How do I get my baby to take a dummy?

Emma - posted on 05/05/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter is 1 month old and I am exclusively breast feeding, however, she seems to think my boob is a dummy and she looks to it all day and night long for just the comfort of sucking. I have tried (with the advice from the health visitor) to introduce a dummy but she just keeps spitting it out, without even sucking it, and then continues screaming until I put her on my breast. Sometimes she will literally suck my breast for 2 or 3 sucks then stop and just lay asleep on it for hours!! Please if anyone has any advice it would be really appreciated!!


Mary - posted on 05/07/2011




No she thinks your boobs is your boob. She knows what it is and what it is for. Would you want something false in place of whatever it is that gives you comfort? Probably not. She's telling you she needs you. I know its hard, neither of mine ever took an artificial nipple of any sort. In fact, my 12 month old still comfort nurses and my 31 month old nurses 3 times a week.

The breast is better for oral/facial/muscular development than the pacifier is. The breast is less likely to become contaminated with bacteria than the pacifier is. Suckling on the pacifier doesn’t communicate with mom’s immune system the way comfort sucking at the breast does. The breast is less likely to be recalled than the pacifier is. The breast is less likely to rip/tear and pose a choking hazard than the pacifier is. The breast is less likely to contain chemicals that can end up in the baby’s system than the pacifier is. Yes, the teats on pacifiers are presumed safe, but we are constantly finding out new issues with different chemicals.

Babies are meant to suckle at the breast. They are meant to find comfort from this. This encourages them to nurse, which encourages bonding and increases mom’s supply. Mom is not “being used as a pacifier” when a baby wants to comfort suck. A pacifier does not exist in nature. It’s a rubber substitute for mom. Baby is using mom as mom, not as a pacifier. Pacifiers are tools of convenience, which can definitely be nice. But to consider them the “right” way and to categorize comfort sucking at the breast as being used as a substitute for something that was developed to be a substitute for sucking at the breast… It’s a bit backwards. Don't ya think? Baby is using you as you are intended to be used, the pacifier is the substitute, not the other way around.

What I'm trying to say is you are doing the right thing by comforting your baby. Maybe baby is about to have a growth spurt, this is a good way to build up a supply. You never know. You are doing a great job.

Keri - posted on 05/06/2011




I had to get my daughter on one it was the only way should would ride in the car without screaming. The way I did it is I would get her all comfy on the breast and the slip my nipple out and insert the pacifier. It took a while but eventually she took to it. Our car rides became much easier.

Holly Janelle - posted on 05/05/2011




My daughter is 7 weeks and I just recently got used to her being attached to me pretty much 24-7 or when she needs comfort or needs help going to sleep. It has helped me keep a healthy supply and keep up with her growth spurts and what not. It's really their job to keep our supply up and build it up according to their needs. Naturally we were made to be a dummy they haven't always been available and when they weren't available we were what was used. Sometimes it really felt as though I didn't get a second away from bf, it's like she was always attached(and still is) but I kind of just got used to it and learned to understand. It's also helped me with my ppd to nurse frequently because of the hormone that is released oxytocin "the love hormone". I thought they were joking when other mommies said it but being skin to skin and nursing my baby is a great feeling. I promise it will get easier you just have to get past this rough patch and then you will try really enjoying it. If she wants you just let her latch be happy she wants you it won't be like that forever. She will become more independent and you'll be like what happened?! Hope this helped. Your doing an awesome job, bfing is a hard job but so rewarding. I'm finally starting to enjoy and understand it better and so will you!

Emma - posted on 05/08/2011




Thanks everyone....I have to say I have abandoned the dummy for the moment. I am just going with the flow and trying to compromise between feeding/comforting her and dealing with my son as well. I am going to try expressing soon though and see how a bottle goes...give daddy a turn at the night feed once in a while. Gonna let her forget about the dummy, then try the bottle, and maybe reintroduce dummy at later stage if I need to.
Thanks for all the help :)


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Natasha - posted on 05/06/2011




I have 3 kiddos, and my son (the oldest) was the only one to take a pacifier. My girls just didn't like them, no matter how many different kinds I tried. I exclusively breastfed all of my kids, too. It was exhausting the first few months, since they did want to nurse CONSTANTLY but it did get easier and their feedings became more spread out. My kids would fall asleep while nursing too, but I'd ease them off and lay them in bed.

Lorraine - posted on 05/05/2011




she might not like a dummy either, my daughter is nearly 4 month's and i tried to introduce a dummy even brought a few different brands but still didn't take to one. with my son i offered it to him in the first week and he had one till he was 2. i agree with Lisa as it's a demand and feed with breastfeeding, my daughter seem's to be very happy sucking on her fist so i only offered the dummy a few times on rough nights. you can try to put some breastmilk on her blanket in bed to see if that will help because they will have the smell near them. if that doesn't work you can alway's swaddle the baby for comfort but don't give up keep feeding on demand to get your supply up and remember breastfeeding is not like formula the baby tell's you when there hungry but good luck.

Minnie - posted on 05/05/2011




Young babies nurse A LOT. Seriously. A LOT. Wanting to nurse severall times an hour is very normal. It can be tiring and frustrating, but it's really the way human babies are supposed to nurse.

Some babies never take a pacifier. They prefer to do all non-nutritive sucking on the breast- that's what it's there for, after all.

The only way to get her to use it would be to keep offering, but you can't force it- if she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. That frequent nursing is very important to maintaining adequate milk production- and excellent in preventing ovulation.

If she falls asleep at your breast can you ease her off? Perhaps nurse her down in bed and leave? Would getting a soft baby carrier like a mei tai help to soothe her and give you two hands?

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