How did you stop bfing at night?

Serra - posted on 03/18/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 19 month old son needs boob to go to sleep and then geta up 1 to 3 times a night crying for it. He will cry and scream up to 40 mins! Im pretty sure hes just usimg me as a comfort like a binky and im sick of it! He kicks and punches and cries and it makes it very hard for me to say n. I have been not letting him fall asleep on the boob the last two nights but then it takes over an hour to.get him to sleep! Please help me! I almost feel guilty for not giving it to him. During the day I only give if he asks and he dsnt ask often usually.

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Lori - posted on 03/18/2012

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I'm sure this won't be of much help to you.... but I stopped breastfeeding at night when my LO stopped asking for it at night. For my 1st that was 17 months... unless she was sick or teething or whatever. My 2nd now 16 months still wakes 2 or more times at night and I always still offer her the breast to get her back to sleep.



I haven't tried it myself but I've heard good things about Dr. Jay Gordons night weaning techniques. Dr. Gordon is an "attachment parenting" advocate, and he recommends this for only those babies over 12 months... but as you've stated your LO is 19 months he falls well into this category.



http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleepp...

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I started talking to my son when he was about your son's age. I'd tell him every night while he was nursing at bedtime that he was a big boy and he didn't need 'baboo' again til morning. Yeah... little stinker used to stop nursing just to laugh at me. lol



After a while of just talking about it... when he would wake I would tell him it wasn't morning and to go back to sleep. If he started to get upset I'd just nurse him, but if he were just whining a bit I'd wait a couple of minutes and he'd actually go back to sleep sometimes! Eventually the times he freaked out started to get less and less and some nights he'd fall back to sleep w/out even whining. Eventually he just stopped waking up completely. He was just after 2 when that happened.



Now he's almost 4 (been day weaned since 3.25) and for the past almost 2 years the only times he wakes are if he's sick, has a bad dream, or needs to pee. We took a very casual, no/minimal crying approach and it worked for us.

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Delighted, things are looking up for you! I'm still co-sleeping with my daughter, too, so it definitely is possible to do this while sharing a bed. Actually, I think it was easier to bear the screaming without having to get up or turn the light on...

Ania - posted on 03/18/2012

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I just kept comforting him by patting his back or standing over my son's crib and saying shhhh It took a while but he finally got it...If he was getting angry and kicking I was leaving and coming back after a while. It is a process and you will definetly loose more sleep over this for few nights. I also had water ready for him in the sippy cup

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I used the method on the link Lori provided, when my LO turned 2. I slightly altered it to suit our situation and eventually fully night-weaned just recently at 2.5 years.



To get her to sleep without boob for 7-8 hours took us about 6 weeks and yes, it involved a lot of screaming, kicking and fighting.

I think, what helped us was to involve her in the process (ie talk to her about it during the day, explain that boobies need their sleepies at night), be right there with her (comfort her any way she needs it - my daughter insisted on sitting on my lap without the blanket for half the night) and never doubt your decision to night-wean in the heat of the moment (I think being confident actually reassured my daughter).



I still stay with her until she falls asleep, but these days it really only takes 5 to 10 minutes (something she actually settled in fairly quickly, so don't be disheartened just yet).



My heart goes out to you, I know how incredibly hard this can be - physically AND emotionally. Take comfort in the fact that your LO is crying in your arms and not alone in a dark room. He'll be just fine. Hang in there, you WILL come out on the other side.

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Serra - posted on 03/20/2012

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I have following the link and it seems to be working the first 2 nights were actually easier then last night for some reason. Its hard b/c we co sleep so he climbs on me and trird to pull the boob out himself! Lol being a momma is teaching me patience at least! Thanks for the support ladies! :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 03/18/2012

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Ania, how long is a while? Because I can't get my one year old to sleep either.



Serra, don't worry you're not alone. My 12 month old is doing this as well. My only advice is to have your husband help you out by trying to stay up with him on weekends if he's able. I'm going to try Lori's link as well. And if you want to PM me for support go ahead because I know exactly what you're going through.

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