How Long to breastfeed and Co-sleep

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So my mother in law loves to give "advice", or just say its about time for my 8 month old to sleep in his bed. Then my family wants to know how long I am going to bf for. I don't plan on stopping either anytime soon. I was just wanting to know when other ppl have? Also do you get slack for family members as well??

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Talia - posted on 01/26/2010

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Still bf-ing and co-sleeping with my now 2 year old. If it suits your lifestyle and feels right to you.. don't feel presured. I feel strongly that judging other people's parenting is one of the worst things people can do, since no one knows their own child better than the parents. But of course it happens -- just take any well-meant 'advice' with a grain of salt!

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Minnie - posted on 01/29/2011

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I weaned my first at 12 months due to advice from her doctor. If I had been adequately informed I would have let her nurse as long as she wished. She's nearly five and sleeps in a twin shoved up next to our king. I am still nursing my 2 1/2 year old and she sleeps in our bed.

I only rarely receive criticism. Most people in my family on both sides realize I'm very confident in my choices and don't question. If anything, they come to me for advice.

It definitely can be frustrating though, when family becomes nosey in our personal lives.

Misty - posted on 01/29/2011

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the us is the only place where if you brestfeed longer then 6mths its crazy. i hate that such small mined people. all because most people bottle .their told crazy untrue storys about br . br baby's are happier heather .also i am doing a review on baby bond br covers in two weeks on my blog and will be giving it away after rowansmomsblog.info

Asmafiqi - posted on 01/29/2011

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bf 2years and 6 mon to put the baby on her or his own bed.it worked for me for my 2girls? i hope that helps!

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Still breastfeeding and co-sleeping at almost 17 months. And yes, I get those comments too. 'You HAVE to get her used to her own bed' is my favourite as it's always said in a way that implies something will go terribly wrong with my daughter if I don't. I think people who didn't allow themselves to have that close relationship with their children have a wrong perception of what it's all about. On the radio the other day they were talking about the 'problem' of having your children coming to your bed every night. I just thought: why is that a problem? I'm sure as time goes by there'll be more and more comments. I don't really care as long as my partner stays supportive.

Heather - posted on 01/23/2011

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yeah, i get some nice off-hand remarks from my mother too. my kid's 1 year now, is still bf on demand and co-sleeps with us. she doesn't get it. my husband and i have talked a lot about it and basically, this is our kid and we're trying to do what's best for him. the outside judgements you have to let go of, even if they're from the inner circle.

Misty - posted on 01/22/2011

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my son is two he still bf and sleeps with me. go untill you want to stop or your child does. most people who say things like that have never done bf or coslept

Jeanine - posted on 01/22/2011

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my first dd bf and coslept for over 3 years, now she's six and her ls is 13mos, sometimes we have the whole house in our bed lol but it is worth it! my husband and i work and sometimes sleeping together is the only time we have - i think it really helps the girls to feel secure!!!

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Other than a few times in the first couple of months, I never co-slept w/ my twins. I'm not actually a fan of 'the family bed' idea. That being said.... my 22 month old has spent most of his life in my bed. He doesn't have a room of his own and it's just what works for us. I'm fine co-sleeping w/ him, but it never would have happened if my ex didn't bail when he was born.

I nursed my twins for 15 months and am still nursing my son.

My 'advice' is to do whatever is best for your family regardless of what anyone else has to say about it.

I have gotten the occasional question (not in probably close to 6 months though) of when I will wean my son. I simply answered that I don't have a plan yet (since I don't) and that was the end of the conversation. My family, my business. :)

Christine - posted on 01/26/2010

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I catch a lot of flack from my in laws too. And my own mother and sister, for that matter! I plan to just keep doing what I do and just not talk about it with any of them.

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I definately want to bf for a while longer my husband said I would bf till he was 18 if it was normal....haha! I would like to bf at least till 16months thats my plan!! Thanks for the advice!

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We only co-sleep part time but I haven't even thought about when we're going to stop. I imagine we'll allow our son to come into our bed whenever he needs to for as long as he needs to. I would encourage you to BF for a year minimum but it's entirely up to you. I have chosen to let my son self-wean. He's 13 months now.

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I would recommend breastfeeding for as long as you can or until 12 months. Your family is probably just jealous because they can not feed your baby I know that this is what my family experienced. I still breastfeed and my daughter is 11 months. My daughter sleeps with us also but just this past week we are tranisitioning her into her crib. She is doing really well with it and sleeping through the night.

Good luck to you and keep up your breastfeeding if that is what you desire!

Shelley - posted on 01/26/2010

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And about slack from family members i think from the moment the baby was born my in laws have had a problem with something i do i have a strange feeling this will never change good luck and remember to do what you think is best

Shelley - posted on 01/26/2010

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hi i don't co sleep but i would definatly reccoment bf to at least 12 months and to 2 years if you and baby can

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