how did you wean your baby off the breast?

Stacey - posted on 04/17/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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i have an 8 month old baby who is breast and bottle fed i want to stop breast feeding be for he is 1 year but every time i try to stop he just crys all the time n misses his breast feeds some one told me to give him chocolate milk cuz he will like it so he wont be breastfeeding he will b enjoying the chocolate milk instead but im not going to do that its not good for my child did any of u stop stop beast feeding be for ur baby was 1 year and they really missed being able to feed if so how did u cope with that n what did u do to comfort them with out breast feeding (he wont take a dummy)

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Melissa - posted on 04/24/2011

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Yeah i just wanted to let you know that's why everyone was telling you about making sure to give him formula or breast milk before a year is that in your original statement you had posted about chocolate milk. I was not trying to create further arguement i just wanted to let you know where everyone got where everyone was getting the milk facts from. Breastmilk is always best until a year old and then if that doesn't work which for some it doesn't- it didn't for me i had to stop because i couldn't get enough milk and didn't have the support from my doctor to put me on the medication needed to help increase my supply so had to switch to formula since it was causing too much stress for me pumping and trying to latch!

Rachel - posted on 04/24/2011

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Hi. I wanted to let you know that I think you should keep going till at least a year. There are numerous reasons why. And I know that each family is different. The above statement is my own opinion. :-)
So... the reasons:
I recently went to a class done by Kathleen Kendall-Tacket, who is a researcher in the field of breastfeeding. They have found that women who stop nursing before a year have an increased risk of heart diseas, metabolic diseases, stress problems, along with the increase in cancers and diabetes we've all already heard of.
They also found that women who continue to nurse have better quality sleep, as well as more of it.
They also found that the rate for depression went up for those mothers who bottle fed, or used a combination breast/bottle.
They also found that women who had traumatic experiences in their past, as well as sexual assault and rape had better outcomes the longer they nurse their babes.
For me, the choice is clear what is best. But again, each family is different. And each woman needs to make that decision for herself.
You wrote that you think both you and your baby would miss it after you wean... so may I ask what makes you want to wean??

Lauren - posted on 04/24/2011

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I understand what you are saying because I am weaning my son of 17 months now. Since your son is drinking formula, I would suggest to just increase his formula feedings and decrease the breast one feeding each week. If he puts up quite a temper tantrum, then just may be wait a bit. I started to reduce my son's milk intake one feeding per three days and yes he had his share of temper tantrums( throwing himself on the floor and everything), but I didn't give in. I realized that if I brought his attention elsewhere to something he likes (snacks, toys, etc), he forgot about the milk. So now I am down to 1 feeding during the night before he goes to bed.

I think this is my challenge because its a easy relaxation before he goes to bed, but I'll figure out something and share with the forum.

So overall, just wean slowly, be patient and give him plently of hugs and love because he may become clingy because that was his comfort since birth, but the more he realizes that you will still love him just as much, he will begin to wean himself.

I hope this information helps.

Kristi - posted on 04/24/2011

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After babe has turned 1, they usually slow down on wanting the boob so much... Maybe try and wait til he is about 13-15 months? Then, you can drop one feed out of your day every couple weeks til it's down to nap and night, then slowly wean bane from nap and night. 8 month babies have strong attachment to momma and breast, so taking it away at this point is going to be super hard :( Like I always tell new moms, if you don't hate it, keep going... This time passes so quickly, and before you know it, he'll be going off to college. Enjoy your time with him at the breast while you can. And don't worry... He won't take you to college with him to nurse him to sleep (;

Melissa - posted on 04/24/2011

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at the night time feeding with the tantrum, maybe find a relaxing cd of baby lullabyes or a favourite book series- one like curious george, or if you give a pig a pancake/if you give a moose a muffin story books, one that can offer a variety- maybe by the same author so it can give a variety of books with a similar type theme to it that MAY help with the tantrums at night when you decide to give up the night time feedings. Or maybe you can sleep with 1 or 2 receiving blankets and that way you can alternate out blankets he cuddles at night with your scent on it, and that way he still has something of you with him when he sleeps at night! Or a favourtie cuddly toy!

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Keri - posted on 05/06/2011

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The thing is by the time they start walking their feeding will slow way down. My daughter is now 27 months old. Most days she will nurse maybe 3 times a day. There are days that she wants to nurse all day still, but that is usually when she is overly tired or when she is coming down with something. Most of the time when she asks for milk she will nurse for a minute and run off and play. There are still great benefits with breastfeeding past age 1.

Ginny - posted on 04/25/2011

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Totally didn't think you were implying that you were going to give him milk and understood 100 % that you said no to the chocolate milk. That's stinks that people getting confused.

Stacey - posted on 04/25/2011

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after reading the last 2 posts i think i will just keep going until my baby wants to stop thank you all for your comments

Stacey - posted on 04/25/2011

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i only manged to bf my daughter for 3 weeks and this time i planned to stop at 6 months but still going and can see myself still bf past a year my little man loves it so much and me and my partner want another baby but i really dont want to be feeding Regan (my 8month old) and a new baby

Melissa - posted on 04/24/2011

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it was because of the chocolate milk- they don't make chocolate formula so that implied the milk

Venessa - posted on 04/24/2011

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You poor thing.. not once did i ever read you implying you were feeding your little one cows milk!
Not that i have much input in this subject as both my kids were off the boob before 5 months, but i would think he would have to keep trying to replace the bf feeds with bottle, and putting him in his own room to sleep might help.
I heard that they smell the milk and that wakes them up.
Hopefully everything works out

Stacey - posted on 04/24/2011

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y does every 1 keep telling me if i dont breastfed i need to give my baby formula i no that im not stupid im NOT asking about giving my baby cows milk i know he cant have that till he is 1 i just dont want to breastfed past 1 year I KNOW HE CANT HAVE COWS MILK UNTIL HE IS 1 i am trying to get my baby off the boob but i cant seem to get him off because he comfort feeds and just crys if i miss a breastfeed out i DO NOT want to give my baby cows milk he has 2 BOTTLES OF FORMULA and 4 breastfeeds a day and breastfeeds most the night

Heidi - posted on 04/23/2011

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maybe try to get him in his own bed first so that boob isn't always there and available to him. then start to slowly wean.

Melissa - posted on 04/23/2011

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You should be weaning your baby to formula until a year, it is not recomended to give a baby cows milk until 1 year old anyways. babies can't get all the nutrition they need from solids and milk before a year old so if you wean off breast milk before a year it should be to formula

Kasie - posted on 04/23/2011

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Ah, yeah my son woulda been doing the same thing but I got tired of him waking up throughout the night to eat so at 3 months I put him in his crib to sleep and got him used to that, now he doesn't wake up to eat at all unless he's sick or something and that was only once. I think if you just get your son used to sleeping alone where he can't see you then he'll get used to sleeping through the night and it'll be easier to get him off at a year. That's just my thinking

Stacey - posted on 04/23/2011

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my son loves the boob cant live with out it he sleeps in bed with me n feeds most the night n i can c him still feeding past 2 years if i dont do something about it soon

Kasie - posted on 04/23/2011

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don't worry about it, I just need to really read things before I comment. I know what you mean, I want to stop bf at a year too and I know I'm gonna miss it, unfortunately I think I have to stop cold turkey with my son cause that seems to be the only way he learns.

Stacey - posted on 04/23/2011

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sorry i shouldnt of snaped im having a bad day yeh i know he needs breast milk or formula until he is one i just dont want to breastfeed him past 1 year but i know when i stop we will both miss it

Stacey - posted on 04/23/2011

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i can c my self still feeding him when he is 2 and by that time i dont really want him stuck to my boob all the time i know he cant have cows milk untill he is one and if read read what i put it says he is bottle and breast fed im not going to stop bf him then just give him nothing i know he still needs milk but i dont want to bf him past one year

Stacey - posted on 04/23/2011

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my baby has 2 bottles of formula a day and 4 breastfeeds a day im not gonna just stop feeding him

Kasie - posted on 04/23/2011

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The reason you're not supposed to stop bf before a year is cause they can't get all those nutrients and antibodies in regular milk. I hope you are at least substituting with formula cause if not, your baby can get mal nutrition and babies can die from that.

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I dropped one feeding per week until he was weaned. He liked both bottle and breast, both breast milk and formula, so it really didn't seem to matter to him at all. He hasn't seemed to miss the boob at all. It's only been a week, but he's fine with it.

Ginny - posted on 04/18/2011

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Before my daughter turned 1 I would nurse her morning

And during the day and at night she got a bottle or cup of expressed milk(since I work most nights). It may take him while to get used to, but eventually he will realize that this is his other way of getting milk. A baby won't let themselves starve. When my daughter turned one, i slowly stopped pumping and started turning her night time milk from breast milk to whole milk, but still continue to nurse in the morning(dropped her breast feeding in the after . First) She is now 13.5 months and recently stopped asking to nurse in the morning and weaned herself. You can nurse after 1 if you want, but if You don't want to I'd recommend slowly decreasing the amount of feedings one at a time over a certain period of time. Also, have you tried letting someone else give him a bottle?



Glad to hear you're not going to give him chocolate milk :-)



About the comfort thing, by daughter used a pacifier so Breasfeeding wasn't so much for comfort for her. Good luck!

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I started weaning my twins at 13 months. I just dropped one feed (they were schedule fed) at a time until they only had the bedtime one left. We dropped that one at 15 months. They were pacifier 'addicts' though, so didn't really care.

My son is 3 and still nursing, so no clue how to wean a comfort fed baby.

I am glad to hear that you know not to give your infant chocolate milk though. 8 months is quite young to start weaning even if you want him done by a year. I'd suggest giving it at least another 2 months before you even begin to worry about it.

Celeste - posted on 04/17/2011

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You can continue to nurse past a year if you choose. There will still continue to be benefits.

Having said that, if you're ready to wean, I'd wait til he's a year and then wean. Do it slowly. I'm on my phone but you can look on kellymom for weaning techniques.

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