HOW CAN GET MY SON TO SLEEP ON A SCHEDULE HE SLEEP WHEN HE WANTS

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Laura - posted on 10/03/2009

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schedules are funny things. they are inventions of our modern world. it seems to me that babies make their own schedule naturally as they sync up with the sunrise and sunset. I never let taylor cry it out. if she's crying it means she needs her mommy's warmth. Showing your baby now that you support them when they need you will produce confident, well adjusted people. Babies don't know how long five minutes is. It feels like forever to a little person who knows nothing of the world but mommy's heartbeat. Why do we have to project our modern day expectations on babies only months old?

Lesley - posted on 10/06/2009

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I don't believe in schedules that WE make - I believe in following the baby's ques. And this is what I've done with my daughter for the last 12 months. Eventually, you catch on when they want to sleep and eat and they've made their own schedule. She was fed on demand, we co-sleep and she is a very happy, healthy little girl (so sad that my 12 month old is not a "baby" anymore!!). I also don't believe in CIO - I follow "the no cry sleep solution" and it has worked beautifully. I don't think it's healthy for baby's to get all worked up, their heart racing, feeling scared, and alone all so that we can get them to sleep! Well sure they sleep - they are exhausted and give up - no one is coming for them. Anyway - many will disagree with my chosen methods but it's worked for us and has worked for my daughter. xox

Minnie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Jillian:



Quoting Rebecca :

I saw Baby wise as the first one. That is my recommendation.





 






I agree....this book made all the difference for me! Sleep is necessary for your baby's well-being and not an option based on what they want. My son is 6 1/2 weeks old and already sleeping through most of the night!






For anyone considering this book here's some info on it and it's author:



 



www.ezzo.info



 



This book has been condemned by the AAP, is written by a pastor who is estranged from his own children, there are no citations, no research, it has not been peer reviewed, he has an 'honorary' degree from a theological seminary, it has been linked to failure to thrive, dehydration, and an early end to the breastfeeding relationship-



in short, this book offers dangerous infant care advice- advice that is not senstive to both the physical and emotional needs of a young child, and he has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever to give this advice.

Siobhan - posted on 10/04/2009

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I would appreciate it if you wouldn't shove your expectations and opinions on everyone else. The method that she spoke of has been used with extreme success for years and has resulted in well loved, adjusted, independant happy and RESTED children, including the one who is now writing this. I can appreciate your opinion, but choosing to let your child cry/whine for 5 mins, or 20 mins will not hurt them, in my opinion, and even though I don't agree with your way of doing things...you don't hear me calling your parenting lazy. I tried full on attachment parenting and it was way easier for me than what i do now...but my son became very whiny and not happy ....now that i only do some of the approaches to AP he is very happy...because....every child is different, which means every parent is going to need to parent differently.

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Kelly - posted on 01/29/2010

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The book that helped me the most was Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. It's a lifesaver and it leads through common sleep problems from birth to adolescence.

Terri - posted on 01/28/2010

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Shirley you gave some good advice to someone who asked for ideas. I think it is digusting the way some mothers have responded to your post. This is a place for recommendations. I used controlled crying for 2 nights and had my daughter sleeping through the night again after 3 weeks of sleepless nights. I didnt want to do it but when you are that sleep deprived with 2 other children to look after you have to look at other options. And I tried the feeding and sleeping in our bed and it didnt work.



So if you find something that works go for it. And my 4 year old daughter is now a very independent self sufficient little lady. She is strong willed and has been since she was a baby and I think that was part of the problem lol! (I never had to use it with my other 3 children)



If you dont like it, you dont have to do it, its plain and simple but I dont think there is any need to be rude and use name calling because someone suggests it.

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One thing I want to point out is that when our babies cry *our* bodies release a hormone that makes us uncomfortable. So it's natural to want to comfort them when they cry which makes me think that anything to do with CIO is unnatural. Just a thought...

Rachel - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting Chelsea:



Quoting Shirley:

It depends... How old is he? When my son was 4 months old, my husband and I tried the cry it out method
We gave him a filling dinner at around 6:30 pm
at 7:30 pm we gave him a bath
dressed him and just put him in his crib and walked out the room
-- of course he started screaming--
After 5min I waked in (DON"T TALK) rubbed him and walked back out
This just lets them know your around
Then wait 10min before going in and comfort him
then 15min
then 20
then 25
until he stops crying.
Now let me warn you it is hard to hear your baby crying that long. I almost gave up. Thank God my husband stopped me from giving up. cause now he's 16 months and he sleeps from 8pm until 9am the next morning. He wakes up before that but never crys to get out I leave books in his crib to play with when he does wake up. Oh and one more thing if you don't have everyone in the house supporting you, it will make this 100'x harder. But him not sleeping is worse. You'll see your baby will be alot happier when he gets the right amount of sleep. I hope this help





THIS IS A DAMAGING APPROACH TO NIGHT-TIME PARENTING!!!!

Children who are parented with the cry-it-out method are insecurely attached and are psychologically damaged from being taught that their needs will not be met. This is the lazy way to parent. The way that intelligent parents parent is through love. Teaching an infant to sleep through love has the same payoff...a sleeping infant.

What is insane is that we are expecting infants to sleep through the night at all. Do some research!!!!!


I'm disappointed in this post because it is offensive and attacking.  Please don't post comments like this.  It is not constructive.  If you disagree, post your experience, links to sites that support your point of view, etc.  Don't call people bad parents or ignorant (which is what this post infers from the language).  It is insulting and again, not constructive.



 



I'll say that I personally did a lot of research before my son was even born about whether or not to do a schedule (feeding and/or sleeping), how and when to discipline, and so much more.  Some of the books I read defied common sense.  Others had nuggets hidden in otherwise not very helpful information.  And others were pure gold.  It is important to understand that each child will respond differently to certain techniques and it is important to understand how to read an infants responses to know what is and is not working. 



 



I got some good material from Baby Wise and What to Expect the First Year.  Baby Wise is definitely controversial.  However, I weighed the advice against what I had seen in other families who did and did not agree with the concepts presented.  We used what my husband and I felt was appropriate for our family and have been very pleased with the results.



 



Our son was on a feeding schedule fairly early.  We went from every hour to every two to then every three.  When we got to every three hours, his sleeping schedule started to even out nicely.  We did allow him to cry at times, which was really hard.  At 5 weeks, he was sleeping between 5 and 7 hours a night.  By 8 weeks, he was sleeping around 10-12 hours per night.  Today, at 2.5 he still sleeps about 12 hours per night and has a nap (or quiet time, if he's not tired) of 1-3 hours in the afternoon.  There were times when he had to cry it out, but our moderately flexible schedule has worked very well for our little family.



 



Despite the claims above that a child trained like this will be insecurely attached and psychologically damaged, my son is the complete opposite.  My dad died unexpectedly (at age 48) when my son was about 8 months old.  We had friends and family flying in from all over the country.  They were amazed at how happy he was, how secure, friendly and balanced.  He was the shinging joy in the midst of our family tragedy.  He even made it through the funeral without fussing - after several days of unusual excitement because of all the new people.  Even today, people we meet are amazed at how secure he is - he can play with anyone, regardless of age and isn't insecurely tied down to Mommy all the time.  He knows he is loved and watched and carefully attended to.  He does not lack for attention or affection - ever.



 



A schedule is another form of setting boundaries for our children.  Healthy boundaries make a healthy child and happy parent.  Lack of boundaries confuses children and causes a lot of the behavioral problems that we see today.  It also causes stressed out and sleep deprived parents who are more likely to snap and yell at their children instead of being able to think about how to deal with an issue.



 



We are completely capable of completely caring for our infant's needs without letting them rule our entire day.  Crying it out, where real needs have been met, does not cause harm.  Wheras, setting a standard for manipulative crying sets the stage for a demanding, selfish toddler and preschooler who expects the world to comletely revolve around him or herself.  That sets them up for problems later in life and a lot of conflict.  I've seen it over and over again with friends and family. 



 



Our son understands, at 2.5, that he is a "part" of this family - not the center.  Granted, he requires a lot of attention and care because of his age.  And both my husband and I are conscientious to make sure he has all he needs to be healthy and happy.  But, our family is a unit and our children will be raised with a sense of belonging, accountability and care for one another.  Time will tell, but the results I have seen in other families and the results I have seen in ours already tells me we are on the right path.

Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2009

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Start some kind of routine so that it becomes habit that it's time to settle down. I try to keep my 1 month old alert for most of the evening. Then we go through the same routine every night. We take a bath, put on a sleeper, nurse while we listen to a CD of lullabies, and then spend cuddle time with daddy. Within a week we got her asleep 30 minutes earlier- 9:30 instead of 10- and she only wakes for 2 or 3 feedings a night instead of 4. It's important to turn off things like the TV and to create the mellow environment for your routine.

ERICA - posted on 10/27/2009

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i try to keep him up for as long as possible but when he fall asleep early and i try to wake him he cries so i give in and let him sleep.....

Mandi - posted on 10/07/2009

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Oh just one more note ;)

The ferber method DOES NOT say that you cannot rock, soothe or nurse your baby to sleep. On the contrary he says that if that works for you, then stick with it. It does talk about how children could end up having a hard time putting themselves back to sleep when they have periods of light sleep because they are always put to sleep by nursing, rocking etc. With my son, he thought he could only sleep if he was nursed. So, if he heard a noise he woke up and had to nurse otherwise he wouldn't go back to sleep. So, I helped him learn how to sleep on his own. Now, if he wakes up at night he goes directly back to sleep on his own and doesn't need to nurse. But you know what? If he wakes up on night and won't go back to sleep I will nurse him. but it is really rare.

Mandi - posted on 10/07/2009

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Just a thought ... but the Ferber method was written and recently revised by a pediatric sleep specialist who runs a sleep clinic for children. If you were to actually read the book, you would see that it isn't as extreme as most people make it out to be. He even has a section for cosleepers. One thing I loved about his book was that he talked about biological rhymthms. Wow ... just learning about that really helped me. My son was 8 months old. He no longer needed to feed every 2 hours at night, but was doing it because I had put him in the habit. I used the ferber method for 1 night and he woke up once that night for 2 minutes and then was asleep the rest of the night. He cried for a total of 20 minutes that night ... not too shabby. Now he sleeps all night 8pm -6:30 am. So in my case I do not consider my experience to be unloving or lazy. I was sleep deprived and could barely function and just changing a couple of things (small things) I was able to help my baby sleep better and be more rested ;)

I would suggest that all read the book and then make judgements about it ;) It really isn't as extreme as people make it out to be ;) I was surprised by it.

Also, my mother used a form of cry it out and I am just fine haha and so are my 10 brothers and sisters.

Hannah - posted on 10/07/2009

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I know there are dissenting opinions on both crying it out and Babywise. My daughter is just one month old but she has established a routine with her sleep/eat cycles based on Babywise. I did not set her schedule, she set it herself, so I don't feel like we've pushed anything unhealthy on her.

The key to any strategy is to establish a routine. It doesn't have to be a scheduled routine but something that provides a little structure to both your day and your baby's day. Proving awake time after your baby sleeps will help establish this routine.

My daughter eats every 3 hours for 10 minutes on one side fairly consistently. Again, this is a schedule she set herself. When she shows hunger cues, I feed her even if it's more frequently than every 3 hours. I then change her diaper. She then is awake for an additional 30-45 minutes (minimum) afterwards. There are times I have to keep her awake and just play with her or sing a song. Most times, however, she stays awake herself and then starts showing signs of sleepiness. When she starts getting real sleepy, I lay her down and she goes right to sleep. She then wakes up approximately 3 hours after she first ate. This continues throughout the day (7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm, 7pm).

For her 10pm feeding, she eats, gets a diaper change, and then we give her a bath, massage her with lotion, and rock her until she goes to sleep. Because she's been so active during the day, she's a little over stimulated, so she takes a little extra love to go to sleep. Once she's had her eyes closed for about 10 minutes, I lay her down and she stays asleep.

Her night time schedule then is that she wakes up around 1am to eat, I change her diaper, and lay her back down to go to sleep. Same at 4am and then her day starts at 7am.

The routine helps a lot. It is OKAY to wake up your baby during the day. He will get enough sleep, especially at night.

Charlotte - posted on 10/07/2009

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My son is 20 weeks old and i have had him in a routine since he was about 8 weeks. He now feeds every 4 hours, has naps for 1 and a half hours during the day and sleeps for around 11 hours at night. I started by cluster feeding him at night time. At 6.30 (or as close to as possible) i b/feed, i then give him a bath and take my time getting him ready for bed, then around 7.30 he will have another b/feed and i will put him to bed awake. Sometimes if he is overtired he will cry for 5/10 mins but normally he will quite happily go to sleep on his own (with his 2 snuggle blankets :) ) I have read a book by someone who calls herself the baby whisperer, she is quite keen on a routine but doesn't agree with a strict approach to it. The routine that she uses is called E.A.S.Y (eat, activity, sleep, you) I use this during the day and i have found it very useful, My son eats, will play quite happily until he gets tired. When i see him yawning for the first or second time i try to put him down before he gets overtired (to avoid crying himself to sleep) then when he is quite happily asleep i have time for me :)

You know your baby better than anyone so my advice would be to try a flexible routine but follow your baby's cues.

But i have found a night time routine definetly helps.

Good luck :)

PHYLLIS - posted on 10/06/2009

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prepare a schedule for him not really for sleeping but for other activities like feeding,playing and bathing and follow it on a daily basis.he will get used to it and soon it will become routine, such that he knows that after shower its feeding after feeding its sleeping and so on.

For my case,i make sure everyday at 7.30pm i bathe him,at 8.00pm he feeds,at 8.30pm he sleeps till 11.00pm when he wakes to feed, sleeps through the night until 5am when he wakes to feed, sleeps till 6.30 am when he wakes to play and change diapers, at 8.00 am he feeds and sleeps till 10am.

Karen - posted on 10/06/2009

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I'm a breast-feeding (on cue), co-sleeping, schedule-disliking mom - I am, however, gently encouraging what seems to be my daughter's natural rhythm. I read somewhere (not sure where) that if you pay close attention, many babies tend to follow this general pattern: 2 hours after waking for the day - encourage a nap, 3 hours after waking from the nap - encourage another nap, 4 hours after waking from that nap - encourage nighttime. This works for my almost 11 month old about 3/4 of the time (we started this about 1 month ago - prior to that I just waited until she was obviously tired and then put her down). So, just think 2, 3, 4.

Minnie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Rebecca :



Quoting Lisa:




Quoting Jillian:





Quoting Rebecca :

I saw Baby wise as the first one. That is my recommendation.









 










I agree....this book made all the difference for me! Sleep is necessary for your baby's well-being and not an option based on what they want. My son is 6 1/2 weeks old and already sleeping through most of the night!













For anyone considering this book here's some info on it and it's author:








 








www.ezzo.info








 








This book has been condemned by the AAP, is written by a pastor who is estranged from his own children, there are no citations, no research, it has not been peer reviewed, he has an 'honorary' degree from a theological seminary, it has been linked to failure to thrive, dehydration, and an early end to the breastfeeding relationship-








in short, this book offers dangerous infant care advice- advice that is not senstive to both the physical and emotional needs of a young child, and he has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever to give this advice.









wow do you have any personal experience. I started babywise when my daughter was about 2 weeks I thought it was a little strick so more or less picked the things that I liked. I used the eat, wake time and sleep routine because I really liked that idea. I don't agree with it all but go with your mother instints. I dont think they will let you down. I did not like the idea of waking your baby to feed them so everytime she would wake I would just stick to that routine. Works for me but it might not for you. there are all just recommendations, that's why we are all here. It's can be difficult to be a parent.





Because of the dangerous advice in this book one cannot simply say 'use what works for you.'  Plain and simple, the book is dangerous, and he has no qualifications to be giving the advice. You might as well be taking your gramma's old-wives tales.



This is a public forum and there are vunerable mothers here reading these posts.  Some of them might want to read the book- but it is a dangerous book indeed- and so that they may make informed decisions on the care of their children, they need the facts.



Instincts come from within.  They do NOT come from Mr. Gary Ezzo.



 



 

Rebecca - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Lisa:



Quoting Jillian:




Quoting Rebecca :

I saw Baby wise as the first one. That is my recommendation.







 








I agree....this book made all the difference for me! Sleep is necessary for your baby's well-being and not an option based on what they want. My son is 6 1/2 weeks old and already sleeping through most of the night!










For anyone considering this book here's some info on it and it's author:






 






www.ezzo.info






 






This book has been condemned by the AAP, is written by a pastor who is estranged from his own children, there are no citations, no research, it has not been peer reviewed, he has an 'honorary' degree from a theological seminary, it has been linked to failure to thrive, dehydration, and an early end to the breastfeeding relationship-






in short, this book offers dangerous infant care advice- advice that is not senstive to both the physical and emotional needs of a young child, and he has absolutely no qualifications whatsoever to give this advice.





wow do you have any personal experience. I started babywise when my daughter was about 2 weeks I thought it was a little strick so more or less picked the things that I liked. I used the eat, wake time and sleep routine because I really liked that idea. I don't agree with it all but go with your mother instints. I dont think they will let you down. I did not like the idea of waking your baby to feed them so everytime she would wake I would just stick to that routine. Works for me but it might not for you. there are all just recommendations, that's why we are all here. It's can be difficult to be a parent.

Jillian - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Rebecca :

I saw Baby wise as the first one. That is my recommendation.


 



I agree....this book made all the difference for me! Sleep is necessary for your baby's well-being and not an option based on what they want. My son is 6 1/2 weeks old and already sleeping through most of the night!

Jillian - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Rebecca :

I saw Baby wise as the first one. That is my recommendation.


 



I agree....this book made all the difference for me! Sleep is necessary for your baby's well-being and not an option based on what they want. My son is 6 1/2 weeks old and already sleeping through most of the night!

Laura - posted on 10/05/2009

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thank you very much for sharing Mandy. I can tell you're an awesome, sensitive mom.

Mandy - posted on 10/04/2009

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Dr sears baby sleep book and nighttime parenting are GREAT



My son is nearly 9mo and doesnt strictly stick to a schedule. he roughly does the same every day, but not t the minute.



ok, about the cry it out, or ferber method, with my first son, i put him to bed, stayed with him for 1 min, left the room for 1 min, stayed for 2, left for 2 etc until 10mins then start again. he now has ADHD, learning difficulties, has to have a teachers aide at school as well as a behavioral problems. this, i believe, has to do with the way he was put to sleep. and science proves it.



My 2nd son has never cried to sleep. he falls asleep in my arms (10mins of cuddling doesnt hurt me) and then sleeps 2 hrs in the morning and 1 1/2 hrs in the afternoon as well as being in bed at 6pm for the night. he wakes a few times during the night, but that is fine with me.



it breaks my heart to hear him cry, and after i stuffed up so much the first time, i am not going to make the same mistakes again. i pray your children dont have the problems my son has.

Shirley - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Siobhan:

I would appreciate it if you wouldn't shove your expectations and opinions on everyone else. The method that she spoke of has been used with extreme success for years and has resulted in well loved, adjusted, independant happy and RESTED children, including the one who is now writing this. I can appreciate your opinion, but choosing to let your child cry/whine for 5 mins, or 20 mins will not hurt them, in my opinion, and even though I don't agree with your way of doing things...you don't hear me calling your parenting lazy. I tried full on attachment parenting and it was way easier for me than what i do now...but my son became very whiny and not happy ....now that i only do some of the approaches to AP he is very happy...because....every child is different, which means every parent is going to need to parent differently.


 WELL SAID!!  = )

Laura - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think we are all trying as absolutely hard as each of us can to be good parents. I admire each of your convictions for listening to your hearts, and doing what you feel must be done. Keep it up ladies.

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I had to let one of my girls cry for 2 hours (after being nursed) one night when she was 9 months old. She is almost 8 now and trust me, it didn't harm her in the least. My son, on the other hand, is a completely different story when it comes to sleeping since he (at 18 months) still sleeps WITH me.... Whatever approach you use you need to make sure that it fits YOUR child and family and don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

Laura - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Shirley:




Schedules are for your Childs own good as far as sleep. Sleep is So important. My sister is more like you. Now she can't get her son to sleep, his OWN sch'd is at 10pm 11 and sometimes 12Am. He's tired at school (per the teacher). She now tells me she judged me way too quick. And wishes she can go back. He is getting to bed earlier but with a fight. I hope this doesn't happen to you when your starts school.





I do the same as ...monica I think it was?  taylor is 9 weeks now and gets herself in deep sleep around 10, maybe 11 if she hasn't pooped that day.  and now she's sleeping till 5 or 6 sometimes!  to each his own, but i don't believe it's in the best intrest of this tiny being to project our work/school schedule on them this early.  I am physically incapable of not doing everything in my power to comfort her when she cries.  that's just the way I am I guess.

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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Well, you can't make a child sleep, but you can encourage it. Keep a weekly log. Watch for indicators that they are sleepy (rubbing eyes, yawning) and note the time. Most kids, surprisingly, have their own schedules and don't need us to enforce ours on them. Take their natural times and go with it. Set up a routine so your child knows what to expect. But, just remember, just like you, they will not always be tired at exactly the same time. It's important to follow your child's cues.

BethAnn - posted on 10/03/2009

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I personally dont believe there is a right or wrong way to achieve peace in the household...with my daughter at around 3 months we started the "night night schedule" which was dinner, bath, lotion w/ aroma therapy, story/cuddle time then sleep by 8:30ish...i would lay her down drowsy but not asleep and she would fall asleep by herself in her own bed...she would sleep for about 6 hours, wake up and nurse then another 4 hours of sleep.
Now this may or may not work for you but it had a pretty good success rate with me. Just know that every night is not the same and poop happens :) your baby needs constancy and familiarity for comfort but this doesnt necessarily have to be a "schedule"

Chelseaszidik - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting Shirley:

It depends... How old is he? When my son was 4 months old, my husband and I tried the cry it out method
We gave him a filling dinner at around 6:30 pm
at 7:30 pm we gave him a bath
dressed him and just put him in his crib and walked out the room
-- of course he started screaming--
After 5min I waked in (DON"T TALK) rubbed him and walked back out
This just lets them know your around
Then wait 10min before going in and comfort him
then 15min
then 20
then 25
until he stops crying.
Now let me warn you it is hard to hear your baby crying that long. I almost gave up. Thank God my husband stopped me from giving up. cause now he's 16 months and he sleeps from 8pm until 9am the next morning. He wakes up before that but never crys to get out I leave books in his crib to play with when he does wake up. Oh and one more thing if you don't have everyone in the house supporting you, it will make this 100'x harder. But him not sleeping is worse. You'll see your baby will be alot happier when he gets the right amount of sleep. I hope this help






THIS IS A DAMAGING APPROACH TO NIGHT-TIME PARENTING!!!!



Children who are parented with the cry-it-out method are insecurely attached and are psychologically damaged from being taught that their needs will not be met. This is the lazy way to parent. The way that intelligent parents parent is through love. Teaching an infant to sleep through love has the same payoff...a sleeping infant.



What is insane is that we are expecting infants to sleep through the night at all. Do some research!!!!!

Monica - posted on 10/03/2009

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When my son was about 2 months old, we started giving him a bath every night around the same time. I would nurse him to sleep and that let him know it was time to go to bed for the night. After that was done, he would sleep for the longest period of time following his bath; usually 3 to 4 hours.

Shirley - posted on 10/03/2009

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Quoting laura:

schedules are funny things. they are inventions of our modern world. it seems to me that babies make their own schedule naturally as they sync up with the sunrise and sunset. I never let taylor cry it out. if she's crying it means she needs her mommy's warmth. Showing your baby now that you support them when they need you will produce confident, well adjusted people. Babies don't know how long five minutes is. It feels like forever to a little person who knows nothing of the world but mommy's heartbeat. Why do we have to project our modern day expectations on babies only months old?



Schedules are for your Childs own good as far as sleep. Sleep is So important. My sister is more like you. Now she can't get her son to sleep, his OWN sch'd is at 10pm 11 and sometimes 12Am. He's tired at school (per the teacher). She now tells me she judged me way too quick. And wishes she can go back. He is getting to bed earlier but with a fight. I hope this doesn't happen to you when your starts school.

Shirley - posted on 10/03/2009

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I was just trying to help. I didn't let my baby just cry. When he woke up in the middle of the night I nursed until he fell back to sleep. this method put him on a schedule. Erica asked and I told what I did. Everyone is well rested in my house and alert and happy through our day.

Lucy - posted on 10/03/2009

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Babies will set there own schedule depending on their needs. Feed baby when hungry let baby sleep when tired....simple!

Shirley - posted on 10/02/2009

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It depends... How old is he? When my son was 4 months old, my husband and I tried the cry it out method

We gave him a filling dinner at around 6:30 pm

at 7:30 pm we gave him a bath

dressed him and just put him in his crib and walked out the room

-- of course he started screaming--

After 5min I waked in (DON"T TALK) rubbed him and walked back out

This just lets them know your around

Then wait 10min before going in and comfort him

then 15min

then 20

then 25

until he stops crying.

Now let me warn you it is hard to hear your baby crying that long. I almost gave up. Thank God my husband stopped me from giving up. cause now he's 16 months and he sleeps from 8pm until 9am the next morning. He wakes up before that but never crys to get out I leave books in his crib to play with when he does wake up. Oh and one more thing if you don't have everyone in the house supporting you, it will make this 100'x harder. But him not sleeping is worse. You'll see your baby will be alot happier when he gets the right amount of sleep. I hope this helps

Allyson - posted on 10/02/2009

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What i did is as time went on w/ my two month old i tried to keep him awake and entertained as much during the day, let him take small naps wake up him to feed on time hourly.. which i feed him every 3 hours and kept him awake again after that..after a while i started giving him baths before his last feeding which is usually around 9 and he started slowly sleeping longer through the night,now he is in bed by 10 and wakes up anywhere between 6-8. Good luck but dont stress.. he will make his own schedule soon and it will change as time goes on.

Cori - posted on 10/02/2009

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how old is your baby... i tried to get my son on a schedule for the first 5 months and i gave up... shortly after giving up he decided his own schedule (with some flexibility) when they are little its hard to make them schedule because there is so much changing for them from day to day... new developments and discoveries.. dont worry about it to much right now, eventually it will develop into a schedule that works for you and baby.

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