How can i teach my son to sleep in his crib?

Gretchen - posted on 03/22/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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So I have a 9 month old son. I tried to teach him yo sleep in his bassinet and crib from the beginning but my husband was away and I had no help at night, and my baby hates to be put down. Even in the hospital he refused to sleep in his bassinet. When we got home he hated to sleep in his bassinet. Eventually his swaddler blanket helped, but he quickly outgrew it and I couldn't stay awake enough to get him to sleep in his crib. I would find my self practically falling over when I tried to get him to sleep, because I would fall asleep but he would feel it as soon as I tried to put him down.

I spent a few months in Ecuador where everyone refuses to let a baby cry, and so my son got spoiled and always slept with us. We are all home together now, but the baby refuses to even nap in his crib. We are getting very little sleep because we can't be comfortable and the baby wakes up frequently to nurse.

We have tried the cry it out method, which tortures all of us and my son doesn't calm down, he just gets more upset and cries harder. We have waited for as much as two hours. WE have also tried letting him get familiar with the crib in the daytime and again just before bed, I have even laid him in the crib leand over continuing to nurse him, but to no avail. We might get an hour if he is super exhauseted but even making a schedule doesn't help. Any ideas? We are running out of energy and ideas!

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Kate - posted on 03/22/2011

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Is there a reason you want him in his crib so badly at this point?

If you look at it from his point of view, his reaction makes sense. For his entire life, you've slept with him and met his needs. He has felt safe and secure next to you. Now, seemingly with no reason, he's in a room without you, trapped. That would be scary as a baby. He's also at an age when separation anxiety is already heightened.

I don't have any great solution for you at this point in terms of getting him to sleep alone. Could you put a mattress on your floor and nurse him to sleep there, and then get up and move to your bed when he's asleep? Or could you just allow him to share your bed until he's ready to sleep alone?

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Monica - posted on 04/05/2011

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A couple of ideas because our 13 month old co-sleeps on demand but also sleeps up to 11 hours in own crib (in our room) and also hated sleeping in his bassinet. 1. What kind of sheets are in the crib? Get something soft, and warm. Babies shouldn't have covers over them so it's important to make sure their jammies and sheets provide enough but not too much warmth so they can rest like they do near your body heat. 2. Have you tried flipping the mattress to the softer toddler side? Most mattresses come with separate infant (hard) and toddler (softer) sides...the softer side really seemed to make a difference for our son since he hated a hard surface and LOVES our soft cushy bed. 3. Are you using a solid or breathable type of bumper pad? I bought an expensive but worth it set of Wonder Bumpers that zip onto each individual slat of the crib. They are soft and warm to lean against but without the risk of suffocation and he can see out through them if he wakes and doesn't feel so trapped.

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2011

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My baby slept with me for at least part of the night for a long time, but I would lay him in his crib when he fell asleep in the evening. I would have a few hours before he woke up and I brought him into our bed. In our case the crib was in the next room, not the same room, so we felt we had more privacy if we wanted to be intimate.
Granted my son was "rewarded" for waking up at night by being brought into our bed, but it was a very low-stress solution for our family.

Gretchen - posted on 03/22/2011

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Well mostly because we don't have enough room in the bed for him. We have a full size and he is a big baby and takes up lots of room. This crib is in our room and any time he wakes up and cries I go and get him. He just likes to be able to snuggle up with us. We just need some space and time to be together because we feel like we never get to see each other anymore. I also wanted to get him to sleep alone before it got to the point where he starts putting up a bigger fight and can get out of bed alone. Thanks for your point of view. It makes me feel a little better and gives me a different way to think about it.

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