing, but at least I can keep resting and hopefully fall right back to sleep when she's done. Also, I usually go to bed with her and get up with her, so when she was 11 months that usually meant we were in bed for 12 hours at a time. I often took a nap with her during the day too. It's hard to get anything done, but I figured my sanity was more important than the dishes!

Shelley - posted on 07/07/2010

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My 9mo is EBF he nurses to sleep and wakes up when I lay him down. I have two older boys whom I was able to get back to sleep by laying them down and rubbing their backs. except they went to day care and seemed more tired at night.
also if baby is busy during the day, he may nurse more at night..

Joy - posted on 07/07/2010

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I TOTALLY HERE YOU! My son is 14 months and has only slept 6 hour stretches maybe 3 xs his whole life! He sleeps an average of 2-3 hours at a time. I think he slept 5 straight the other night, but I'm sure it was a complete fluke. He starts out in his crib, but I am so exhausted that he usually ends up in bed with me for the rest of the night when he wakes up. I would like to wean from night feedings, but he SCREAMS when I try not to breastfeed during the night. I'll be watching this post to see what other people suggest to you. Maybe it could help me too!

Celeste - posted on 07/07/2010

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You're definitely not the only one! My twin boys woke up often; at least 3-4x's a night and of course, never at the same time LOL I night weaned them when they were close to 2.

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