How do I get away from nursing in bed?

Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 month old and I nurse her to sleep every night. It was a good way to get rest after a c-section and she always sleeps well beside me. The problem is that she suckles for hours and if I detach her too early she will wake up searching for the nipple. I feel stuck in bed every night (we are now going to bed at 8:30pm which seems too early for me and too late for her). I would like to find a way to put her to sleep that eases her away from the comfort of suckling but gives me a bit more time in the evening for me and my husband. Any ideas? experiences? opinions?

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Jennifer - posted on 01/12/2013

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Just a quick update :) I discovered that the pacifier works. I still lay with her at bedtime but she will use the pacifier to fall asleep and then I can sneak away. When she wakes I just go in to replace the pacifier (unless she needs a feed). I still sleep with her in bed but at least I finally have some ME time. Thanks!

Stephanie - posted on 11/06/2012

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It was so hard for me to put my baby girl in her crib. If my husband hadn't been there for support, I would not have been able to do it.

One thing that we do now is sometimes bring the little one into our bed in the morning when she first wakes up. I nurse her and we can have some special snuggle time in mommy's bed.

They grow up so quick!

Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2012

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Thanks for the comments. We are beginning to use the bassinet in our room for naps (we tried at the beginning for nighttime but it was too much work getting up to comfort her with a c-section). I think we will then try the nighttime in bassinet. Then eventually move it to her own room and then crib :( I feel sad thinking about this transition because I will miss sleeping with her so much!!!! But I do really feel like I need some "me" time and time with my hubby. I hope that she doesn't feel abandoned by me! I know that she won't. I am just so surprised at how emotional this is for me.

Stephanie - posted on 10/29/2012

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I had this same problem. I would go to bed at 6:30 with my baby while my hubby stayed up until 9 or so! I eventually had enough and started putting my baby girl in her crib.

It was at 4.5 months when I started. I started a bed time routine with bath and book and nursed her in her room then put her down in the crib (still the way I do it, she's 10 months now).

She did fuss a lot the first night, but I reassured her every 5-10 minutes and she took4 5 minutes to fall asleep. The next day, she took all her naps in her crib and went to bed easy from then on! Even she started to sleep through the night, where before she was waking about every 2 hours to nurse.

I think she could smell me because I tried sleeping with her crib in my bedroom and that didn't work for us. Basically I had just had enough and said, tonight's the night, no more baby in my bed!

My husband was very supportive so that helped. It was so hard not to go into her, but it worked and she woke happier than ever, she is still a very happy baby.

Good luck Jennifer!

Mary - posted on 10/27/2012

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If you're OK with a pacifier, you could see if she'd take that after you detach her. It may help if you leave something nearby that smells like you, as long as you can think of something that would be safe. Also, a baby's sleep habits change regularly, so don't despair if nothing works right now...as she gets older things will change (for the better or for the worse...it is unpredictable!)



Have you tried taking her to bed earlier or later? If she is getting over-tired, she may be having trouble settling into a restful sleep (I've read that can happen) so getting her to bed earlier might help.

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