How long did you breastfeed? and How long is to long? or Is there a to long?

Jennifer - posted on 10/16/2009 ( 148 moms have responded )

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I'm on baby number 3. With my first baby I was young and only breastfed for 3 months... I was so over it. When my second child was born I thought I should feed longer but got sick (flu) and the milk just stopped. Now that I'm on baby number 3 I really want to feed him as long as possible. So far it's been 7 weeks. I ONLY give him a bottle when I know well be out all day...so I"ll pump.

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Lisa - posted on 10/20/2009

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In response to stopping breastfeeding when they can ask for it, my daughter is 10 months and say's, 'Boo', when she wants a feed so does that mean I should stop feeding?



And she got 8 teeth at 6 months - does that also mean I should have stopped then? She's only bitten me once, I removed her from the breast and put her on the floor on her own for a minute and she has never done it since.



At the end of the day it's what suits you and your child but I don't think it's right for people to say you should stop when your child can X, Y, Z. That reasoning seems very flawed to me as children have such varying developmental rates.

Hannah - posted on 10/19/2009

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I just weaned my daughter at 13 months. I think its "too long" when it stops being about food. In our society I think 3 is too long. In Africa or something where there is no other food 8 is still acceptable. But when its no longer about food its weird.

Natasha - posted on 10/18/2009

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I just have to ask Lisa a question; how are breasts not sexual? They are for the use of giving nutrician to a baby, and while I was breastfeeding I of course did not find them sexual, but while not breastfeeding they do become part of your sex life again! But I would think that I would find after years of breastfeeding that I would have had enough of being a feeding tool and would desire to feel like a woman again! Thats like saying our vaginas are not sexual, they are for giving birth with! if anyone finds this offensive I am sorry. But I believe that our bodies are multi-functional and that each part of our body can be used not just for neccessities such as feeding, but for pleasure. We are, after all, one of the few species that have sex not just for procreation but for pleasure. Ha ha I wonder what most of the men in our lives would say we told them our breasts were not sexual.....I think that they would be quite surprised! This where the minefield of emotional issues toward breastfeeding begins though. I believe that too long is when you feel that you can longer give this of yourself, when your heart and head is telling you to move on. As said above the best way to this is gradually to help the child through it and to make it less uncomfortable for yourself. This can be at different stages for different mothers.

Lisa - posted on 10/17/2009

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18 months and counting with my first. I don't believe there is a "too long". The APA suggests one year and WHO two years, which I would agree with somewhere between the two at the earliest. It is what is best for baby, and before 12 months, it really is the main source of nutrition. Your feelings toward it and your child's desire to wean can be more of a determining factor. Some kids will go on a nursing strike before 12 months, but I would encourage you to push through this stage to wait for true weaning. If you decide to wean (as apposed to child led weaning), do so gradually for your child and your sake. It is less traumatic for the child and less uncomfortable for you.

Peta - posted on 10/17/2009

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The World Health Organisation recommends breastfeeding excusively for 6 months then with the introduction of solids to continue to breastfeed to at least 2 years old. Then continuing to breastfeed past 2 if mum and toddler are happy. It's only society that pressures us to wean. There is such great benefits to continue like for healthy immune systems, decrease risk of heart disease and obesity and comfort to the child. The other benefits are to you the mother, it greatly decreases you chance of breast and ovarian cancer. We can become selfish about breastfeeding to and continue for our own benefits. Good luck

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Shannon - posted on 06/16/2011

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9 months is what i prefer i dont care about recommendations really im my childs mother ill decide whats best for her really i dont let anyone influence my decisions. thats just me.

Merry - posted on 06/16/2011

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Ahh, Does your pediatrician know the recommendation is two years minimum? And not to use bottles if possible? Straight from the breast is healthiest for the jaw development.
Unless your child has some situation that I'm unaware of, these are the standerd recommendations for best health!

Shannon - posted on 06/16/2011

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just what me and my pediatrician talked about.



also i want my child to be on a sippy at 9 months and on a cup at 2



and its my decision to stop at 9 months some stop at 12 months some stop sooner all on the mom and what she decides, nothing wrong with the 9 months.

Merry - posted on 06/16/2011

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Why 9 months? I've heard some say 6, some say 12, but I haven't heard a 9 month goal before! Why not make it to the bare minimum of 12? Just curious why you think 9 is the optimum time to stop.

Shannon - posted on 06/16/2011

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i think this topic is not necessary to bring up, especially the how long is to long, and the is there a to long. especially if your answer isnt what other moms think it should be you get bashed (from other moms and moderators who disagree with what you have to say) just breastfeed however long you want really its all on you really. i will be breast feeding for 9 months only then switching to pumping then switching to whole milk as my pediatrician advises. i do not *recommend* breastfeeding past that really then again i would be embarrassed to breastfeed my child while she was in school and past that i believe it will lead to problems if she wanted to work or get married,

Jessica - posted on 06/16/2011

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I am commited to doing this for at least the first 6 months, after that I have no idea when I will stop...

Nikki - posted on 06/15/2011

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It is really different for every mother and every child. I have 3 daughters ages 10, 3 and 21 mts. With my eldest daughter, I nursed for 15 months, with my second daughter, I nursed for 10 months and would have actually gone to 12 months but I started taking some allergy medicines that dried my milk up but with my 3rd daughter, I am still nursing. Of course, she eats and drinks regular food/drink but when she wants to nurse, she nurses. I believe that she will stop when she's ready so until then, we'll be going strong.



Nikki

Jessica - posted on 10/24/2009

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Quoting chrishyelle:

i gues we have the same kind of thing going on...my first baby....i only bfd for abt 3 mth ...my second abt 4 mth...now my third baby i consider i give full exclusive bfd almst 7 mth now...but i'm starting to give her a bottle a day so its easy for me to transform her to bottle with formula milk when i stop bfding...i guess i will be bfding her untill she is 1yrs of age....mothers milk is the best milk after all....so good luck



After 1 year whole milk can be used, you don't need to give formula.

Jessica - posted on 10/24/2009

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Quoting Sunshine:

This is very informative... Hopefully after having my son he latches!!!:) Im doing everything I can to get ready for the pain NOW, lmao!!!



If there's pain, his latch is wrong.  There should be little to no pain (sore nipples that are new to nursing are the exemption) when latch is right.  Three things I consider "essentials" to nurse:



- Boppy Pillow (or other such nursing pillow)



-Lansinoh Lanolin cream (a tiny bit goes a long way, and really helps sore nipples!)



- "Latch Assist" made by Lansinoh (right next to the Lanolin in most stores) but I would only get this after consulting with a lactation specialist (call La Leche League or local WIC office, even your hospital - you should see a "lact-aide" before you go home after delivering anyways.



 



Successful BFing (in my opinion) starts at birth.  Start early, nurse often, and room in with baby!



 



Congratulations!

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I think there is a link between the sexual objectification of breasts and low rates of breastfeeding. I think when one is up the other is down. These days there is soft porn everywhere you look.

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Hey all, I posted but cant find it, I just wanted to say I am still feeding my 26 month old, and I WAS breastfed for five years myself, and I can STILL REMEMBER BREASTFEEDING from my own mother quite fondly.



"Anthropological evidence shows that humans have evolved to breastfeed for several years."... Read More



Breastfeeding your toddler can provide:









* 31% of his daily energy needs,







* 38% of protein requirements,







* 45% of Vitamin A requirements, and







* 95% of Vitamin C needs.

http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/s...

http://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/bfinfo/t...



Are you aware that leading health organizations recommend two years and beyond?



WHO recommends exclusive breastfeeding until a baby is six months old, and continued breastfeeding with the addition of nutritious complementary foods for up to two years or beyond. ... Read More



http://www.who.int/mediacentre/events/an...



They also say here,



“Exclusive breastfeeding in the first half-year of life and continued breastfeeding coupled with appropriate foods reduce the number of children under five who die from malnutrition," said Dr Lee. Malnutrition is associated with more than 50% of deaths among children under five.”



http://www.who.int/mediacentre/news/rele...

Chrishyelle - posted on 10/24/2009

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i gues we have the same kind of thing going on...my first baby....i only bfd for abt 3 mth ...my second abt 4 mth...now my third baby i consider i give full exclusive bfd almst 7 mth now...but i'm starting to give her a bottle a day so its easy for me to transform her to bottle with formula milk when i stop bfding...i guess i will be bfding her untill she is 1yrs of age....mothers milk is the best milk after all....so good luck

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I weaned my twins at 15 months.



My son is 19 months and counting.... He's been saying 'baboo' (his word for nursing) for about 4 or 5 months now. :) No clue how he came up w/ that word since I've always called it 'milkies.' I'm not sure when we will wean. It's the easiest way to get him to take a nap, so hopefully he won't want to wean TOO soon. He currently has no interest yet.

Brianna - posted on 10/23/2009

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I am breastfeeding and my daughter is 5 months. you should breastfeed for at least a year because if not you will have to give formula because they cannot have milk until 1 year and i think its too long after 2 years old and if you really think there is great nutrition then to pump and give it in a sippy cup or cup but dont give the boob

Sandy - posted on 10/23/2009

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I'm a mother of a 4yr old boy and 19month old girl. I nursed my son until he was 11 mos. old exclusively NO bottles what so ever. At 10 mos he was only at nighttime. He would have went longer but I weaned him off because we were going to be traveling\flying(him and I) at Christmastime and I didnt want to travel and nurse and do all the other airport stuff. My daughter was 15 mos and only at naptime and nighttime. She and i weaned together while on vacation at my Mom's. Like many others have said it just depends on the mother and child. I would have nursed both longer prolly until 2yrs at least. It is soooo beneficial for them in so many ways.

Sandy - posted on 10/23/2009

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I agree I believe if you breastfeed a child to the point where they can remember or even before they will see breasts as a form of nourishment not as sexual. My four year still snuggles down on my chest. even though he doesn't breastfeed anymore and so does my 19 month old daughter. She nursed until 15 months and would have went longer.

Ashley - posted on 10/23/2009

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I breastfed my first for 7 months. Too much stress and a divorce took its toll on my milk supply. With my second, I was able to breastfeed for 13 months. I was a full time student and pumped while I was away. We breastfed while I was home. He and I came to a mutual agreement that he was ready for cow's milk and food. It has worked out well. My hubby and I are now working on our third. I plan to feed this one as long as he or she decides is needed.

Rebecca - posted on 10/23/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

I am mummy to a 10 months baby girl who I have exclusively breastfed since the day she was born. I will continue to breastfeed for as long as she wants to. The link below is a great video which basically addresses everything and makes you feel really empowered for breastfeeding. I found it by accident one day and it's brilliant!


 

Janine - posted on 10/23/2009

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My daughter was weaned at about 19 mo. I was pg with my second, the milk had dried up and I was so tired and so sore...and she was soooooo goofing off everytime she nursed. It was not the ending I hoped for, as I literally handed her to her Dad one night and said that I was done. She cried after me (mama, nurse more, pease?). But, I have been nursing my son for six months now and plan for a year. Then we'll see. It's such a commitment-a labor of love, if you will. I love to do it for them...but then some days, all I can think is, 'are you still stuck to the front of me?!?!'. Last I heard, the american association of pediatrics recommended a year and then as long as was mutually desireable. The WHO (world health organization) recommends two years, I think. It does really come down to what you and your child are comfortable with. I took long lunches and nursed my daughter, I pumped. I pump for my son while at work. It's a job. To go with parenting..so it's a consideration! But, I never planned a time. And, honestly, I had mastitis twice in the first two months with my daughter and issues with my son, so for the first 6-9 months, I just kept saying that we'll go another 3 months and see what happens! I never planned an end. In fact, once my first was yanking my shirt all over the place (and you let me know how setting 'limits' with a 14 month old works for you!!) I was wondering, now that I worked so hard to make this happen, how to I stop?!? I think that it's always a case-by-case basis. You never know what will happen. But it's always worth a try and whatever time you can give.

Minnie - posted on 10/23/2009

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Quoting Darcy:

I have enjoyed reading all of the comments regarding breastfeeding and the length of time that is optimal. I am the mother of a 14 year old son who nursed until he was 5.5 years old. I remember hearing people tell me that what I was doing was "wrong" and "disgusting" "perverted", that I was going to create a mama's-boy who would have hang-ups and would never move out of the house! While my story is only anecdotal, I can tell you that I have a well adjusted young man who loves to spend the night with his friends, does not "comfort" eat and who remembers nursing very fondly. He is proud to say how long he breastfed and enjoys relaying the funny story of the last time he nursed. I was happy that it was his choice and sad to lose one of the many tools inside my parenting tool-box.

14 years ago it was still considered indecent exosure to nurse a child in public and many states had yet to pass laws that specifically excluded nursing from those laws. I had no problem nursing in public as (like most, if not all mothers) I it was not as though I would take my blouse off and lie down on the sidewalk to nurse him! Rarely did people even realize what we were doing and if they did (and did not like it), I looked at it as a chance to educate.

I hope all women choose to do what is best for their children with regards to breastfeeding. Support is very important, as is accurate information. All the best to breastfeeding mothers!



I was just talking a little while ago with another mother I met here (she's currently nursing a four year old).  She thinks her daughter will go until at least five and I think that's great.  What better way to change the attitude of the next generation.  Just think what a sensitive father your son will be when he has children of his own- how supportive of breastfeeding toward his wife and the needs of his children he'll be!



I really hope that Adelaide nurses until she has memories of it down the road- memories of the closeness we had, the cuddles, the love shared- and I hope she'll use that when she has children of her own.  That's what long-term nursing offers!

Samantha - posted on 10/23/2009

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Well, I am a single mother with one child. I have breast fed him ever since he was born (he's never so much as even had a bottle in his mouth!), and he is 18 months old and still going at it! We both love the closeness and the "snuggling" time it allows us. I've talked to his doctors about it, and they say to continue as long as we both want. Yes, I've had family members asking me just how long I'm planning to continue, but I ignore them. It is funny, though, now that he's talking, because even when we are out in public if he decides he wants to nurse, he'll start pointing to my breasts or grabbing my shirt saying "Mommy, Bite-bite!!"

Ricki - posted on 10/23/2009

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Hi, I wont get into a big debate over the whole issue as I just dont see the point. The length a child breastfeeds is up to the mother and her baby.

I have three kids and another on the way, all my children have breastfed for varying amounts of time. My eldest breastfed till she was 2yrs old when she self-weaned (a month before her sister was born). She slowly just became less and less interested in booby and more involved in doing other things.

My second daughter breastfed till she was 3yrs old when after trying numerous ways of weaning failed I flat out told her that booby was broken and only if I had another baby would booby work again. At this point she was still nursing for 1-2hr long periods nearly all day as well as ALL night. I had become underweight and my eldest daughter was starting to resent her sister's need to constantly nurse. I was also getting uncomfortable with her nursing. I look back now and see it was due to societal pressure but if I hadnt weaned her then I know for certain that she'd still be nursing now (she's amost 7yrs old now). And personally I just wouldnt feel comfortable with that aside from the fact that I know her frequency of nursing wouldn't have changed. She was just one BIG booby baby, lol

My son is currently 18 months old and is still breastfeeding, I think he is starting to slowly wean himself at present. My left breast has completely turned to colostrum as I'm nearly 7 months pregnant and he wont drink out of that side. He also just seems more interested in everything else. Only really breastfeeds when he is tired or really upset. We'll see how it goes, if he continues nursing when the new baby arrives then I'm fine with that or if he weans before than I'm sorta fine with that. My aim has always been at least 2yrs as that is what age I was weaned and I feel I owe the same to my own children.

Holly - posted on 10/23/2009

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i had a simaler things happen to me i have 3 girls and my first one was 9 week eairly and wouldnt latch so i pumped till i went back to school my middle child i breastfeed her till she was 8 mounths old but had to give fomula cause she wasnt a very good nurser with the last one she is 7 mounth and is the best nurser and has had nothing but breastmilk hoping to go to about 2yrs with her if she lets me

Kelly - posted on 10/23/2009

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i only fed for 2 weeks has my little boy wanted feeding every 30 mins and i couldnt cope with the demand he has come on leaps since going on formula, my sister in law fed un my nephew was 18 mts i dont think there is a right answer its just what you feel comfortable with and what your baby wants

Amber - posted on 10/23/2009

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I bf my oldest till he was 10 months (I was only 19, he kept biting me, and I couldn't take it any longer) my second till he was 8 months (had emergency gallblader surgery, and he refused the breast after that) My third untill he was 9 months (was 3 months pregnant with number 4 when I dried up)My fourth untill she was 18 months. I realy didn't "wean" any of my children. They all did it themselves. In hindsight, I think my oldest was biting because he was ready to wean.



The best advise is to listen to your body and to your child. They won't let you down!

April - posted on 10/23/2009

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It depends on what you are comfortable with. People I know who breast fed their children say six months. Also as long as you're simulated and the baby feeds the milk will keep coming in. I've seen specials on tv where this three year old still breast feeds. It was a report the boy was outside playing and instead of getting a drink he went to his mom for milk and she fed him she also fed her nine year old and she said (the nine year old) that she stopped when she was five.

Stephanie - posted on 10/22/2009

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I breastfed my first baby for 6 weeks, but I wasnt coping at all. Second time around I decided Im going to preseveer, well he is 19 months and we're still going and Im loving it every minute of it, Ill let myself led by him!

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I have enjoyed reading all of the comments regarding breastfeeding and the length of time that is optimal. I am the mother of a 14 year old son who nursed until he was 5.5 years old. I remember hearing people tell me that what I was doing was "wrong" and "disgusting" "perverted", that I was going to create a mama's-boy who would have hang-ups and would never move out of the house! While my story is only anecdotal, I can tell you that I have a well adjusted young man who loves to spend the night with his friends, does not "comfort" eat and who remembers nursing very fondly. He is proud to say how long he breastfed and enjoys relaying the funny story of the last time he nursed. I was happy that it was his choice and sad to lose one of the many tools inside my parenting tool-box.



14 years ago it was still considered indecent exosure to nurse a child in public and many states had yet to pass laws that specifically excluded nursing from those laws. I had no problem nursing in public as (like most, if not all mothers) I it was not as though I would take my blouse off and lie down on the sidewalk to nurse him! Rarely did people even realize what we were doing and if they did (and did not like it), I looked at it as a chance to educate.



I hope all women choose to do what is best for their children with regards to breastfeeding. Support is very important, as is accurate information. All the best to breastfeeding mothers!

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My first baby breastfed for upto about 9 months then stopped by herself. My second baby is now 10 months but still breastfeeding. Its an individual's decision on when to stop breastfeeding but i think for me i would like him to stop maybe when he get to 1 and a half years. But i must say the bond between mother and baby when breastfeeding is so deep, i feel very close to my son when he breastfeeds.

Staci - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have only one baby, and she will be one year next week! She breastfeeds still, only to go to sleep for naps during the day, and first thing in the morning. Everything else is solids. I initially thought I would wean her when her first tooth popped out...then it was 12 months....now it's through flu season, and I think in the end I will just let her initiate the weaning. It is such a "comfort" thing for her, I do not want to take that away from her. Besides, she doesn't breastfeed in public or anything, when she gets hungry we give her solids. She knows that breastfeeding is just for napping and early mornings. I will just let her make her own decisions (she's good at that) and follow her lead. She is an independent child and eventually she'll decide she doesn't want it anymore. Good luck!

User - posted on 10/22/2009

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I breastfed my daughter till her third birthday. I was her choice to stop. My son is now almost 3 months and I will breastfeed him until he is done too. I also continued to breastfeed while he was in the hospital and recovering from brain surgery. It helped him adapt very well. I would encourage anyone to keep breastfeeding during an illness.

Dyanne - posted on 10/22/2009

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My son is 13 months and is still breatfeeding. I am willing to continue for as long as we both feel comfortable. Right now he only nurses to got to sleep so I am hoping that he will wean himself eventually.



My sister nursed one of her daughters until she was alomst 4. I would say that the amount of time to breastfeed is entirely up to the mother and the child.

Sarah - posted on 10/22/2009

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i do not believe there is such a thing as too long, i think its up to what you and your child feel comfortable with so if you want to breastfeed for 6 months ' 12months, 18 months, 2 years, 3 years etc its up to you and your child and no one has a right to tell you that wat your doing is wrong cause its not up to them :)



i breast fed my 1st for 9 months and my 2nd for 18 months and im pregnant with baby #3 and hope to breastfeed till 2 years if i can :)

Amanda - posted on 10/22/2009

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My daughters 7 months and I plan to breastfeed her until shes a year. I always said that i would nurse until she got teeth, she now has 4 teeth and i still breastfeed. I decieded that im going to nurse her until she starts demanding i nurse her, for example like lifting my shirt, and when that happens i start pumping but im a big supporter of prolonged breastfeeding, it does amazing things for the child.

Donna - posted on 10/22/2009

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First Baby 3 months and counting... i find i dont know alot of mum who did breastfeed and they are amazed i have.. I love to breastfeed, its so convient and i feel i have a real bond with my baby girl. She loves it.

Myria - posted on 10/22/2009

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I am still BF at 26 months although only at bedtime and if he gets hurt (he will ask for it). Its only too long when it does not work for you or the baby IMO.

LaFatima - posted on 10/22/2009

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I breastfed my first child for 17 months. I was so into having a healthy baby and wanted to shoot for 24 months. It was just getting to be a little wierd having a child that could walk and play oustside with the older shildren, walk in and pull up my shirt. I breastfed my second child for 14 months. I am on my last child and I am shooting for 12 months, but I have a feeling it will be more like 9.

Bristol - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have been breastfeeding for a little over 3 months, and plan on it for at least the first year, some do it for 2, maybe I will, not sure. It's the best thing for your baby, and once they grow teeth, you can just pump and make bottles, that's my plan! I say go for as long as you want! No harm in that!

Michelle - posted on 10/22/2009

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My goal is for at least a year. My son went for a year, but I was pregnant with my daughter and it got to be more then I could handle (and he was not really interested at that point either). I'm shooting for at least a year again with my daughter. Hopefully that will work out. I don't know about too long because I've never gotten there yet. I knew a couple of kids when I was in elementary school who's mom was coming in to school to breast feed them when they were in the second grade. That was probably too long. I know they didn't actually like that. Keep going and good luck!

Jan - posted on 10/22/2009

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With my first child, we breastfed until he was18 months, slowly tapering off. One day he just stopped. My second child, 6 years later, is nearly 17 months old and shows no sign of stopping. The International guidelines are 2 years. In traveling to Malawi, Africa, we saw this at work. Mother's milk provides the right nutrition at the right time, designed by nature for that particular baby. No replacement would be as good, unless there is some problem that would prevent you from breastfeeding. At the point you are in your baby's development, I would not necessarily be pumping and offering a bottle--you want the baby to know that you are the source of nutrition. As for "too long", I don't think there is a too long, as long as you and the baby are comfortable with it.

Julie - posted on 10/22/2009

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Tried to nurse my first baby but she had a lot of trouble latching. My second daughter was breasted until she was 5mths old. I breastfed my youngest until she was 2.5 years old. She never took a bottle, formula or a soother. In the end it became a habit for her more than a nutritional need. I took a lot of unwanted criticism from people for nursing her for so long but just do what YOU feel is best for you and your baby.

Jennifer - posted on 10/22/2009

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I am a mother of 6! And am currently breastfeeding my 6 month old twins. And will continue till they are a year for sure or after. But I breastfed all of my kids until they decided we were done. But 1 year has been my goal with all of my kids. Good Luck.

Nicole - posted on 10/22/2009

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if you aren't comfortable with that....id say sure. it should really be based on how the mom feels imo.

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