How can I get my baby to sleep longer at night?

Shelia - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My baby wants to eat every 2 hours and sometimes more often. It is really hard at night. Sometimes he eats for a really long time too. He is 4 weeks old. I don't expect him to sleep all night, but I would like him to sleep for 4 hours.

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Terri - posted on 01/19/2010

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Make sure he is not having too much sleep during the day. Have play moments with him during the day so that he is more stimulated. Us tired mums tend to have a habit of letting them sleep as much as possible so that we can catch up on stuff like cleaning or housework.

But this can actually work against you because babies need to learn that daytime is for awake periods and nighttime is for more sleep time. They are never to young to learn. So make sure he doesnt have too many long sleeps during the day, Stretch his feeds out if you have to by 30 minutes or an hour to keep him awake just a little bit longer in between feeds.

Then at night time make sure you make the feeds as boring and quiet as possible. No talking, straight on the boob and then quietly back to bed so tht he knows its not "play" time with mum.

This worked for all 4 of my kids and I had them sleeping through at 9 weeks, 7 weeks, 3 weeks and 6 days and 7 and a half weeks. Hopefully some of this helps you. Good luck :)

Elina - posted on 03/19/2013

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Hi I'm Eliana I have twins girl the problem is every day they wake up in middle of night I'm very tired what I have to do to make them sleep all night

Katie - posted on 01/22/2010

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how big was h when he was born, the bigger the baby the more food they need thats what i think if you up his ounces then he should go evry 4 hours instead of two x

Janet - posted on 01/22/2010

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SWADDLE YOUR BABY!!! It works wonders, do it super tight and some white noise, like a fan, may help too! The tighter the swaddle the better and it really will work. Babies startle themselves awake and when they are swaddled they can't do that. We thought our little girl loved to stretch all out but I was exhausted with her waking every 2-3 hours every night! At 6 weeks after reading the book "The happiest baby on the block" we tried swaddling her super tight again. She missed one feeding the first night and slept for 6 hours!!!!! I was in heaven and will swaddle my next baby from the beginning on.

Savannah - posted on 01/22/2010

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i am having this issue with my daughter. try changing the temp in your house and see what temp he likes it. my daughter has to be warm and my son has to be cold. and if it is like that every night they sleep, but i live with my husbands parents right now so it is hard to do that every night, but it seems to work

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Brenda - posted on 01/22/2010

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My youngest is 2 months old. I've started doing this: I'll nurse him around 8:30-9 pm, he'll sleep for a while, then give him a bottle of expressed breastmilk at 10:30-11:00 pm. Sometimes he'll wake up on his own, sometimes I wake him up. Most of the time he'll sleep about 6 hours, however the last few nights he's been waking up every 2-3 hours. During the day he eats every 2 hours like clockwork. And I think the bigger baby theory isn't always true...my LO is 15 lb 8 oz (above the 95%-he's a chunker!), but doesn't sleep for long periods of time.

Robin - posted on 01/22/2010

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I know its rough. I've been there. The best solution for me was to cosleep at night. By this I mean I'd lay down and nurse him. When he was sleeping he'd go back to his bassinett or now that he's outgrown that into his crib. He'll go for longer stretches now that he's 3 months. But, some nights he's still up every 3/4 hours. A couple of times he's slept until 7 am!

Hang in there mom it gets easier.

Roxanne - posted on 01/22/2010

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Wow, I had the same issue! My baby is now 10 months old and still doesn't sleep through the night :( But what I did to get some sleep was I would give him a last feed at 8pm, and my hubby would feed him a bottle at 10pm, and I would proceed to give him the midnight, 2am, and so on. He would nurse for 40 min, every 2hr, so by the time I would fall asleep, he would wake up again. Once he was 2.5 month old, he got rid of the 10pm feed, which didn't affect me none, but it was a step in the right direction. Hang in there, survival mode will kick in and you will find ways to get more sleep.

Jandra - posted on 01/21/2010

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I had the same problem. I recommend to read "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child". It is a very good book.

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Its totally normal, they want a full tummy so they need to eat more often. Keep up the schedule, it will pass soon and all be worth it.

Ciara - posted on 01/20/2010

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Arms reach Cosleeper sounds like a great invention Patricia thanks for that x

Ciara - posted on 01/20/2010

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I agree co sleeping scares me too, I know more than one baby who has been rolled over on and died or over heated because of the body heat in the bed. If you want them sleeping the same room thats different, I just don't think they should be in your bed until much older. Also how do you ever make another baby if this habit starts???

Patricia - posted on 01/20/2010

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Just reinforcing the co sleeper suggestion someone else contributed. I bought an "Arms Reach Cosleeper" you can google it, and it is best thing ever. The baby's bed (like a playpen with platform level with your bed and you can drop the platform down to the bottom like a playpen when baby is old enough to sit up...) attaches right to your bed and u can feed the baby and put him right back without getting out of bed. U get way more rest. There are also little baby matresses with small walls that you can put in the center of the bed to prevent you from rolling onto/over the baby but the baby is in bed with you.

Gina - posted on 01/20/2010

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It was not until somewhere between 6 and 8 weeks before I got my son to sleep for 4-5 hours strait. And then the only reason why I got him to do that was following the "Happiest Baby on the Block" stuff. I wish I had had the information sooner because he might have started sleeping longer sooner. I am glad the pediatrician recommended it.

Emma - posted on 01/20/2010

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dunno if it will work but our baby has been in her own room since she was 3weeks she's 5 weeks now and seems to settle her much better, think it's cos she can't smell me lol. hope it helps. xx

Kiaya - posted on 01/20/2010

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6 weeks. That is usually when they start sleeping for atleast 4 hours if not all night. Both of my boys slept all night at 6 weeks, I can't say this will happen for you but hold out for just a few more weeks and you may be surprised.

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My son is 10 months old and I just kissed sleeping through the night goodbye. He nurses almost every hour and a half at night and every few hours during the day. His night feedings only last a few minutes. I've tried feeding him a big meal before bed and it didn't work. Pretty much everyone I've spoken to who nurses said that breastfed babies will more than likely not sleep through the night.

Amy - posted on 01/19/2010

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Are you co-sleeping by any chance? I have heard from friends that if you do and your baby is waking frequently you should feed them and then send them to cuddle with dad towards him. Sometimes they think they are at the all you can eat buffet. But it is normal for a breastfed baby to nurse every 3-4 hours in the night until 8 weeks.

Amy - posted on 01/19/2010

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We co-sleep, have with all of my kids and its been great. We have a "baby zone" in bed where he sleeps, and have had no problems. I know a lot of people dont think this is a good idea, another great option is a Co-Sleeper, sets up next to the bed, and still gives baby space. You can nurse, and then set them back to their space.

Hannah - posted on 01/19/2010

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You will notice that your baby gradually begins to work out his own routine, and to be honest both my babies did this all by themselves - you can really stress yourself out trying to 'make' it happen, as long as you keep lights low and noise to a minimum at night, they work out the difference between night and day time.

Although my now 6 month old still wakes every 3 hours most nights, she sleeps all through the night (she basically 'dream feeds' and goes straight back down in her cot after). I have also mastered the art of sleeping while sitting in bed holding her, as she feeds for a long time too. Personally, I wouldn't choose to co sleep, but I do 'sleep' while feeding in my own way. I find you are always aware of holding your baby even when 'asleep', and I have never felt in danger of letting go of my baby, and these rests are what keep me going!

Tara - posted on 01/19/2010

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it is way exhausting and will pass and this co sleeping thing scares me, i had a friend who did that with her breastfed baby and she laid on her baby and the baby didnt survive. my baby is almost 3 months and he still eats every 2-3 hours so nap whenever he naps so i feel alot better

Lise - posted on 01/18/2010

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The only thing I can recommend is letting him cluster feed in the evenings, where he nurses a TON. But it does pass! My LO ate every 2 hours until she was about 8 weeks old, and then it stretched to every 4-5. We also co-sleep, though, so I wake enough to latch her on and go right back to sleep. Even when she's up every 2 hours, I'M only up about 30 min a night.

April - posted on 01/18/2010

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my 1 year old still gets up every 2 hours to nurse at night. it is still totally normal. for the first 12 months, infants are expected to get at least 25% of their nutrition at night. it is also a great way to keep your supply up too. i know it is hard, believe me, i know. but it won't last forever

Amy - posted on 01/18/2010

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Be patient by three months he will be sleeping longer. It comes faster than you think.

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